This “Don’t Get Raped” public service announcement seems like pretty great satire from a bunch of college (high school?) kids. Well, until you remember “advice” like this is pretty much what launched the SlutWalk protests in the first place. Don’t dress like a slut. Don’t drink. Don’t flirt. Don’t hook up. Instead of teaching men not to coerce or force women into sex, it’s much easier to police women’s behavior by telling them everything in this video in all seriousness. [Vimeo]
Michael Sam, a football player who recently graduated from the University of Missouri, publicly came out as gay in a video posted to The New York Times’ website this weekend. “I’m coming out now because I want to own my truth,” Sam said. “I didn’t want anyone to break a story without me telling it. … I can’t tell society to agree with this or not agree with this, but hopefully society will rally around this and support me, too. ”
As Missouri’s most valuable player and one of the top defensive linemen in college football, the 24-year-old Texan is expected to be an early-round NFL draft pick. He would be the first-ever openly gay player in the NFL. Keep reading »
I can only hope that at the age of 100, I still have my best friend around to gossip about pop culture phenomena in the year 2079. Irene and Alice, who have been BFFs for 94 (!) years, appeared on “The Steve Harvey Show” this week to share their incisive observations on things like selfies (“where you take a picture of yourself and put it on Facebook”), twerking (nothing like the “1, 2, 3 shuffle”) and Justin Bieber (“he’s not doing something right”). Couldn’t have said it better myself. [Thought Catalogue]
Ravijour, a Japanese lingerie brand, has created a bra that only unlocks when its wearer is in true love. I can’t make this stuff up. The bra, called the True Love Tester, “protects” you from players at the bar or from moving too fast with someone you don’t totally like. Essentially, it’s a purity bra. No fun allowed unless he’s the one, otherwise, that lingerie stays put. Sure, it’s questionable on an ideological level (what’s wrong with hooking up with people you’re not in love with?), but it’s also practically rocket science. Keep reading »
“The Notebook” may be a favorite this time of year, but after 10 years (yes, 10!), it’s due for an upgrade. Like, say, kittens recreating its greatest moments. Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams may be easy on the eyes, but I guarantee that this feline version of the film will leave you much happier than the end of the original movie. Meow! [Laughing Squid]
We don’t live in a world where men experience the same day-to-day sexist micro-aggressions that women do. But “Oppressed Majority,” a short French film by Elénore Pourriat, does a pretty good job illustrating it. Pierre is a father and husband who lives in France. Going about his day, he’s catcalled on the street by women and on the receiving end of casually sexist remarks — as well as doling sexist remarks out to his child’s caretaker, a Muslim man wearing a veil. It goes from bad to worse when he’s sexually assaulted by a group of women while alone in an alleyway. No one should have to be treated the way Pierre is by the police or his partner. But millions of women are treated exactly like this every day. Pourriat’s short film is a simple, yet impactful, conduit for showing what women and girls experience in our supposedly “equal” society. It’s only 11 minutes long but well-worth watching. [YouTube via BuzzFeed]
Last night, Piers Morgan had trans advocate and author Janet Mock back on his show for a followup “interview” after her appearance the night before ignited controversy on Twitter and across the blogosphere. The first interview, which aired Tuesday night, featured a chyron at the bottom of the screen which misgendered Mock as having been a boy for 18 years; Morgan also misgendered Mock a few times during the interview, and repeatedly asked questions that focused on Mock’s surgery as when she became “a real woman.” To quote Avital Norman Nathman in her post on the subject yesterday, “That is not only incredibly reductive regarding gender, but missed the entire point of Mock’s new memoir, Redefining Realness: My Path To Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More about her road to girlhood, which began far earlier than one moment in Thailand at age 18.”
After the pre-taped interview aired, Mock tweeted a few criticisms about the segment and where it went wrong. Her supporters and fellow trans people also tweeted their complaints to Morgan’s attention, but instead of engaging with that criticism in a thoughtful manner, recognizing his mistakes and apologizing for misgendering Mock, Morgan was dismissive of criticism because, in his view, all it means to be an ally is saying you’re one.
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