Oooh, cool: filmmaker Therese Shechter is making a documentary about all things virginal, aptly called “How To Lose Your Virginity.” Shechter posted a trailer online and it looks like “How To Lose Your Virginity” covers virginity pledges, the purity ring iPhone app, those creepy “purity balls,” and even Miley Cyrus’ alleged abstinence pledge. Please tell us Kevin Jonas’ glorious princess wedding / inaugural cherry-popping will be featured prominently, too? Keep reading »
“To be honest about it, sex was not worth the wait. After we did it, I was kind of like, that’s it?”
– Newlywed Kevin Jonas on finally getting to bump uglies for the first time with his new wife at a press conference [Huffington Post]
UPDATE: Soooo, apparently the dude who wrote about this on HuffPo, Andy Borowitz, is some sort of “comedian” and making up quotes like this is part of his idea of “humor.” The funny thing is I fell for it, because it does not seem so crazy to think a Jonas Brother would find sex to be meh. So, yeah, sorry folks. HAPPY HOLIDAYS! Keep reading »
I felt really awful for this guy who wrote to Chicago Sun Times columnist Cheryl Lavin looking for help. Basic gist of his letter? He’s a 35-year-old virgin who just wants to “get the monkey off his back.” Fine if it’s a religious or moral choice, but sadly for this dude, it is not. So what did Cheryl suggest for this sexless man?
“I have a feeling your unhappiness over your virginity is inhibiting you with woman. What if you went at it the other way? What if you lost your virginity first, then tried to have a connection with a woman? Your whole personality on a date might blossom. Prostitution is legal in some counties in Nevada. And even where it’s illegal, it’s widespread.”
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I’d thought purity balls—dances when tween and teen girls pledge to their fathers that they’ll stay virgins until marriage—were paternalistic and super-creepy for the girls. But, apparently, they are equal-opportunity paternalistic and creepy. The Tennessean interviewed parents Julian and Valerie Head, of Franklin, Tennessee, who are hosting a purity ball at their home for their 9- and 6-year-old sons, where the boys will make a virginity pledge with their dad. Yeah, these poor boys are 9 and 6.
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Many women aren’t aware that just as there are emotional stages of acceptance of death, there are emotional stages of acceptance of sex. When men lose their virginity, they experience a remarkably similar set of emotions.
Here’s a look at the various stages that men go through when losing their virginity, drawing on my own terribly awkward experience. Keep reading »
Jessica Valenti posed an interesting question over at Feministing this week — should we be encouraging women (and men) to have pre-marital sex? She argues that yes, we should, writing:
“Because, let’s face it — if you’re going to commit yourself to someone for (presumably) the rest of your life, it’s probably best if you know that you’re sexually compatible … Do I think that people can have perfectly wonderful satisfying relationships without having had sex before making a commitment? Sure, I’m positive that happens often. But considering what a huge role sexuality plays in our lives and relationships … well, I’d rather be super duper positive.”
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Tina Fey, poster child for the abstinence movement? Naaaah. She was just homely, the 30 Rock star told David Letterman last night. (Sorry, Sarah Palin.)
Even though Tina held onto her V-card until the ripe old age of 24, this story’s got a sweet ending! The fabulous Ms. Fey ended up having her daughter with the guy who took her virginity: her husband. How old-fashioned! Keep reading »
This week, I got a letter from a lady who has an itch she’s been meaning to get scratched. She just can’t quite seem to reach it.
I have a dilemma and am looking for some advice. I’m 28 years old and still a virgin. It isn’t something that I planned, and I find it a bit embarrassing. I dated the same guy all through college, but at first I just wasn’t ready yet. Even once I personally was ready, I knew that having my first time be with him wasn’t probably the best idea. (We were complicated, angsty, and breaking up/getting back together all the time, and I felt like having sex with him would just complicate things further.) I dated a guy for quite a while after college whom I wanted to sleep with. We had great chemistry, and plus I was really ready by then. He told me he didn’t want to because he “didn’t want to be the jerk who took it from me,” and eventually he cheated on me. It took a little while to recover from that, and I didn’t even date for a while.
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Girls who grew up without fathers at home tend to be early bloomers in the sex department compared with those whose fathers lived with them. Researchers have been trying to figure out the reason for this for years. Is it because there’s no watchful eye looking over them and keeping them in line? Is it a natural response that happens even in the animal world (that when a strange male, i.e., a stepfather or stepbrother, is around, girls grow up more quickly)?
Now, new analysis of data from the American National Longitudinal Survey of Youth offers another suggestion. Jane Mendle of the University of Oregon looked at NLSY surveys, which asked mothers a variety of questions, including whether the father of their children lived with them. The children of these women were asked questions starting at age 14, and, among other things, they were asked whether they’d engaged in sexual intercourse yet. Mendle and her colleagues compared cousins’ ages of first sexual intercourse — some of whom had their father living in their home and others who did not — to see whether early sexual activity could be genetic. Keep reading »