What’s it like to be a sex writer? Inquiring minds want to know. To find out, we asked Lux Alptraum, editor of sex blog Boinkology and Gawker Media’s Fleshbot, and a Heeb100. After spending a decade covering the wild world of sex, Lux reveals what a day in the life of a sex writer is like, how covering sex affects her love life, and why sex will never be boring.

I am white.  My husband is black.  Our daughter is…well…she’s like that great flavor of “World Class Chocolate” at Baskin-Robbins, which is a sweet, delectable combination of white and dark chocolate, blended to perfection. When the grocery store checker, or the dentist, or our insurance salesman, or the shoe store clerk, or one of my college students who sees her picture in my office asks where she gets her curly hair or if she’s “mixed,” I usually reply, “Yes, she’s biracial,” (for I’ve always thought “mixed” to be used only for dogs and cocktails).  I answer this question three or four times a day and often wonder if I should just stick a sign on her that reads “Yes, my father is black.”

My boyfriend has giant blue eyes and is really bad at being on parole.  When he was a twentysomething, he stole some stuff from work. It took a while to get caught and convicted so he’s paying for it now, in his early thirties. We’ve been dating just over a year and he’s been incarcerated for about half of that. When we met he’d just been released from his initial bid and we didn’t know he was going to be so bad at parole that he’d end up maxing out his sentence. But he is and so is currently in County Jail awaiting transfer to Prison.  He went back in January and will be out in July.  Apart from this boneheaded aspect, he’s awfully smart and funny so here’s what my Valentine’s Day was like. 

Putting on pasties for the first time was fabulous. Putting on pasties for the first time while lactating—well, that was fabulous and messy. But no matter what, I refuse to turn them in!

Before I became a mom, I regularly emceed a bunch of New York-based burlesque shows (Starshine Burlesque, Le Scandal, and Red Hots Burlesque to name a few) and I found that audiences enjoyed my raunchy persona, a combination of Elvira’s boobs and wardrobe, Ethel Merman’s voice and Rudy Ray Moore’s mouth (and if you don’t know who Rudy Ray Moore is, I encourage you to get schooled immediately). But once I had a kid, everyone seemed to assume that I would change, that I’d become more, oh, I don’t know, virginal. I always thought that was kind of odd. After all, I had an 8 pound 12 ounce infant pop out of my vag, so there was no longer anything even remotely virginal about me (not like there had been before).

Would you take your clothes off for Kathryn Hull? The budding twenty-something designer of Deshabille Lingerie sits down with The Frisky to discuss who’s wearing her panties, creative freedom, and whether romance is alive and kicking.

Why underthings?
Honestly, I designed clothes for various companies for years and I found that I personally loved to wear black and grey colors with simple and classic silhouettes without a lot of trims and crap. But, when I designed I gravitated towards lace, pink silks, and uber feminine fabrics and color palette. I had this internal struggle and so I began to think…what can I do with this? How and where can one wear this?

After nine years at Brooklyn’s New York Methodist Hospital, OBGYN Josine Veca has seen it all. Here she gives The Frisky her diagnosis of what women want when they stop by.

What are common concerns for women when they come to see you?
It varies by age group. Younger patients, 30 and below, are usually concerned with STDs, birth control, or, if not, trying to prevent pregnancy. As the women get older and are approaching menopause, they’re worried about hot flashes, irregular periods, and symptoms that may be unusual. I’d estimate that 30 to 40 percent are concerned with a mixture of those issues.

How much prying do you have to do or do most women come in with their own specific questions?
A lot of women who come in with their own questions are very comfortable talking about sex. But if they don’t, the subject usually comes up when I’m interviewing them. At first they may be tentative, but the idea is to open communication