So long as love rides shotgun in your life, nothing can ever truly be that bad. It is the singular prize that trumps all others, the reward that sweetens every success. Truly, it is the hot fudge on the ice cream scoops of personal achievement. Now, excuse me while I puke a little in my mouth. Actually, I’m going to shotgun a cheap beer and play some Grand Theft Auto 4 to make amends for such an unforgivably cheeseball observation. More on love and rewards and, ZOMG, trust, after the jump…. Plus, a fable!
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Nobody likes a cheater. But there are some situations that are almost impossible to resist. Let Asylum’s token girl tell you why we feel sympathetic toward guys who cheat, even while we’re smashing your Xbox with a hammer. Watch it! Keep reading »
Last night I watched Tyler Perry’s “Why Did I Get Married?” for the first time. (I know, I’m a little late, but I didn’t want to get hit over the head with religious talk, as Perry is known for.) It was an entertaining movie, but what really stuck out to me was the theory of the “80/20 Rule,” which I had never heard of. The rule says that men can have a wife or girlfriend who fulfills 80 percent of his needs, but he’ll go looking for someone else to make up the remaining 20 percent. He’ll leave the woman who takes care of him because the chick on the side is more exciting, sexual, and basically new. But soon after, the man will realize the 20 percent he has now pales in comparison to the 80 percent he already had. In a quest to have 100 percent of his needs fulfilled, he ends up with less than when he started. This kind of reminds me of the idea that twentysomethings are too narcissistic to find a mate — supposedly, we want all or nothing in a mate. Do you think there’s any validity to the 80/20 Rule? And does it apply to women too? Keep reading »
A few months ago, I wrote about an article in New York magazine, in which the author, Philip Weiss, tried to explain why men cheat — the basis of his argument was that people, especially men, are not meant, biologically, to be monogamous and that men who cheat are just fulfilling their perfectly natural urges. Boo-frickin’-hoo, I said then, and reminded that if men who got married never promised to be monogamous, they wouldn’t have to cheat. Well, unfortunately, Weiss is not alone in making a career out of explaining and justifying cheating — Gary Neuman, a recent “Oprah” guest, has a theory of his own and has written a book on the subject, called “The Truth About Cheating”. He believes men cheat because they’re experiencing loneliness in their relationship or marriage, they’re seeking affirmation from other women, and are not getting enough attention at home. In other words, it’s your fault ladies! And Oprah isn’t the only person giving this guy credence — Christie Brinkley ex Peter Cook, who cheated on her with his 18-year-old assistant, has taken a page straight out of the Neuman playbook and blames Brinkley for driving him to cheat.
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