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What I Wish I’d Known Before I Got Married

So you’ve met Mr. Oh-So-Right, and you’re pretty sure he’s about to pop the question. Or maybe he already has, and you’re halfway done planning your wedding. You’ve been dreaming about married life and … stop right there. … More »


How To Know If A Guy Likes You

I have a basic philosophy for women who are dating that I outline in my book, Why He Disappeared. It’s called mirroring. Basically, it means you don’t do anything unless he does it first. You don’t call. You don’t text. You don’t make plans. If he doesn’t make an effort, that just means he’s not… More »


Don’t Be The “Single Friend”!

Somewhere back there, I was left behind. It happened at my book club. When the group started, we were seven women who craved cheap wine more than Jhumpa Lahiri’s The Namesake.

The text was just an excuse to air our grievances: My mom and I are fighting; my boss hates me and I hate… More »


Does Being A Sex Writer Make You Better At Talking About Sex?

My naughty drawer is not what it once was. At the moment, it contains: a bullet vibrator; two smoothie vibrators; a baggie filled with review samples of 20 or so different types of personal lubricants; a bottle of my favorite scented massage oil; a vanilla sugar-scented massage candle; an I Rub My Duckie; a sleep… More »


What You Should Know Before You Get Married

Choosing to marry someone is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make, which is why we’ve previously let you in on the 9 secrets a healthy couple shouldn’t keep from each other if they plan to commit themselves to a lifelong relationship. These are the things you should share with each other in order… More »


I Told A Guy His Penis Was Too Small

I told him he had a tiny penis.

Well, if you want to be precise, I actually told him that his junk probably couldn’t hit my sexual “spot”—which isn’t much better, I suppose. … More »


How To Handle Your Relationship When Mercury Goes Retrograde

Something weird is in the air. Have you noticed it? Nothing seems to be going right. Important e-mails have been bounced. Your laptop or cell phone has gone kaput. Your love life seems to have taken a turn for the worst. You may have even been dumped. That thing you’ve been avoiding? Well, it’s come… More »


Is Your Marriage Different Than Your Mother’s?

I was always pretty resistant to marriage, but—because I looked up to my mother so much, because we were so close, and because I felt that she presented to me such a healthy version of both motherhood and long-term love—I ached for a traditional family. Now I’m almost 30, I recently celebrated my three-year wedding… More »


What To Do When He Can’t Get It Up

It happens to the best of men: arousal but no lift … interest but no erection. When a man can’t get it up, the experience for him and his partner falls somewhere between awkward and utterly mortifying—I’ve even heard of men not calling women back because they were so ashamed of their inability to keep… More »


10 Simple Things Men Want In A Relationship

It’s tempting to assume men only want two things: steak and sex.

Entire days are devoted to perpetuating these kinds of cliches, yet they are humorous for men because we’re amused that women assume this false notion is all we want. We’re quite complicated creatures, and although probably not as baffling as any space… More »


The Best Places To Have Sex

Changing the location of your sexcapades can add spice and variety, both of which are important. Since there are so many places and so little time, our friends Jennifer Hunt and Dan Baritchi of the Ask Dan and Jennifer sex advice site, have done the research for you in their new book 1,001 Best PlacesMore »


Confessions Of A Happy Housewife

Despite my best intentions, my marriage isn’t new or hip or trendy. I cook and clean. He does the lawn and the taxes. I sew curtains and decorate. He watches the budget and fixes the garbage disposal. It’s not that way because I am trying to reverse the women’s movement; it’s just that our marriage… More »


What Men Don’t Like About Single Women

Every day, single women devote countless hours to pondering the mystery of men. We analyze our behavior, their behavior, vocal nuances, hypothetical scenarios, even the punctuation of a text message, all in an effort to determine what they’re thinking, what they like and don’t like. When things go badly for no apparent reason, we meticulously… More »


How To Deal With Depression When You’re Trying To Get Pregnant

I try to divorce Michael at least once a month. I blame this on my PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or what I like to call “PMS on crack”), though I’ve also been diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety and, once, a psychopharmacologist told me I had obvious bipolar tendencies. Either way, I’m not the easiest… More »


How To Hit On A Co-Worker

Crushes, in general, can be a nail-biting emotional roller coaster but when you’re crushing on someone you have to see every work day, things can be extra tricky. On the plus side, you get to see them every day; on the down side, you have to see them every day.

With frequent opportunities… More »


One Dad Reveals How Being A Father Made Him A Better Husband

It’s time for me to confess: I’ve been seeing another woman.

No, she’s not a cocktail waitress or a nightclub promoter or a porn star, but she’s cute, has a killer smile and looks good in a dress. I’ve tried to rationalize the relationship as the inevitable by-product of a common stagnation period… More »


How To Get Out Of Bad Love Habits And Into A Relationship

So what’s a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that’s keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship.

The following are some common bad love habits: … More »


What I Learned The First Time I Had Sex

It is an indisputable fact that I’m a perfectionist. I obsess over the most minute and tangential details. I ruminate on the inane. I become so preoccupied with the particulars that I lose sight of the big picture. Whoever coined the phrase, “You can’t see the forest for the trees” was definitely referring to someone… More »