I find myself talking to people about workplace sexual harassment a lot. We live in a society that sees itself ideally as merit-based – you get what you earn. My argument about sexual harassment is, if you’re being treated or viewed as a sexual object in your place of work, you’re not being given a fair opportunity to prove your merit as an employee. So to me, eliminating sexual harassment at work is one of the biggest ways that we could create a truly egalitarian society.
And it should be easy — we have laws in place, and a government agency – the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission – to investigate claims of sexual harassment at work. Most employers have policies about sexual harassment that are clear-cut. Most often it’s defined as either making remarks about gender or sex that create a hostile or uncomfortable workplace atmosphere, or taking actions in a supervisory role that discriminate based on sex or sexual performance. Easy! Right?
Yet in these conversations, I find people defending sexual harassment as it’s defined by law. That is BONKERS. Here are the four most common defenses I’ve heard of sexual harassment at work, and the reasons they are wrong. Keep reading »
A wife bringing home the bacon isn’t the death knoll of a relationship that it has been made out to be. According to a new survey of 1,000 married couples over age 25 by MONEY magazine, husbands are actually happier when on equal financial footing with their wives. Keep reading »
I used to work with someone who was smart, funny, a little goofy, and relatively handsome. From his first day, I could tell that we were going to get along. Sure enough, after a few weeks, we had a routine. We smoked a morning cigarette together and discussed weekend plans. We stood next to each other at work-mandated happy hours and drank bourbon, gossiping under our breath. If I was having a horrible day, he could tell from the timbre of my typing. We were inseparable during the workday, always there for each other, able to communicate complex sentences and emotions in a few words and a glance. After a while, I told him everything — doubts about my career path, complaints about the person I was dating, and he reciprocated in kind. From the outside, it would seem that we had been dating for years. Our interactions were marked with the easy-going nature that the best relationships have. We settled into a pattern that sustained throughout the entire time we worked together. It was the easiest relationship I had ever had. Keep reading »
The other day I saw clickbait on the Internet called something like “10 Things You Find In Every Graduation Speech.” I didn’t click, but the headline stuck in my mind. Graduation is supposed to be a celebration of your hard work, a launch into the adult working world. A graduation speaker is someone chosen to offer wisdom and insight into this momentous rite of passage. Have graduation speeches really gotten so formulaic that they can slapped together with GIFs on BuzzFeed? (I guess they must? I only graduated nine years ago and I don’t even remember who my speaker was or what she said.)
I’ve been thinking about this lately because today, our editorial assistant Claire is graduating from college. Yesterday afternoon, we broke out the pink booze and mini eclairs to toast to no more finals and 10-page papers. As The Frisky staff sat around — all of us between five to 15 years out of college — we all had advice for Claire about being launched into the grownup world. Some of it was practical. Some of it was financial. All of it was honest and most assuredly more useful than whatever’s being said about “character” and “grit” and “passion” at graduations across the land this week. Those things are important, too, but they’re so vague you can make a GIFicle about them.
It made me wish I was the sort of “important person” who could be asked to give a commencement address. Seeing as I’m not an famous actor or a famous editor or really anyone important in particular, I don’t really see that happening. So for Claire, and for everyone else who may or may not have deeper thoughts on life than Charlie Day from “It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia,” here’s what I would say if someone asked me to give a commencement speech. Keep reading »
Yet another NFL team is being sued by a former cheerleader for allegedly paying pom-pom shakers less than minimum wage.
Manouchcar Pierre-Val, 25, filed a class action lawsuit against the Tampa Bay Buccaneers on Monday, claiming they violated the Fair Labor Standards Act by paying her only $2 an hour between April 2012 and March 2013. Keep reading »