I’ve been seeing this guy for a bit now. The only thing we’ve done is kissing (no touching) and I’ve never invited him over to my apartment (for fear of him initiating sexual activities). I like him a lot and I see a potential relationship with him. However, I made a decision to abstain from sexual relationships due to my religion, but also I just don’t think I’m ready to be sexually intimate. I’m not sure if I I’d like to remain abstinent until marriage yet, but I definitely couldn’t be intimate with someone after only a couple of months. I’m afraid that when we finally discuss this he will leave, but at the same time I think there is a need to address it. I’m just not sure how to bring it up or when it would be appropriate. I’m 20 years old and he is 26. I was brought up in a very conservative country and he is more liberal. He recently moved to NYC (four hours away) for a job offer, but he comes back every weekend or so since he still has an apartment here. He has asked me to go visit him next weekend, but I’m afraid about sleeping arrangements so I haven’t said yes. — Not Willing to Give It Up
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I sat at the airport, waiting to board Virgin Airlines flight 451 traveling non-stop to my sunny destination … to a friend’s wedding. I exhaled. It had been too long since I had been on a real vacation. All my vacation days seem to be designated to other people’s weddings. In the terminal, I replayed the fantasy I’ve always had that one lucky time in my life I would end up seated next to a hot man on a plane, all the planets would align, and we would join the illustrious Mile-High Club. Maybe I could even take him as my wedding date. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Twenty-Something Virgin,” the young woman who worried she blew her one chance to get laid when she turned down a friend’s suggestion that they have sex. I suggested she at least give a relationship with the guy a shot — if that was possibly of interest to them both — and see where things went from there. So, is she seeing the guy? Is she still a virgin? Find out all after the jump. Keep reading »
I’m in my early twenties and still a virgin, sort of by choice, but also because I was never asked out when I was younger. This past weekend, I reconnected with an old male friend who admitted to having liked me in the past, but the timing between us was off. We started talking about sex, and I turned him down, telling him I didn’t think I was ready, and I wasn’t in love with him. He was a great guy about it. But now, I think I’m regretting saying no. I’m starting to panic thinking that I just turned down my only chance, as it’s not like I’m beating away men with a stick. I have recently lost a lot of weight, so maybe things will change, but I still don’t seem to have guys running up to talk to me. Also, it’s the fact that I’m in my early twenties, and I’m feeling like I let time run away from me and I can’t stop it. The last thing I want is to become the female version of the 40-Year-Old Virgin. Do I call him and get it over with, as it were? Am I seriously doomed as I think I am because of my age? And how do I stop worrying so much? — Twenty-Something Virgin
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear two quick updates from “ED Doesn’t Spell End,” whose new boyfriend was experiencing some erectile dysfunction and, as a result, pulling away from her, and “Against Premarital Sex,” who wondered when she should tell the new guy she was dating that she didn’t believe in sex or living together before marriage. Find out how these ladies are doing, after the jump. Keep reading »
Scottish woman, Isabella Blyth, is a happy, spunky centenarian. At 106 years young, Isabella has yet to lose her v-card, or even kiss a man for that matter. She attributes her longevity and happiness to never having been romantically involved with anyone. Keep reading »
Billboards have been popping up nationwide forcing motorists to ponder the question, “Still a virgin?” Well, some don’t seem too open to responding, because already local politicians and news networks are demanding that the cheeky advertisements be taken down. But, uh, what are they for? Keep reading »
Oh boy, guys. There’s a new movie coming out in September about a topic that’s never been explored onscreen before: teen boys losing their virginity!
“The Virginity Hit” stars a lovable dork who’s just dying to lose his V-card and … wait … you say this topic has been explored before? How many times in the past?
Ohhhh. Hmm. Keep reading »
- The lengths women will go through to seem “pure”: an increasing number of sexually active young Chinese women are getting a surgical “hymen restoration” so they appear to be virgins on their wedding night. A “hymen restoration” costs about $700 and involves a half hour of surgery. [Washington Post]
- Miss Universe contestants caused a stir posing topless in body paint in promotions for the pageant. Because, you know, beauty pageants aren’t supposed to be about people’s bodies or anything. [Huffington Post]
- Health experts say low-income immigrant women are using the abortion pill RU-486 illicitly, because they can purchase the pills for as little as $20 off the street when they cannot afford a doctor’s visit to have them prescribed. According to the February 2010 of the journal Contraception, the median cost for a first-trimester abortion is $430. [ABC News]
I’m 24 and my boyfriend of two years is 25. When we began dating he told me he had slept with his long-term ex-girlfriend before we got together, and I told him that I had slept with my ex-boyfriend. After we had been having sex for a couple months, he confessed that he had actually been a virgin when he first slept with me, explaining that his ex wanted to wait until marriage. After the initial shock wore off, I understood he was embarrassed about it, and eventually forgave him for lying. However, now that things are getting serious, I’m worried that if we get married he will always regret not sleeping with someone other than me. I discussed my concerns with him, and he explained that he had plenty of opportunities to have sex before he met me, but he isn’t comfortable having one-night-stands, and wouldn’t have sex with someone who wasn’t his girlfriend. This negates the possibility of us breaking up for a short period of time so he can have his fun and come back to me, and means that I would have to break up with him and wait for him to find someone, build a relationship, have sex, and have the relationship fail (or maybe not!). I’m not willing to wait years for him to do all of this just so he can get another notch on his belt. Is it really possible he will be happy having the same partner his whole life? — Cherry Popper