Watching Mad Men has made me slightly nostalgic (well as “nostalgic” as I can be for an era in which I wasn’t even a zygote) for the days when people drank at 9am (at work too!), men wore suits every day, and women rocked brooches and perfectly coiffed up-do’s. But it also has made me think about traditional gender roles, particularly the role of the woman in the home — cooking, cleaning, attending to the social calendar, and raising the children. Now that women are largely active and succeeding in the work force, “women’s work” has become something that a lot of women don’t want to do, have to do, or know how to do. While I love to cook and cleaning is my OCD vice, I can’t sew to save my life and wouldn’t know what to do when it came to making a table centerpiece. Catherine can’t cook and doesn’t have an interest in learning — but because so many of our mothers still fit these roles when we were growing up, do modern men still expect their future wives to nurture in the same way, despite having careers outside the home? In a nutshell, will Catherine’s future hubby be letdown when she tells him, “Sorry mister, I am not going to learn how to cook your mother’s famous tuna casserole”? I decided to ask the guys on my IM whether they still expect modern women to be “domestically skilled”. Keep reading »
Last week I guest hosted Maxim Radio on Sirius and one of the topics we covered was whether men find it unattractive when women curse or use words like “douchebag” — it was unclear from the calls we got whether men stand firmly on either side, so I decided to ask the guys on my IM the same question. Do men really think a woman saying the f-word is unattractive or is a lady with a truck driver’s mouth even hotter because of her profane language? Their answers, after the %$#&ing jump… Keep reading »
We’ve all been seduced, but have you ever done the seducing? I have, and I am not going to recount the details here, but let’s just say it involved a pitcher of beer, a brick wall, and some serious guts. I think we’re always hearing women’s seduction stories — how that one guy totally put that awesome Journey song on the jukebox and asked you to dance, blah, blah, blah — but I am far more interested in hearing about the women after my own heart who took the reins and did the wooing herself. After the jump, the guys on my IM have got some stories to tell… Keep reading »
I have this theory that if I had had sexual relations with my fiance on the first date, rather than, um, later down the line (hi, future in-laws!), we would probably not be getting married, because we probably wouldn’t have had a second date. Not to make my fiance sound like an a-hole, because he really is not, but he definitely, at that single guy period of his life, was intrigued by my insistence that we take it slow. If we had slept together right away, there wouldn’t have been an excuse to see me again — like a lot of horny dudes, I’m sure he was initially interested in me for my amazingly hot body (kidding!), and, you know, a dash of my winning personality and intelligence. I know there’s a theory floating from woman to woman which says that, if you’re actually interested in a guy for more than just sex, you should wait to sleep with him until the third date — women, and I am totally generalizing here, think men lose interest if you sleep with them before that third date and also lose interest if you wait longer than that. Curious to see if this is true at all and if women give men enough credit, I decided to ask a few of the guys on my IM. And ladies? You can sleep with these dudes whenever you want. It’s clear that first date, third date, 50th date, they are down.
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Maybe this is naive of me, but I had no idea that men felt so passionately about masturbation — dudes responded in droves to our list of songs about self-love, and a little bitterly, I might add. So obviously, this got my frisky mind working and it seemed like the perfect opportunity to talk to the guys on our IM about their own masturbation habits. We have a couple newbies joining us (including one who didn’t even want an alias), and two of our regulars wanted to be completely anonymous. Guess guys are a little shy when it comes to dishing about diddling. Their responses to my nosy questions, after the jump… Keep reading »
[Reese Witherspoon, her ex Ryan Phillippe, and Ryan's girlfriend Abbie Cornish]
Thinking about Friday’s slideshow of celebrities and their “types”, I got to thinking about the guys on my IM and whether they stuck with the same type of gal, either in relationships or casual hookups. Previous to the man-friend, I sort of went for emotional musician/writer types — and still occasionally get a little fire in my belly for guys like them (sorry honey!) — but discovered that true love comes when you open your mind to someone outside your usual desires (and other such Hallmark sentiments). Additionally, I was curious what types of women the average guy would cheat with — someone similar to his girlfriend, or her complete opposite in personality and looks? Their responses, after the jump… Keep reading »
Recently, I rambled about The Big Switcheroo – men and women adopting each other’s worst gender behaviors. The diatribe was equal parts self-indulgence and genuine confusion. Are men really becoming needy, emotional leeches and women emotionally void predators? I suppose no one said the collective lurch towards equality was going to be pretty. And I’d like to add that it seems no one is really having any fun. It’s never fun being someone who you’re not.
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On Friday, we heard that Reggie Bush wants Kim Kardashian to lose weight because she has too much junk in the trunk. It seems a trend is developing…either that or men are losing their dang minds. Chris Brown reportedly told Rihanna to stop wearing revealing outfits. Apparently, he is worried her clothing will attract too many male admirers. But isn’t that the point? Let’s be honest, the whole appeal of Rihanna is her image. [Her songs are pretty catchy too! -- Ed.] Young women want to copy her style, and young men want her on their arm. If you take away the racy stage costumes, what is left besides a pretty face? Rihanna, who has not confirmed her relationship with Chris, should get herself a more mature man who is more trusting and actually appreciates the work she puts into her look. [China Daily]
But all this got us thinking…would the guys on our IM ever be so judgmental of their girlfriends’ fashion choices? Amelia finds out, after the jump… Keep reading »
So, one of the gossip items making the rounds today is that Jake Gyllenhaal has to live by all sorts of CUH-RAZY rules now that he is living with Reese Witherspoon and her kids. Stuff like not putting his feet on the coffee table and being openly communicative all the time. The jist of the story is that Reese is, like, a mega-dominant partner and Jake’s got to be submissive — and that he likes it that way. But it got me thinking about the dudes on my IM and whether they play the role of dominant or submissive in their relationships — in and out of the bedroom. Their responses and a tangent about gender roles, after the jump… Keep reading »
Women are emotionally-vacant pigs and men are emotionally-unstable psychos.
Wait. That’s not right.
But it is in so many ways. Welcome to the new millennium, boys and girls, where gender equality means “let’s adopt the worst of each other’s stereotypes.” It’s a madcap race to the bottom rung of the sexual identity ladder. Wheee! Keep reading »