“To be a strong woman, to be a fierce woman, to be a true woman, to be a leader, to be truly powerful, you have to get to place where you can tolerate people not liking you. And know that when you actually do that, you have to fall back on your own moral imperative in your own moral trunk and say, ‘I don’t care, this is what I believe. This is who I am.’”
– Eve Ensler in the Logo documentary “Beautiful Daughters”, which is about a group of women putting on the first all-transgender production of “The Vagina Monologues.” I stayed up too late watching this movie last night and I can’t stop thinking about this statement. As women, we are socialized to care what others — our friends, our family, our lovers — think of us, so much so that we often lose focus on ourselves. To be powerful, we need to harness our energy and focus it on the positive. When it comes down to it, caring too much what others think of us is not a powerful or creative act. It’s a waste of our precious energy. I needed to be reminded of that. So thank you, Eve. Continue reading
Yesterday, Esquire magazine’s Twitter feed asked its readers, “What about manhood do you know now that you wish you’d known at eighteen?” The response from a writer I know caught my eye — “Good credit is better than good sex!” — and I thought, Hey, that doesn’t just apply to manhood! That applies to womanhood, too! So I asked my fellow Frisky bloggers to answer this question:
What about womanhood do you know now that you wish you’d known at 18?
Our responses, after the jump … Continue reading