Next time I gossip, I’ll just blame it on evolution.
A scientific review of almost 100 evolutionary psychology papers has left researchers with the … shall we say dubious conclusion … that women are wired to be catty to each other. Seriously. Tracy Vaillancourt, a psychology professor at the University of Ottawa, led the study and wrote that women have evolved to use gossip and backstabbing to effectively maximize the potential harm on their targets and prevent significant damage to themselves. Keep reading »
Getting married is a series of capitulations. I got married three weeks ago (and I swear to God I will write about other topics soon, really), so I know this for a fact. Thinking that you can have wedding that is 100 percent a reflection of all of your values all of the time — to say nothing of your partner’s values — is naive. Weddings involve capitulations to your family and his/hers. Weddings involve capitulations to your bridal party and/or friends. Weddings involve capitulations to societal tradition, family tradition or religious tradition. For plenty of people, weddings are a capitulation to our consumer-driven, “keeping up with the Joneses” (or in this case, “the David Tuteras”) society. Like anything else in life, you will negotiate some of your values that previously were very strongly held. The difference is that with a wedding, your values take an outsized importance because it feels like you’re supposed to take a stand — possibly the biggest stand you’ll ever take in your life, even. Keep reading »