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Today’s Lady News: China’s “Fake Virgins” Are On The Rise

  • The lengths women will go through to seem “pure”: an increasing number of sexually active young Chinese women are getting a surgical “hymen restoration” so they appear to be virgins on their wedding night. A “hymen restoration” costs about $700 and involves a half hour of surgery. [Washington Post]
  • Miss Universe contestants caused a stir posing topless in body paint in promotions for the pageant. Because, you know, beauty pageants aren’t supposed to be about people’s bodies or anything. [Huffington Post]
  • Health experts say low-income immigrant women are using the abortion pill RU-486 illicitly, because they can purchase the pills for as little as $20 off the street when they cannot afford a doctor’s visit to have them prescribed. According to the February 2010 of the journal Contraception, the median cost for a first-trimester abortion is $430. [ABC News]

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Dear Wendy: “I Was My Boyfriend’s First. Will He Leave Me To Experiment?”

I’m 24 and my boyfriend of two years is 25. When we began dating he told me he had slept with his long-term ex-girlfriend before we got together, and I told him that I had slept with my ex-boyfriend. After we had been having sex for a couple months, he confessed that he had actually been a virgin when he first slept with me, explaining that his ex wanted to wait until marriage. After the initial shock wore off, I understood he was embarrassed about it, and eventually forgave him for lying. However, now that things are getting serious, I’m worried that if we get married he will always regret not sleeping with someone other than me. I discussed my concerns with him, and he explained that he had plenty of opportunities to have sex before he met me, but he isn’t comfortable having one-night-stands, and wouldn’t have sex with someone who wasn’t his girlfriend. This negates the possibility of us breaking up for a short period of time so he can have his fun and come back to me, and means that I would have to break up with him and wait for him to find someone, build a relationship, have sex, and have the relationship fail (or maybe not!). I’m not willing to wait years for him to do all of this just so he can get another notch on his belt. Is it really possible he will be happy having the same partner his whole life? — Cherry Popper

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Dear Wendy: “He Wants To Wait Until Marriage, But I Don’t!”

I’m almost 20, and I have been dating my current boyfriend, who’s 21, for almost a year now, and even though it hasn’t been that long, I feel like he is “the one.” Before him, I was never able to stick around in a relationship for more than a month, and any talk of anything even remotely related to the future would send me running off. But imagining a life with him is one of the easiest things, and he’s told me he can see himself marrying me, having kids, and retiring and spending the rest of our lives together. Everything’s perfect except he’s a faithful Christian and wants to wait until marriage for actual penetration, although he’s fine with everything else, including oral sex. And the problem is, I’ve always told myself that I would not wait until then. This isn’t a matter of whether or not I love him enough to stay with him, to wait for him — I simply cannot imagine entering a marriage without knowing if I am compatible in that sense, because I know that I don’t want to get a divorce. I probably would not be able to live with myself if I managed to persuade him, especially if he regretted it afterward, but I also cannot imagine us having a life together if I don’t know that we’re sexually compatible. What should I do? — Lose-Lose Situation

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Quotable: Michael Cera Talks Virginity Loss

“To be honest I don’t remember too much about it. All I remember is I had been awake for almost 86 hours, I was on the roof of a Public Storage building in what seemed to be a freezing rainstorm, and Crispin Glover was there with a disposable camera he kept winding even though it had clearly run out of exposures. My memory of it has fogged as time has gone by, and I’ve pushed it out of my mind, though I do seem to remember something about a plastic Academy Award for best grandson being involved. You might say it was my first brush with the finer side of show business.”

Michael Cera has a creative answer for Playboy about how he lost his virginity. Can anyone top it? [via Huffington Post] Keep reading »

Can You Spot A Male Virgin By His Ears?

While women have historically been subjected to all sorts of poking and prodding to see if their innocence is still intact, there has been no such comparable test for men. Until now. A woman in Vietnam claims to have a simple way to determine if a man still has his V-card. Pham Thi Hong, a medical practitioner in Hanoi, claims that men who are virgins have small red spots on the backs of their ears that disappear once they’ve done the deed. Oooookay. I wonder if there’s a scientific reason for that. And if so, why are we just hearing about this now? Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “No Sex And No Porn. Am I Asking Too Much?

For my own reasons — brought about through a mix of morality and contemplation about my mental and emotional needs — I’ve decided to save myself for marriage. I’m still young with plenty of time to explore relationships. I don’t expect the man I’m with to be a virgin, however, I do expect him to wait for me while we’re dating. I also don’t want my boyfriend to watch porn. It’s something I’ve put a lot of thought into, done a lot of research on, and have very strong opinions about. I have absolutely no problem with masturbation, though. Is it fair to ask a man to both not have sex with you and not watch porn? I’ve talked with my male friends, and they say it’s ridiculous. They say very few men will wait for sex, and an even smaller minority won’t indulge in porn. They say the ones who don’t are usually emotionally, mentally, or sexually stunted in some way. I know I would be very hurt and, at least on some level, unhappy if I couldn’t have both of these things in a man, but I’ve begun to wonder if it’s even possible. — Moral High Road

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