I thought I’d dealt with most of my body image issues before I started dating my current boyfriend. But during the three years we’ve been together, he’s taught me a lot about size, fatness and self-care. How? By being fat and unapologetic.
My boyfriend weighs over 300 pounds, and one of the things I appreciated right away is that he didn’t hesitate to call himself “fat.” Why would he? For him it’s a description, not an epithet. That alone was startling to me, having dated my share of men and women who were far from accepting of their bodies. Keep reading »
If you’ve read Tiny Beautiful Things, the collection of responses by The Rumpus’ self-help columnist “Sugar,” aka Wild author Cheryl Strayed, you’ll probably recognize this quote:
“Stop worrying about whether you’re fat. You’re not fat. Or rather, you’re sometimes a little bit fat, but who gives a shit? There is nothing more boring and fruitless than a woman lamenting the fact that her stomach is round.”
Well, damn. Keep reading »
Senator Kirsten Gillibrand (D-NY) is publishing her memoir in two weeks, which is already dominating headlines for the ugh-iest of reasons. In Off The Sidelines, Gillibrand reveals several occasions when male colleagues have made sexist comments about her appearance and once even squeezed her stomach. (Just warning everyone now, if you squeeze my stomach, I will unrepentantly smack you.)
Gillibrand is the mother of two and, like many moms, worked hard to lose the baby weight after her second pregnancy. But the weight gain didn’t go without remarks. As per People and TIME, one story Gillibrand shared was when an “older, male” colleague approached her in the congressional gym and said, “Good thing you’re working out, because you wouldn’t want to get porky!” Another colleague one said to her, “You know, Kirsten, you’re even pretty when you’re fat.” Yet another colleague once squeezed her stomach and said, “Don’t lose too much weight now. I like my girls chubby!” Keep reading »
Dr. Keith Ablow, professional douchebag/member of Fox’s “Medical A-Team,” is known for his general assholery and sometimes-shady health advice. On Tuesday, he appeared on the show “Outnumbered” and made a remark that was bold even for him: he said he couldn’t take Michelle Obama’s school nutrition campaign seriously because she needs to “drop a few” pounds.
Yes, he just called the First Lady — this First Lady — fat. Keep reading »
“In my 20s I used to cry about why I wasn’t thinner or prettier … [I] used to cry about things like, ‘I wish my hair would grow faster. I wish I had different shoes.’ I was an idiot. … Sure, criticism can sometimes still get to me. Some things are so malicious, they knock the wind out of you … It’s like I’m managing to achieve all this success in spite of my affliction … Would you ever put that in the headline for a male star?”
Well, I’ll admit that The Frisky is part of the problem here, because most of what we post about Melissa McCarthy has to do with her weight, too. The media does have a tendency to cover successful larger women just as successful larger women. I get why the media does it — because bigger, body positive role models are still relatively rare. But Melissa has a point: bigger male actors aren’t dealing with this shit. Melissa deserves to be covered the same way as other funny ladies, like Tina Fey and Amy Poehler. Focus on the funny, not on the size. [People]