First, let me say that I’m a fan of Wendy Davis. I look forward to reading her recently debuted memoir, Forgetting to Be Afraid, and I admire her amazing energy, her dedication to public service, and her impeccable choice in footwear while filibustering for 11 hours in the Texas Senate last year. I’m way thrilled that she’s running a tough race to become the first Democratic governor of Texas in two decades.
No, my problem isn’t with Davis at all — or even with the way she candidly detailed her abortion experiences in her book.
But we have come to the point where, like rape, and domestic violence, and so many other “women’s stories, there’s the ‘good” story—the acceptable one, the defensible one, the OK to discuss one — and the others. Women still have to justify their choices about their bodies, their sex partners, and who they allow (or don’t) to punch them in the face. Keep reading »
Nothing says Independence Day quite like exercising your freedom to go commando! Thanks to certain female celebrities who can’t keep their cha-cha’s away from paparazzi camera lenses, lots of women have developed a fear of going panty-free, since they’d like to keep their privates, well…private. But I’m here to tell you why you should consider saying goodbye to undies, if only just for the holiday (aside from the fact that it just sounds patriotic). It’s what our forefathers would have wanted… Keep reading »
If you’re in favor of #FreeTheNipple, but don’t feel like getting arrested for going topless, we have a solution: The “Tata Top,” a bikini top with nipples printed on the cups.
While men get to prance around with their big, hairy nips enjoying the summer sun, most places require women to cover up and keep their areolas out of sight. In my humble opinion, women, the ones who actually use their nipples for feeding purposes, should be able to show off their breasts like a badge of honor whenever they damn well please. Robyn Graves and Michelle Lytle, two women visiting Chicago from Amsterdam and the co-founders of the Tata Top, agree. When the ladies were traveling in the states, they were forbidden to swim in Lake Michigan in their normal European garb (bottoms, no tops), and they realized that it’s pretty damn ridiculous. On the Tata Top blog, the girls write:
Why can’t girls be topless? If you really think about it, what’s the difference between a man’s nipples and a woman’s? Is it really just the extra breast tissue? …look at this situation as if you were explaining it to an alien who newly arrived on Earth. Explain why women have to cover up their chests, but not men. What reason would you give?
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Conservatives’ stance on marriage hasn’t ever much suited me. The so-called value they profess the loudest is “Preserving And Protecting Traditional Marriage” — it sat at number one atop the 2012 GOP platform — and is of course coded language for marriage between a man and a woman.
Their PR strategy for pushing traditional marriage is pretty firmly focused on accusing LGBTQ couples of not being “natural.” Obviously this boner for “saving marriage” is just a cover for bigotry towards LGTBQ folks. But having recently gotten married — to a man — I’m noticing more and more how conservatives meddle in heterosexual marriage, too.
Ladies, you haven’t won the game just because you have a ring on your finger! You are also probably doing something wrong right this minute!
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It can be hard being a lady in comedy, and that’s not a recent phenomenon. Ovaries have long been known to sap our joke-making powers. In 1695, a famous playwright came up with what might well be the first “women aren’t funny” line, only he said it in an old-timey way:
“I must confess, I have never made any observation of what I apprehend to be true humor in women … If ever anything does appear comical or ridiculous in a woman, I think it is little more than an acquired folly or an affectation.”
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