A little bit of distrust goes a long way. In the wake of the Sanford scandal I am trying to get a better handle of why we lie and how we can tell if someone is telling us the truth.  My interest piqued during the political scandal of the Italian Prime Minister. However, it began several years ago when a male friend of mine began telling me stories about a new woman in his life.

I was a good listener until he asked the question, “So what do you think?”

Did he really want to know that she lying and manipulating him? Continue reading...

1. The number of sexual partners you’ve had plus or minus five
2. That you totally just washed your hands
3. That the reason for your bags is not, in fact, that you were out late partying but that you were up late reading “Twilight”
4. That you’re naturally toned
5. How much you paid for that (ridiculously cheap) pair of shoes

A 38-year-old woman had an expensive laser procedure done to her face, but beforehand, she told her husband she was merely getting a facial. When he found out what a mega-big deal it was, he flipped out. The woman thought it was a harmless fib, but relationships expert Dr. Pam Spurr says even a little white lie isn’t good for a relationship. “What was really going on? She felt defensive about trying to hold back the hands of time, confiding that she didn’t want her husband to know how much she worried about facial lines. As if her husband wasn’t aging along with her!” See, what she really should have done was asked her husband whether he wanted his face worked on, too! [The Times, U.K.]