For those of us interested in gender parity in the workplace, it was a crazy weekend. On Saturday, a blog on The Wall Street Journal‘s website published a piece about the dearth of women entrepreneurs in tech startups and what various folks are doing to balance the ratio. Then on Sunday, writer Michael Arrington, a senior editor at the technology blog TechCrunch, wrote a somewhat-snippy response called “Too Few Women In Tech? Stop Blaming The Men” that revealed both his frustration and defensiveness. Arrington’s position? If women aren’t becoming entreprenuers, it’s their own fault. In fact, women may have it easier launching startups, Arrington wrote, because everyone is so aware of the gender imbalance that the women may get preferential treatment. Keep reading »
What will you be doing at 4 p.m. today? If you’re at work, there’s a good chance you’ll be spending some time doing a little online shopping. Research shows that online shopping peaks at 4 p.m. on Wednesday and is a full 75 percent higher compared to other times of the week, like Monday mornings. According to a recent study, employees indulge in a little late-afternoon, mid-week retail therapy to escape work pressures, stave off fatigue, combat “the post-lunch slump,” and celebrate “getting over the ‘hump’ of the week.” For any of you working in an office, this “news” probably doesn’t come as a big shocker. No doubt, surfing The Frisky is probably another way you escape work pressures, etc. What else do you do when you need a break from your job during the workday? And do you ever worry you’ll be “caught” by your boss or a nosy co-worker? [via Daily Mail] Keep reading »
In today’s economy, you hear more about people looking for jobs than leaving them. But that doesn’t mean the world still isn’t full of disgruntled workers who decide it’s better to drop their job then deal with the daily torment. While most people’s resignations involve a two weeks notice and a quiet exit, there are a few who decide to turn their leaving into a memorable event. We are talking Jerry Maguire — walking out with a fish and Renee Zellweger — kind of productions here. Two happened just this week. Keep reading »
Getting over a breakup is difficult enough without the complication of having to see that person each day. When your ex is a co-worker, remaining professional may seem impossible. Rather than quit a good job, get along with your ex as a professional. After the jump, five tips to ensure a peaceful nine-to-five … post-breakup. Keep reading »
Recently, during a weekly therapy session, my doc and I were doing our thing, talkin’ ’bout boys, my frustration with the ones I have met, and my recent relapse into dreaming about my ex; I was telling her that sometimes, despite being a relatively solitary person who enjoys time alone, I get overwhelmed with loneliness. I miss something I don’t have anymore, that feeling of deep companionship.
It’s something we’ve talked about often in the last year and a half since my biggie breakup; during that time, as my loneliness and grief waxed and waned, my career has thrived. The Frisky has become more successful than I dared to have dreamed when we first started it and I’m noodling with the idea of writing a book; both work and personal projects keep me busy and sometimes I feel like I need to pinch myself to confirm that my professional aspirations have been met with truly thrilling results. Keep reading »
Do you know what drives me crazy? Too much information at the inappropriate time and place. I don’t want to hear about your struggle with mental illness at my birthday party, or your bout of diarrhea while I’m working, or how you’re under federal investigation for tax evasion on our first date, or how your ex-GF had a banging body the first time I am naked in your bed. TMI! Because it just doesn’t seem to come instinctively to some people, we thought we might need to spell it out for ya. How much info is too much info? After the jump, the rules of TMI brought to you by The Frisky staff. Because we care about you. Feel free to add your own TMI rules to live by in the comments. Keep reading »
Hallelujah! It’s Friday, and that means one thing: Happy Hour. You go out after work, the boss treats everybody to a round and you loosen up a bit. You spend a lot of time with your co-workers, and you always enjoy having a few beers on a Friday evening. But is there a line? After the jump, read more and tell us how you act when you’re out with your fellow employees. Keep reading »
Recently, I put myself in a tangle that I will be the first to admit was stupid: I took someone’s bait when I just should have kept my head down and my mouth shut. And this chafed like a subcutaneous rash. Ugh … you did it again! You need to have more control over yourself!
I sat with this for a few days, wondering why I keep letting myself keep doing this. One of the things I admire about my boyfriend is when emotions are running high, he can just check out — deescalating a situation like a good police officer. Me? I take that bait. I escalate. And you know what? It wasn’t worth engaging in. The woman who was baiting me was just being a bully. She was trying to intimidate me and demarcate lines of power, which pissed me off. I’m not keen on authority that I don’t respect.
Then something brilliant occurred to me last night: I can’t control petty behavior and I can’t control what other people’s defense mechanisms are, but I can change the way I see situations like this. And the way I see it now is I don’t need to be a bitch to get what I want. Keep reading »