A few weeks ago, I texted my brother to see if he’d had a good birthday. “It was great!” he said, “I stayed home, ate some roast chicken, and watched a movie.”
“Wait, that was a good birthday?” I asked, trying to communicate my confusion without being rude. “I’m glad you were into it, I’m just not sure I would call that a good birthday.”
His response was quick and to-the-point: “That’s because women always hate their birthdays.”
At first I got a little offended by the generalization, but when I thought about it, I have indeed hated my birthday every year for the past decade or so, as have the vast majority of my friends. Why do so many women greet their day of birth with “UUGGGHH” rather than excitement? Why have I cried myself to sleep with a belly full of birthday cake on more occasions than I can count? Why do men seem immune to many of these birthday issues? After some self-reflection and polling a ton of lady friends, I’ve settled on these 10 reasons: Keep reading »
Gender stereotypes: let’s pretend, for a moment, that they exist for a reason, reason being that they are sometimes (sometimes) applicable. The largest analysis ever undertaken of words we use on Facebook, a socio-linguistic study published by researchers from the University of Pennsylvania and Cambridge University, produced “strong results” emerging from the analysis aligning with “past studies of gender.” It’s up to the individual to draw their own conclusion from what is presented in front of them, and that conclusion may very well be, “holy shit, we are all just horrible boilerplate human Internet stereotypes.” It’s really up to you. Check out the full image, after the jump … [Gawker] Keep reading »
When the Arab Spring hit in early 2011, no one could have guessed what it might have meant for women’s rights in Egypt. But as the country continues to feel its way through a revolution, there is one surprising outcome — several citizen’s groups are now patrolling the streets of Cairo, and taking action against men that perpetrate violence against women.
If anything, the uprising has made violence and harassment against women more visible, say officials, and that’s spurred residents into action. Teenage boys as young as 16 are even joining the patrols. The groups are in response to a culture of government and police inaction, bolstered in part by a former regime that touted that violence against women was a non-issue in Egypt.
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During last night’s presidential debate, the candidates were asked what they’d do to improve the status of women and ensure equal pay. And while President Obama discussed his work on the Lilly Ledbetter act, Mitt Romney accidentally said one of the most talked about phrases of the evening. Speaking to the crowd, he said that he once had the opportunity to put a board together, but was dismayed to see only male candidates presented. So:
“We took a concerted effort to go out and find women who had backgrounds that could be qualified to become members of our cabinet. I went to a number of women’s groups and said: ‘Can you help us find folks,’ and they brought us whole binders full of women.”
For whatever reason, the phrase has taken off, and now there’s a Tumblr and a Facebook page devoted to Romney’s binders, where information about the wage gap and Romney’s policies are offered up. And before the debates were even through, someone had set up an @RomneysBinder Twitter account. It currently has more than 30,000 followers. I happen to think Romney’s binder is probably just filled with pictures of Delta Burke, but maybe that’s just me? [ABC News]
Check out some of the best images from the Binders Full Of Women Tumblr above!
I’m reading this book called Joe Cinque’s Consolation, which tells the true story of a real life trial of two women – Anu Singh, who injected her boyfriend Joe Cinque with heroin and watched him die, and Mandhavi Rao, Anu’s best friend who might have assisted her in the process. The story is complicated, of course, by mental illness and dependence and all kinds of other things, and you should read the book by Helen Garner if you get the chance. But what I want to talk about is Garner’s spot-on assessment of Singh and Rao’s relationship, one that she calls a “symbiotic power arrangement,” because I think we’ve all had one of these at one time or another (even if it didn’t lead to murder).
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The other day, I watched “Fela Kuti: Music Is The Weapon,” a 1980s’ documentary about Nigerian musician and activist Fela Kuti. Kuti’s life has been turned into a hit Broadway play called Fela (see it if you can), and his songs of revolution, strife and struggles of everyday life in Nigeria still resonate today. “Music Is The Weapon” chronicles Kuti’s 1983 failed run for president of Nigeria, and the intimidation and torture he and his family endured at the hands of police. Kuti’s family was rather, um, nontraditional; in the ’70s, he married 27 women — members of his extended band and dancers for his performances — in one large Yoruba ceremony. He called them his “queens,” and apparently he only kept 12 wives on tap in his commune (dubbed the Kalakuta Republic) at any given time, rotating them in and out of matrimonial service. After police pressure on the Kuti compound increased, many of his wives deserted him.
After a stint in prison in 1985 he divorced all of his wives, claiming that he no longer believed in marriage. The women featured in “Music Is The Weapon” were some of Kuti’s closest companions and advisers, the mothers of his children and followers of his belief in radical change for Nigeria. They also had incredible style — as these shots of the women in full performance makeup — prove.