This summer, I’ll have the pleasure of standing by my good girlfriend’s side as a trusty bridesmaid while she says “I do” to the man of her dreams. This isn’t my first time at the rodeo, though. I’ve been a bridesmaid several times before, responsible for holding the bride’s bouquet, helping to plan the bachelorette party, looking for lots of really lacy shit on Etsy, etc. I’m a pro. But along with your run-of-the-mill bridesmaid duties comes the waves of emotion that go hand-in-hand with the roller coaster of being a wedding wing woman.
If you’ve ever been a bridesmaid, this may seem familiar. If you haven’t, prepare yourself. Keep reading »
According to a new survey published in the Daily Mail, women are spending an awful lot of time planning their weddings…before they even have a groom lined up. Out of 600 single women polled, 60 percent admit that they already have their wedding planned — sometimes down to the details of the dress, the vows, the bridesmaids and the exact wedding date. In addition, the survey found that instead of worrying about first kisses, most girls are 100 steps ahead, thinking about various elements of her big day by the age of 13. Even more disturbing: 34 percent of pre-emptive wedding planners say they spending HOURS each day on Pinterest et al looking for inspiration for floral arrangements, the perfect updo, and a venue appropriate for group dances to “Jump On It.” Keep reading »
I am a woman who is engaged to be married. But unlike lots of your friends who are busy posting photographs of their diamond engagement rings on Facebook, you wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at my left hand.
This is because I told my fiancée many times before we got engaged that I wasn’t interested in getting an engagement ring at all, diamonds or no. There are a lot of reasons I feel this way, including my particular indifference to jewelry. “Honestly, I’d rather have an iPad,” I told him.
Diamond engagement rings are a translation of a much older sexist tradition of putting a down payment on one’s bride. This is, incidentally, still legally the case. In many states a bride-to-be can still sue her fiancée for breach of contract if he breaks off the engagement, as a Georgia woman did last year. After all, it is only women who are marked with an engagement ring as taken, suggesting that the balance of power doesn’t lie with the one who wears it. Keep reading »
I’m a big believer in listening to gut feelings. Trust your gut, and you can never go wrong – and if things do go wrong, you’re way less likely to have regrets, because you followed your instincts. According to a recent study published in Science, I’m not the only one who feels this way. As it turns out, gut feelings can indicate the future success of a marriage. The study found that no matter what positive exclamations they share in public, newlyweds’ gut instincts about their new spouses are a big part of what determines whether they’ll be satisfied in their marriage. Keep reading »
I am normally not much of a shmoopy wedding video type, but this couple’s reenactment of a famous scene from “Dirty Dancing” at their wedding has me freaking out. Slayed, I tell you. Near tears! This couple is impressive. Somewhere out there, our dear departed Patrick Swayze is shedding a happy tear for Terra and Drake. Enjoy! [People]
Getting married is a series of capitulations. I got married three weeks ago (and I swear to God I will write about other topics soon, really), so I know this for a fact. Thinking that you can have wedding that is 100 percent a reflection of all of your values all of the time — to say nothing of your partner’s values — is naive. Weddings involve capitulations to your family and his/hers. Weddings involve capitulations to your bridal party and/or friends. Weddings involve capitulations to societal tradition, family tradition or religious tradition. For plenty of people, weddings are a capitulation to our consumer-driven, “keeping up with the Joneses” (or in this case, “the David Tuteras”) society. Like anything else in life, you will negotiate some of your values that previously were very strongly held. The difference is that with a wedding, your values take an outsized importance because it feels like you’re supposed to take a stand — possibly the biggest stand you’ll ever take in your life, even. Keep reading »
Of all the things to forget when when returning from your honeymoon, you might wanna make sure your new bride isn’t one of them. A pair of German newlyweds were traveling back from their honeymoon when the groom stopped at a gas station to fill ‘er up. His bride, who had been asleep in the backseat got up to use the bathroom unbeknownst to him. When she returned from the toilet, her new husband had driven off into the sunset without her. And oh, it only took him two and a half hours to notice she was gone.
“My first reaction was: is he stupid?” the 33-year-old bride said in a radio interview. “I had no money and no telephone with me. I’m not angry with my husband. He didn’t mean it.” Although I believe her, this type of slip up doesn’t bode so well for their marriage. [Metro UK] [Photo from Shutterstock]
Mike Cassesso and MaiLien Le were all set to be married on the steps of the Jefferson Memorial this Saturday, but alas, the ongoing government shutdown got in the way of those plans, as government buildings and national sites like the memorial are closed until Congress gets its damn act together. When Stephen Colbert heard about the couple’s plight, he decided to help them out by offering to conduct the ceremony himself on to “The Colbert Report.” The ”2013 Government Shutdown Wedding of the Century” was a lovely affair, complete with music, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and … Mandy Patinkin!? SO AWESOME. Watch the full shebang (in two parts) above. [Gawker]
Ryan Leak, are you for real or are you a figment of the female imagination? Bow down to the man who overheard his girlfriend Amanda Roman saying that her secret dream was to get engaged and married on the same day and got to work making that shit happen. Not only did Leak figure out how to navigate his way around Pinterest (a skill that I have yet to master), but he managed to plan their wedding entirely from 224 re-Pins in her “My Dream Wedding” folder. WITHOUT HER KNOWING. Keep reading »
Pass the tissues, please. When Fred Evans, a father of four, found out he had cancer shortly after enduring a double lung transplant, he was given only a few months to live. He knew that if and when his two unmarried daughters chose to tie the knot, he likely wouldn’t be there to give them away at their weddings. Instead, he surprised them with a special church ceremony and walked each of them down the aisle with their immediate family gathered to watch. The girls had no idea what was going on until they arrived at the church, and the looks on their faces pretty much say it all. Fred had one more surprise up his sleeve that day — he told his wife Karla that he wanted to renew their vows in front of their closest family members. Does it get any sweeter than this? What a lovely reminder to make the most of every day. [Fotolanthropy]