Dating, though full of ups and downs and highs and lows, is something that most of us do to find that special person who thinks you’re a lovely creature even after oral surgery, when your face is swollen and you’re drooling on the pillowcase every night for a week. When dating leads to marriage, some will enter into married life with a fair share of sexual experiences under their La Perla thongs. Maybe your love life looked something like this: a nerve-wracked first date, an optimistic second date, and a third date that began with telling your girlfriends, “I will not sleep with him,” and ended with you waking up next to a guy with a back mole that freaked you out, staring at the ceiling, thinking, “Why did I sleep with him?”
Despite the regret that comes from sleeping with various Mr. Wrongs, there’s a plus side to sowing your wild oats, like not wondering “shoulda, coulda, woulda.” On the flip side, there are plenty of ladies out there who save themselves for The One, resolute in the belief that anyone worth spending eternity with is worth waiting for until “I do.” Of course, there are those who, by nothing more than coincidence, end up marrying the first person they slept with. I posed the question to a group of both sexually active folks and those who waited for Mr. Right, and got some very thoughtful (and funny) responses. Keep reading »
In some cultures, the word “hymen” could use a little re-branding — so the Swedish Association for Sexual Education is renaming it! The Nordic org is publishing literature in English, Arabic and Sorani Kurdish that refers to that little piece of tissue as the “vaginal crown” or “vaginal corona” and provides diagrams and info explaining that not having a hymen when one first has sex doesn’t mean one is not a virgin. The group hopes that more education on the hymen — er, the “vaginal crown” — will have an effect on the number of so-called “honor killings,” when male members of a family murder a woman who has had sex out of wedlock or even associated with a man who is not socially approved by her culture.
The Frisky is pretty happy to live in a place where having a hymen on our wedding night is not a life or death situation. But we couldn’t help but get the ol’ wheels turning when it comes to renaming the hymen. After the jump, some suggestions that were probably rejected … Keep reading »
Japan has revolutionized robots, animation, and video games. But get a load of their latest entertainment product: a virgin sex doll, complete with a pop-able hymen! Oozing red lotion refills included, so every time you make sweet love stick it in, she’ll get fake blood all over your sheets. Sexy! The name of the product is so dirty, I can’t type it, but I can tell you the price, $95 on Jlist.com. And her back door is open for business too, bonus! But for the record, if you’re a virgin and you have sex with a doll, you’re still a virgin. One more photo, after the jump… Keep reading »
The Frisky staff got into a discussion the other day about what kind of music gets us in the mood — we’ll share our list with you a little later — and it prompted me to ask them all the question: What music was playing when you lost your V-card? Wow, I didn’t realize I’d be opening such a can of worms! Check out our (pretty funny) answers after the jump and give us yours in the comments. And sure, you can try to guess which staffer said what, but our lips are remaining sealed! Keep reading »
We were aware and appropriately disturbed by the trend of girls auctioning off their virginity to make some extra greenbacks. But after 22-year-old college grad Natalie Dylan sold her unpopped cherry to pay for grad school for a whopping $3.7 million, she changed the virginity game altogether. Her little scheme did not go unnoticed by poor, virginal schoolgirls everywhere. Now a 19-year-old New Zealand virgin, going by the name of “Ungirl,” has followed in Natalie’s footsteps. After receiving 1,200 bids on her purity, she accepted an offer for about $32K, which she says was “way beyond what I dreamed.” Hey, it’s no 3.7 million, but it should cover books. After the jump, some other girls who sold their V-card to pay for school in recent months. [Telegraph] Keep reading »
Virginity documentaries: they’re hot right now. A few weeks ago we reported on an upcoming documentary, “How To Lose Your Virginity,” by filmmaker Therese Shechter. But tonight at 11p.m. (EST), VH1 joins in with an episode called “The New Virginity” for VH1 News. The program focuses mostly on the virgins of pop culture — the Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus, Donna Martin on 90210, etc. — and the hypocrisy of their at-times-sexual public persona with their alleged chastity vows. It will also explain creepy practices like abstinence pledges and purity balls to those of us lucky enough not to get roped into them. Plus, Jessica Valenti, author of The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession With Virginity Is Hurting Young Women and one of the co-founders of Feministing, will be featured as an expert — that’s reason enough to watch! [VH1]
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Oooh, cool: filmmaker Therese Shechter is making a documentary about all things virginal, aptly called “How To Lose Your Virginity.” Shechter posted a trailer online and it looks like “How To Lose Your Virginity” covers virginity pledges, the purity ring iPhone app, those creepy “purity balls,” and even Miley Cyrus’ alleged abstinence pledge. Please tell us Kevin Jonas’ glorious princess wedding / inaugural cherry-popping will be featured prominently, too? Keep reading »
“To be honest about it, sex was not worth the wait. After we did it, I was kind of like, that’s it?”
– Newlywed Kevin Jonas on finally getting to bump uglies for the first time with his new wife at a press conference [Huffington Post]
UPDATE: Soooo, apparently the dude who wrote about this on HuffPo, Andy Borowitz, is some sort of “comedian” and making up quotes like this is part of his idea of “humor.” The funny thing is I fell for it, because it does not seem so crazy to think a Jonas Brother would find sex to be meh. So, yeah, sorry folks. HAPPY HOLIDAYS! Keep reading »
I felt really awful for this guy who wrote to Chicago Sun Times columnist Cheryl Lavin looking for help. Basic gist of his letter? He’s a 35-year-old virgin who just wants to “get the monkey off his back.” Fine if it’s a religious or moral choice, but sadly for this dude, it is not. So what did Cheryl suggest for this sexless man?
“I have a feeling your unhappiness over your virginity is inhibiting you with woman. What if you went at it the other way? What if you lost your virginity first, then tried to have a connection with a woman? Your whole personality on a date might blossom. Prostitution is legal in some counties in Nevada. And even where it’s illegal, it’s widespread.”
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I’d thought purity balls—dances when tween and teen girls pledge to their fathers that they’ll stay virgins until marriage—were paternalistic and super-creepy for the girls. But, apparently, they are equal-opportunity paternalistic and creepy. The Tennessean interviewed parents Julian and Valerie Head, of Franklin, Tennessee, who are hosting a purity ball at their home for their 9- and 6-year-old sons, where the boys will make a virginity pledge with their dad. Yeah, these poor boys are 9 and 6.
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