In two weeks, I am turning 32. My 20s are officially long gone. I was thinking the other day about what I was up to when I was 21. I immediately thought of Marcy, an acting teacher I had at the time. Marcy was 39 and I remember her seeming so much older and wiser than me. I would go to class and cry about dudes or not knowing what to do with my life or being broke and Marcy would do the same thing every time. She would pat me on the back and say in her nasally voice, “Nobody tells you your 20s are going to suck.” While I do wish she had expounded a bit, her words made me feel better in a strange way. Just knowing that things would get better, well, not better exactly, just easier to deal with, was a relief. In your 20s, you don’t know what you don’t know and you’re struggling to figure it out. Everyone is. As I march bravely forward into my 30s, here’s what I wish Marcy would have told me. Keep reading »
I am 25 years old with lots of girlfriends and a sizable collection of purses. Reunions with old pals usually involve squeals or hefty grins and, yes, cute bunnies make me go “aww.” For some girls, these moments of elated feminine energy are non-stop, but I can only take small doses.
A former tomboy, at 13 I was jumping in mud puddles (still am), and at 18, I was wearing torn jeans with paint spots. It wasn’t until I was 21 that I learned how to walk in high heels. Keep reading »
Ladies — always mucking up the important film narratives for the dudes, am I right? That’s why this extensive “female character flowchart” is so handy: You can easily figure out which terribly cliched movie trope you’re watching by simply consulting the chart. Is she a “psycho feminist lesbian amazon” or a “happy single teenage mom”? A “mama bear” or a “manic pixie dream girl”? Consult the chart and find out! [Overthinking It] Keep reading »
We ladies are just all butterfingers in the workplace! Thankfully, Citi has created a helpful list of things we women are doing wrong in the office. Transgressions include: “being naive,” “smiling inappropriately” and giving “limp handshakes.” So that’s why we get paid so much less than men! It’s not the institutionalized sexism or anything! Thanks for clearing that up, guys. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »
More bad news out of the Middle East: Fresh off Time magazine’s cover story on the state of Afghanistan (with accompanying extremely disturbing cover photo), a new report from Afghanistan’s Health Minister found that more than 23,000 women and girls attempted suicide there last year — a “several-fold” increase on previous years.
Around 48 percent of Aghanistan’s 23.6 million people are women — so that means around .2 percent of the country’s female population has attempted suicide. Compare that with the U.S. — where 2005 statistics found that 6,730 women committed suicide — or .004 percent — and you’ll see how shocking that really is. (Attempted suicide statistics are unavailable but most reports say there is one death for every 12 to 25 attempts.)
Why are so many Afghan women taking their own lives? Keep reading »