Getting married is a series of capitulations. I got married three weeks ago (and I swear to God I will write about other topics soon, really), so I know this for a fact. Thinking that you can have wedding that is 100 percent a reflection of all of your values all of the time — to say nothing of your partner’s values — is naive. Weddings involve capitulations to your family and his/hers. Weddings involve capitulations to your bridal party and/or friends. Weddings involve capitulations to societal tradition, family tradition or religious tradition. For plenty of people, weddings are a capitulation to our consumer-driven, “keeping up with the Joneses” (or in this case, “the David Tuteras”) society. Like anything else in life, you will negotiate some of your values that previously were very strongly held. The difference is that with a wedding, your values take an outsized importance because it feels like you’re supposed to take a stand — possibly the biggest stand you’ll ever take in your life, even. Keep reading »
More than half a dozen current and former students filed a federal complaint against the University of Connecticut for the alleged mishandling of their sexual assault accusations.
Seven female students filed their complaint with the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights, following the lead of women from Emerson College in Boston and the University of North Carolina, among others. The complaint accuses UCONN of failing to follower the Title IX gender equity law by properly handling sexual misconduct cases on campus and preventing harassment.
One former student in the complaint is Kylie Angell, who graduated in May and now works as a nurse in a Connecticut hospital. Angell reported to UCONN’s Offie of Community Standards that she was raped by a fellow student in a dorm on the Storrs campus in July 2010. At a hearing in October 2010, her assailant was found guilty of sexual misconduct, breaking and entering, possession of drugs, and providing alcohol to a minor. He was expelled, but then filed an appeal. Only two weeks had passed before her assailant was allowed back to campus, Angell said, and she was not notified at all. In fact, she didn’t know her rapist had teruned until he approached her in a dining hall and “grazed [my elbow],” she said in a press conference on Monday night. “I was then met by heckling from his friend, who shouted at me that the perpetrator ‘was back.’” Keep reading »