Since this happened, I’ve been in hospitals too many times to count. I’ve found it impossible to love at times. I’ve gained and lost friends. I no longer dance or compete in pageants. I’m different now, and I can’t ever go back to the person I once was. That one night took it all away from me. I’m nothing more than just human, but I also refuse to be a victim of cruelty any longer. … I not only survived, I didn’t give up. I’ve been told that a special prosecutor is going to reopen the case now. This is a victory, not just for me, but for every girl. I just hope more men will take a lesson from my brothers. They look out for women. They don’t prey on them.
Daisy Coleman, 14, the young woman at the center of the Maryville, Missouri, rape story, penned an “It Happened To Me” essay for xoJane about the 2012 sexual assault she endured by a student athlete and how the town rallied behind her attacker. Her rapist, Matthew Barnett, then 17, is the grandson of a MO state representative and had all charges — sexual assault, endangering the welfare of a child — against him dismissed. Keep reading »
I wrote my own response to “College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” the Slate piece by Emily Yoffe that put the onus on young women to stop getting drunk so they are less susceptible to sexual assault. But here are some other kickass responses on the Internet:
- “How To Write About Rape Prevention Without Sounding Like An Asshole,” Erin Gloria Ryan, Jezebel
- “No. 1 Surefire Rape Prevention Tip For Ladies: Don’t Exist,” Katie Baker, Newsweek
- “College Men: Stop Getting Drunk,” Ann Friedman, AnnFriedman.com
- “Slate Forgot That The One Common Factor In Rapes Are Rapists,” Alexander Abad-Santos, The Atlantic Wire
- “‘Dear Prudence’ Columnist Publishes Rape Denialism Manifesto Advising Women To ‘Stop Getting Drunk’,” Lori Adelman, Feministing Keep reading »
Paige Parkhurst, the second victim in the Maryville, Missouri rape case, has come forward to speak with Al-Jazeera about the night she and Daisy Coleman were sexually assaulted.
Paige was 13 at the time and sleeping over at the house of her then-14-year-old friend Daisy. The girls were drinking alcohol together and snuck out of the house to go hang out with some older boys. There, Paige was raped by a 15-year-old boy, whose identity is kept anonymous because his case was handled in juvenile court. Daisy was given more alcohol at the party, which is the last part she remembers, and raped by football player Matthew Barnett, a senior and student athlete. Another boy at the party, Jordan Zech, filmed Daisy’s rape on an iPhone. After the rapes, the boys dropped the two girls, who were both drunk, off at the Coleman house. Paige was able to make it inside the house, but Daisy was left alone on the front lawn overnight in the January freeze. She was found the next morning by her mother after spending several hours outside and immediately taken to a hospital. You can read the full, terrible story as reported this weekend by the Kansas City Star. Keep reading »
Anti-abortion activists have been successful in collecting enough signatures to get a fetal personhood ballot initiative for the 2014 election.The initiative will ask voters if they would like to change the definition of a person to include fetuses, or in anti-abortion parlance, the “unborn,” in the state’s criminal code. Keep reading »