I’m a big believer in listening to gut feelings. Trust your gut, and you can never go wrong – and if things do go wrong, you’re way less likely to have regrets, because you followed your instincts. According to a recent study published in Science, I’m not the only one who feels this way. As it turns out, gut feelings can indicate the future success of a marriage. The study found that no matter what positive exclamations they share in public, newlyweds’ gut instincts about their new spouses are a big part of what determines whether they’ll be satisfied in their marriage. Keep reading »
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This Couple Re-Enacting “Dirty Dancing” Will Restore Your Faith In Love And Maybe Humanity In General
I am normally not much of a shmoopy wedding video type, but this couple’s reenactment of a famous scene from “Dirty Dancing” at their wedding has me freaking out. Slayed, I tell you. Near tears! This couple is impressive. Somewhere out there, our dear departed Patrick Swayze is shedding a happy tear for Terra and Drake. Enjoy! [People]
Getting married is a series of capitulations. I got married three weeks ago (and I swear to God I will write about other topics soon, really), so I know this for a fact. Thinking that you can have wedding that is 100 percent a reflection of all of your values all of the time — to say nothing of your partner’s values — is naive. Weddings involve capitulations to your family and his/hers. Weddings involve capitulations to your bridal party and/or friends. Weddings involve capitulations to societal tradition, family tradition or religious tradition. For plenty of people, weddings are a capitulation to our consumer-driven, “keeping up with the Joneses” (or in this case, “the David Tuteras”) society. Like anything else in life, you will negotiate some of your values that previously were very strongly held. The difference is that with a wedding, your values take an outsized importance because it feels like you’re supposed to take a stand — possibly the biggest stand you’ll ever take in your life, even. Keep reading »
Of all the things to forget when when returning from your honeymoon, you might wanna make sure your new bride isn’t one of them. A pair of German newlyweds were traveling back from their honeymoon when the groom stopped at a gas station to fill ‘er up. His bride, who had been asleep in the backseat got up to use the bathroom unbeknownst to him. When she returned from the toilet, her new husband had driven off into the sunset without her. And oh, it only took him two and a half hours to notice she was gone.
“My first reaction was: is he stupid?” the 33-year-old bride said in a radio interview. “I had no money and no telephone with me. I’m not angry with my husband. He didn’t mean it.” Although I believe her, this type of slip up doesn’t bode so well for their marriage. [Metro UK] [Photo from Shutterstock]
Mike Cassesso and MaiLien Le were all set to be married on the steps of the Jefferson Memorial this Saturday, but alas, the ongoing government shutdown got in the way of those plans, as government buildings and national sites like the memorial are closed until Congress gets its damn act together. When Stephen Colbert heard about the couple’s plight, he decided to help them out by offering to conduct the ceremony himself on to “The Colbert Report.” The ”2013 Government Shutdown Wedding of the Century” was a lovely affair, complete with music, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and … Mandy Patinkin!? SO AWESOME. Watch the full shebang (in two parts) above. [Gawker]
Ryan Leak, are you for real or are you a figment of the female imagination? Bow down to the man who overheard his girlfriend Amanda Roman saying that her secret dream was to get engaged and married on the same day and got to work making that shit happen. Not only did Leak figure out how to navigate his way around Pinterest (a skill that I have yet to master), but he managed to plan their wedding entirely from 224 re-Pins in her “My Dream Wedding” folder. WITHOUT HER KNOWING. Keep reading »
Pass the tissues, please. When Fred Evans, a father of four, found out he had cancer shortly after enduring a double lung transplant, he was given only a few months to live. He knew that if and when his two unmarried daughters chose to tie the knot, he likely wouldn’t be there to give them away at their weddings. Instead, he surprised them with a special church ceremony and walked each of them down the aisle with their immediate family gathered to watch. The girls had no idea what was going on until they arrived at the church, and the looks on their faces pretty much say it all. Fred had one more surprise up his sleeve that day — he told his wife Karla that he wanted to renew their vows in front of their closest family members. Does it get any sweeter than this? What a lovely reminder to make the most of every day. [Fotolanthropy]
“I will be a reluctant bridesmaid in a family member’s wedding next month. The bride is having us wear silver evening shoes, either sandals or open-toe pumps, with this dusty purple (‘wisteria,’ hello) gown. Now, buying silver shoes on a budget is pretty much a one-way ticket to trashy town, but I refuse to spend over $200 on a pair of shoes that I’ll probably never wear again. Can you help me find a pair of affordable silver open-toe shoes that aren’t a death sentence for my already-compromised fashion sense?” — Sulking About Silver
Ah, the grin-and-bear-it bridesmaid. We’ve all been there, and some fare worse than others. Consider yourself fortunate: that dress is actually pretty alright! Of course, it’s probably made of uber-flammable taffeta or some shit, so be careful should you find yourself inebriated and in a close proximity to candles, which you undoubtedly will. Keep reading »
This week, my husband and I sat in a real estate agent’s office and put our first ever offer on an actual house on an actual piece of land that we would actually like to own.
“You guys are legally married, right?” the real estate agent asked. We said yes, we are.
“Do you have the same last name?” the real estate agent asked.
It’s a question I’ve become used to answering, and one of the first I tackled in the weeks after Patrick and I got drunk at the lake one hot September weekend and decided to get married. Keep reading »
What’s the kindest thing you can do for someone who’s getting married? Keep your mouth shut. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s true. If you’re asked for advice? Give it, judiciously. If you’re not? Please, please, please for the love of cummerbunds, hold your tongue. That goes for anyone, whether we’re talking parents of the happy couple or third cousins or that drunk dude at the bar.
When Patrick and I planned our wedding, which I will always remember fondly as being one of the most stressful times in my life, we were blessed with hands-off families and beer-in-hand friends who took their roles as sounding boards very seriously. The strangers, really, were the ones who gave us the most grief — the guy at the pub who wanted to know when we were having kids, the florist who couldn’t imagine a world without corsages, the saleswoman who told me I wouldn’t feel like a princess in a tea-length wedding dress.
What I wish I’d had then, and what I’m giving y’all now, is a handy list of phrases to keep in your back pocket for those moments when you’re so floored by a suggestion or bit of (bad) advice that you’re tempted to take it just to shut someone up. They’re all wedding-focused, of course, but I like to think they’ll work for anyone on the receiving end of a busybody’s interest. Keep reading »