It is an indisputable fact that I’m a perfectionist. I obsess over the most minute and tangential details. I ruminate on the inane. I become so preoccupied with the particulars that I lose sight of the big picture. Whoever coined the phrase, “You can’t see the forest for the trees” was definitely referring to someone like me.
My first time having sex, however, caught me more than a little off guard. Despite my best laid plans—plans that involved losing my virginity in a suite at the Ritz to someone of Jared Leto caliber—it happened spontaneously, and I had no control over the details. When my crush whipped out the condom he’d been trying to use on me for the last six months, I surprised both of us when, this time, I didn’t say no. Keep reading »
Need a gift for your dad for Father’s Day? Good luck with that, because I’m certainly not going to suggest you buy Pops this T-shirt from Urban Outfitters, even if it’s on sale for $4.99. Although, I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised that the retailer is rather wonkadoodle with their political and cultural point-of-view — they did sell a T-shirt in the color “Obama/Black.” While I suspect this T is supposed to be, ahem, “ironically sexist,” it grosses me out that Urban is happy to make money off of ha-ha-misogyny, but finds real social issues to be too “controversial” — they refused to sell a T-shirt that said “I Support Marriage Equality.” Lame, Urbs. Lame. [Feministing] Keep reading »
“I was always a little attracted to women that were a little older than me. I even lost my virginity to an older lady. …. I actually ended up crying at the end of the whole ordeal. She was in high school and I was in junior high …we were in a sleeping bag … I said we should change positions, she was like “just get off me!” She ran into the bathroom with all of her friends and they were in there laughing … I vowed from that day forward no woman would ever laugh at me in the sack again and that’s when the ‘Cannon’ was born!”
– Nick Cannon on losing his virginity to an older woman — no, not Mariah Carey! — on “Lopez Tonight” [via Crushable] Keep reading »
There I was, minding my own business on Monday night, when I noticed “Jenny Humphrey” from “Gossip Girl” became a trending topic on Twitter, i.e., something everyone is tweeting about. Jenny Humphrey, of course, is the precocious 16-year-old budding fashion designer from Brooklyn, played by Taylor Momsen. With her older brother, Dan, young Jenny attends a fancy Upper East Side prep school; she just wants to be accepted by the rich kids, who dismiss her as a social climber. I clicked on the trending topic and saw hundreds of tweets saying things like, “Jenny Humphrey is a ho!” and “I hate Jenny Humphrey, she’s such a skank!”
Clearly, this involved further investigation. Keep reading »
Sex has always been painful for me. Since the day I lost my virginity at the age of 16, having sex has hurt. The first few times the pain was almost unbearable, but that didn’t strike me as terribly unusual; I knew that losing your virginity often hurt and, frankly, I was just grateful that I didn’t bleed, which would’ve meant sneaking into the laundry in the dead of night to scrub my sheets. I knew that first-time sex would hurt, and wasn’t surprised when the second and third time hurt as well. I figured it would take time for my body to get used to what was going on, and for me and my boyfriend to figure it out, too. For something that’s supposedly the most natural thing two people can do, sex sure takes a lot of maneuvering, negotiating and post-game analysis. After a few tries, I thought, it would start feeling good. Keep reading »