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The Soapbox: The ’80s Called And They Want Their Sex Wars Back

The Soapbox: The '80s Called And They Want Their Sex Wars Back

I’m writing this on an airplane from Toronto, Ontario, to San Francisco, California. I’ve just spent six days among other women, other queers, other porn performers, and other feminists at the Feminist Porn Awards and the Feminist Porn Conference. In that time, I have witnessed moments that made my heart soar, my eyes tear up with love and the fiercest of joys, pride in the people I hold close to me. I have experienced moments that hurt my heart, that disappointed me, moments that underlined how privilege can alienate and divide us. I spoke to academics, I spoke to sex workers, I spoke to sex workers who were academics. It was a weekend of realizations, inspiration, determination … and I came away from it all feeling exhilarated and ready to change the world.

I also realized that the sex wars are still very much A Thing. There are still Good Feminists and Bad Feminists, though the definition of which is which varies depending on who you ask. It’s saddening to see us fighting each other, women who have been called prudes for asserting their sexual choices attacking women who have been called whores for asserting their sexual choices … and vice versa. This is, of course, exactly what the patriarchy wants. While we bicker about whether or not porn is empowering, we are being systematically marginalized, turned away from jobs, thrown out of school, our kids and our workspaces and our money and our privacy taken away from us. The act of having sex on film or any other sex work may empower some and humiliate others, or we might start feeling one way and eventually feel another. (The same holds true for food service workers, though we ask that question far less often). In our current culture we are all experiencing and navigating the effects of capitalist patriarchy. Keep reading »

Study: Teen Girls Fantasize About Sex As Much As Teen Boys

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Adolescent boys think sexual aggression is flirting, apparently? Read More »
Twerking Ban
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Maryland high school bans everything at a school dance. Read More »
Fantasies Gone Wrong
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Leggings, Yoga Pants Banned From Middle School Because They Are "Too Distracting For Boys"
  • According to a small study of 800 Swedish teens, boys and girls fantasize about sex the same amount! The Journal Of Developmental And Behavioral Pediatrics study also found that teen boys were more likely to have watched porn (not too surprising) but that teen girls who watched porn were most likely to have had sex. [Nerve]
  • Senate Republicans blocked an equal pay bill, because what else is new? [New York Times]
  • Brandies University in Massachusetts has changed its mind about issuing an honorary degree to the women’s rights activists Aayan Hirsi Ali. Ali, the author of Infidel, is a vocal critic of Islam, particularly for some of its practitioners’ more extreme treatment of women. In a statement, Brandeis said that Ali’s views are “inconsistent with [our] core values.” [New York Times] Keep reading »

Pro-Tip: Trashing Fellow Women Like A Schoolyard Bully Is Not How You Create Change

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  • Another day, another conservative group trashing the feminist movement that helped them into their educated, privileged positions in the first place. Sigh. [LA Times]
  • President Obama signed those two executive orders today to help close pay disparities between men and women. [New York Times, White House]
  • The number of women choosing to be stay-at-home moms has started to increase after a decades-long decline. [USA Today]
  • The CEO of OK Cupid called out Mozilla CEO Brendan Eich for donating to support the anti-gay California law Prop 8. But as it turns out, the dating site’s CEO may have an anti-gay track record of his own. [Queerty] Keep reading »

President Obama Will Issue Two Executive Orders On Equal Pay

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  • President Obama will sign an executive order tomorrow that will force federal contractors to submit information to the Labor Department about employees’ pay along with their race and gender, as well as ban them from retaliating against employees who discuss their salaries with one another. [NPR]
  • A 10-year-old girl in Senegal who became pregnant after she was raped by a neighbor won’t be allowed to have an abortion. Senegel punishes women who terminate pregnancies with as much as 10 years in prison. [Clutch Magazine]
  • Here’s how Senators Kirsten Gillibrand and Claire McCaskill are pushing Congress to allocate more money to the U.S. Department of Education to fight sexual assault on college campuses by enforcing laws more strictly. [Huffington PostBuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Survey: Millennials Are Most Willing To Move For A Wife’s Job

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Some things do change for the better: a new survey found that more than half of millennials questioned said they would move if it benefitted their wife’s career. Compare that with 43 percent of Baby Boomers and 28 percent of pre-Boomers. The survey by Mayflower moving company didn’t provide many more specifics, but I’d be curious to know how millennial couples come to make those decisions. Does it have to do with money? Health benefits, 401K and perks? Cost of living? I would hope that all partners would hypothetically be willing to move for their loved one’s job, but there are dozens of tiny practical decisions that need to be made about it. I’m happy to report that I’m in one such relationship, though: my husband and I stayed in America instead of moving back to his home country of Australia in part because of my career here. Life of the modern woman. [USA Today] [Image of couple moving via Shutterstock]

May I Interest You In A Back-Alley Abortion, Madame?

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  • On the terrifying return of the back-alley abortion. [Huffington Post]
  • A trans woman student at a North Carolina college was hassled by campus security after she used the women’s bathroom. [Advocate]
  • The governor of West Virginia vetoed a bill that would have banned abortion after 20 weeks of pregnancy, calling it “unconstitutional.” [Feminist.org]
  • The president of Harvard University announced the creation of a sexual misconduct task force. The task force appears to be a response to an anonymous letter published in the Harvard Crimson student newspaper by a student who got the runaround from the administration after she was sexually assaulted.  [The Harvard Crimson] Keep reading »

Women Don’t Apply To “Male-Sounding” Job Postings, Whatever That Means

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  • A small study of 260 people found that women are deterred by the language in job postings, particularly when “male-sounding” words are used like “aggressive” and “assertive.” Instead, ladies responded to ads using words like “sociable” and “dedicated.” Surprise, surprise, language in job postings didn’t deter dudes at all. [EurekaAlert]
  • Do you work for one of these 71 companies which don’t want to cover birth control in their health insurance plans? If Hobby Lobby is successful at the Supreme Court, these non-religious businesses just might be able to do so. [Mother Jones]
  • Welcome to North Carolina, where Republican wannabe-politicians tell 6th graders that gay marriage is like “a man marrying a dog.” [Raw Story] Keep reading »

Brad Pitt To Produce Movie About Steubenville & Hacktivist Group Anonymous

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  • Brad Pitt and his producing team have bought the rights to the Rolling Stone article, “Anonymous Vs. Steubenville,” about the online hacktivist group who brought nationwide attention to the sexual assault of a teen girl by members of the Steubenville High School football team. The article focuses on Deric Locstutter, one of the hacktivists within Anonymous, and how he faced jail time for exposing the coverup of the assault, rather than the issues directly pertinent to rape culture. I’m happy to hear the story won’t disappear into history, but I’ll hold off judgment until I see how it’s handled. [Daily Dot]
  • Administrators of a Catholic hospital in Oklahoma have directed all doctors to stop prescribing contraceptives for birth control. I guess everyone needs to lie about having bad cramps now, huh? [The Nation] Keep reading »

Black Women’s Hair Is Under More Scrutiny With The Army’s New Grooming Regulations

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  • The Army released new regulations on Monday for hair and grooming which seem to specifically target Black women’s hairstyles. The new regs now forbid braids or cornrows larger than a quarter of an inch (dreadlocks and twists have already been banned since 2005). As a result, Black women who wear their hair this way have to either get a new hairstyle or cover it with a wig. [Huffington Post]
  • Hobby Lobby is fighting the Obama administration not to pay cover contraception for women in their health care plan, but they seem to have no problem at all investing in contraception makers with their retirement funds. [Mother Jones] Keep reading »

Harvard Student Pens Open Letter About The School’s Non-Reaction To Her 2013 Sexual Assault

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  • A Harvard student penned a heartbreaking open letter in the Harvard Crimson newspaper addressed to university administrators about the sexual assault she suffered nine months ago by one of her friends, who continues to live in the same dorm as her. The Harvard administration has reportedly shrugged this student off, claiming it didn’t technically fall under the narrow and outdated sexual assault policy written in the university handbooks. “Dear Harvard: I am writing to let you know that I give up,” the student writes, continuing:

    I will be moving out of my House next semester, if only—quite literally—to save my life. You will no longer receive emails from me, asking for something to be done, pleading for someone to hear me, explaining how my grades are melting and how I have developed a mental illness as a result of your inaction. My assailant will remain unpunished, and life on this campus will continue its course as if nothing had happened. Today, Harvard, I am writing to let you know that you have won.

    Gee, where have we heard this story before? [Harvard Crimson]

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