I’m continually shocked by the amount of totally egregious sexist/racist/classist bullshit that people and companies are trying to pull. I understand that this is a tale as old as time, but it’s like come the fuck on already. Case in point, the baby geniuses at Merrill Lynch who felt it necessary to offer up a “Boys Club Seduction Guide” to new female hires. A new lawsuit accuses the financial firm of handing out copies of Seducing the Boys Club: Uncemsored Tactics From a Woman at the Top and requiring female employees to attend a seminar with the author.
Boys Club author Nina DiSesa (above) has a rather incendiary approach when it comes to women getting ahead — one that would probably make Sheryl Sandberg blush. On the topic of collaborating with male colleagues, DiSesa writes:
It was also important to reinforce his hunk status, assuring him that the small bald spot at the top of his head was hardly noticeable and that he hadn’t “lost it” when a woman would break up with him or refuse to date him (a rare event). He needed to know that he had my love unconditionally; it was the only way he could ever trust me with his fragile ego.
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This summer, I, like many of my college-attending peers, split my weeks between an internship here at The Frisky and a part-time job. I happen to be waiting tables at a German restaurant near my home. Waitressing has provided me with an excess of strange knowledge and bizarre tales. Once I don my black button-down shirt and black dress pants pulled out of storage from my sister’s days in the high school orchestra, my status as a human seems to change. Observing people is therefore my favorite part of the job by far.
Anyway, here I have compiled some of the more interesting experiences from my days as a waitress, categorized into The Good, The Bad, and The Strange.
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If you’re a graphic designer, or know a graphic designer, you’ve probably heard them complain about how often they’re asked to work for free. Designers are often “invited” to do work on spec, with the hopes that their designs will be used by a company. Companies do this, promising that “it’ll be a great piece for your portfolio.” But what it really boils down to is people working for free, and companies reaping all the rewards. And this is especially prevalent on Craigslist.
This same thing happens in a lot of other creative industries: Writing, modeling, you name it. For those just starting out, it may make sense to work for free to build up their portfolios. But more and more companies are relying heavily on free labor to do the work, leaving skilled creatives out in the cold. That may be why one disgruntled graphic designer posted the following message to Craigslist: Keep reading »
Today, I’m going to go where, if you’re a woman, you’re never supposed to go. And that forbidden zone is to talk about the perils of women at work—and specifically, about that most fearsome of office creatures, the bad female boss. “Gird your loins!” Stanley Tucci warns as his tyrannical female boss, played by Meryl Streep, approaches in “The Devil Wears Prada.” Having survived a veritable parade of bad female bosses, my loins are fully girded.
Aware that I’ll now probably have to enroll in the Witness Protection Program anyway, I’ll just come right out and say it: I’d rather work for a man.
Correction: I’d rather work for a man than a wine-guzzling, insecure, jealous woman who’s more focused on rivalry and one-upmanship, or should I say, one-upwomanship, than in getting any actual work done.Which is to say, almost every woman I’ve ever worked for.
Working my way up to director of PR for a major financial company, I had only one good female boss—an erudite woman who embodied grace and truth and principles. She actually wanted me to succeed and did everything within her power to help me. She left two years after hiring me to go get a master’s degree at Harvard.
Aside from that one lovely exception, I was far more experienced in working for glorious train wrecks. I had the incompetent-because-she-was-young female boss, the boss-who-avoided-direct-communication-like-it–was-Ebola female boss, and the really-just-a-lady–who-lunched-but-wanted-to-be-able-to-say-she-had-a-job female boss. Keep reading »
The New York Times is getting a run for its money in the dubiously-credible lifestyle articles department. Today’s contender: the Wall Street Journal‘s ”Who’s Your Office Mom?” which continues on another page with the statement-making headline, “Every Office Needs A Mom.”
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Sexism in the workplace is manifested in a slew of ways: pay inequality, dress code regulations, getting hit on by your boss. In this case, on the site Australia InfoMine, sexism reared its ugly head before the job even started! According to News.Com.Au, the first requirement on a posting for the Korean coal company Pt. Karya Bumi Baratama is that receptionist applicants be “female, single, max 25 years old.”
While the post does ask for appropropriate qualities such as an education “from reputable university” and “good interpersonal and communication skill,” it rounds itself out with the last bullet point asking for the candidate to be “good looking.” Keep reading »
We are some opinionated bitches. I am just going to put that out there. Some mornings I walk into the office and there’s a heated debate about the ending of last night’s episode of “Girls” or something President Obama said before I’ve even turned my laptop on. We’re constantly talking, debating, and arguing with each other during the work day; our nights and weekends are filled with emails flying back and forth. Gentlewomen of softer stock might find it a little overwhelming.
But still, each woman on staff has worked here for years. Amelia is the founding editor and has been here since the beginning. I came along about eight months later. Then came Ami, Julie, Winona, and one-and-a-half-years-ago, Rachel. We all spend so much time together inside our New York City offices and know each other’s back stories so well that several of us have confessed we feel like we’re all sisters. And yes, that includes Winona, who lives and works remotely from Portland, Oregon. It’s gotten to the point where each of us can see a news story online or a dress in a shop and automatically know which one of us would love it. Keep reading »
A few things are inevitable in life: death, taxes … and dealing with difficult people. From work to friendships to romantic relationships, difficult interactions can hit us from all angles and can take a heavy toll on us.
A few days ago, I was doing some much needed reorganizing and I found this packet from a class I think I took many moons ago. I can’t remember who taught it, but the packet was filled with amazing and hilarious “rules” for dealing with difficult people. Within these humorous insights are perils of wisdom that can help you keep your cool during an argument or any other trying exchange.
I really wish I could give you the source, but no names were written on the sheet so all I have is the information. I couldn’t keep it all to myself though, so here are some amazing (and I’d even say life-changing) rules for dealing with difficult people: Read more…
Last semester I worked at Walt Disney World and encountered thousands of “guests” (as they are known in Disney-speak) a day. They came to Walt Disney World from all over the actual world, although they tended to be predominantly from
the Western Hemisphere North America, Europe, or Brazil, and were all ages, races, and attitudes. Even with all that diversity, patterns of people began to emerge. There is no better incubator for studying human behavior then shoving thousands of people into one surprisingly tiny space and making them wait for roller coasters, apparently.
And I’m not talking “people from Louisiana all have the same accent” patterns. I mean real, big, regardless-of-the-language barriers I often encountered patterns. Here was what I noticed about humans during my six months as a cast member … Keep reading »