I’m back from a girlfriend getaway in paradise. Traveling with a best friend off the beaten path awakened joy in me and soothed my soul, but it also left me wondering: Why can’t I capture that sense of fun and wonder in everyday life? Why do I feel so stuck here in Boston, yet I was free as a bird in Mexico?
One idea: I took off my wedding ring while traveling. I think my naked ring finger gave rise to more open responses and deeper interactions than I would have otherwise experienced. Keep reading »
When I mustered the courage to ask my husband of 16 years if he was having an affair, he looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “It was just an escape. It will be over with one phone call. You and I are still going to grow old together.” I accepted this explanation. He was crying, for God’s sakes. And then there was that line about love in our retirement years. The performance was totally believable. Keep reading »
The beginning of a relationship can be a tricky course to navigate. Guys (like me) aren’t so good at guessing what women think or want, and our stupidity can lead to otherwise easily avoidable arguments. Setting some basic rules with your new flame may help you get past the small stuff and start enjoying your lives together.
Here are ten guidelines to smooth the road with your new beau. Keep reading »
I had always been sure I wanted to get married, and the longer I dated Dean, the more sure I was that he was the right one for me. That is … until I got engaged.
Dean’s proposal wasn’t a surprise. I was too nosy to not know it was happening, and I enthusiastically said yes the moment he asked. However, once it happened (in a sweet and thoughtful way, I should add), I began to feel these nagging questions eating away at me: Did I really want to be married? Would we be any good at it? Keep reading »
There are a few things most of us women have in common: We appreciate a decadent dessert, we love a clearance sale at our favorite store, and we all wouldn’t mind looking and feeling younger and healthier. Keep reading »
Not sure what to be this Halloween? We’ve pulled together 50 fun, original couples costumes. We’re not the only ones who can come up with great couples costumes, so leave us a comment and tell us how you and your partner have dressed up together in the past, or what you’re planning for this year. Keep reading »
So you’ve met Mr. Oh-So-Right, and you’re pretty sure he’s about to pop the question. Or maybe he already has, and you’re halfway done planning your wedding. You’ve been dreaming about married life and … stop right there. Keep reading »
I have a basic philosophy for women who are dating that I outline in my book, Why He Disappeared. It’s called mirroring. Basically, it means you don’t do anything unless he does it first. You don’t call. You don’t text. You don’t make plans. If he doesn’t make an effort, that just means he’s not very motivated to be your partner. Case closed. Frankly, I find mirroring to be close to foolproof. But nothing in life is perfect. It’s entirely possible that you can “do nothing” (as I advocate), and the man pulls away, saying “you don’t make enough of an effort for me.” Is that possible? Sure. But that doesn’t mean that you should stop mirroring. Keep reading »
Somewhere back there, I was left behind. It happened at my book club. When the group started, we were seven women who craved cheap wine more than Jhumpa Lahiri’s The Namesake.
The text was just an excuse to air our grievances: My mom and I are fighting; my boss hates me and I hate her; the new dog is too big for the old apartment; I ran into my ex; you’ll never believe what happened last night.
We drained our glasses and edited each other’s problems. Everything seemed more manageable with corrections. When it came time for Allison* to vent, the responses were different. She was married, her life doubled. Keep reading »
My naughty drawer is not what it once was. At the moment, it contains: a bullet vibrator; two smoothie vibrators; a baggie filled with review samples of 20 or so different types of personal lubricants; a bottle of my favorite scented massage oil; a vanilla sugar-scented massage candle; an I Rub My Duckie; a sleep mask I typically use only when I’m having trouble falling asleep; leather handcuffs; one gorgeous bit of lingerie; a bottle of BabeLube; the fertility-friendly lube I purchased for babymaking sex; and a ton of batteries. I keep a wide-tipped riding crop behind the bed, and a healthy collection of sexy how-tos on a shelf. Keep reading »