It’s wedding season, which means it’s bachelorette party season, which means purchases of pink feather boas and penis-shaped accessories are skyrocketing. Whether you’re looking for some fashion ideas for the big night out or want to bring some of that flamboyant bachelorette style into your everyday wardrobe, we’re spotlighting six must-have pieces inspired by bachelorette party style. Check ‘em out, after the jump… Keep reading »
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I recently stumbled on the video of a bride singing Christina Aguilera’s “The Right Man” while she walked down the aisle, and I reacted so strongly that I startled myself. The video opened up a cavern of emotion that, while I knew it was there, went deeper than I realized. And that emotion was repugnance. To me, this serenade was not an act of love, but an act of vanity. I saw a woman in the midst of a performance that had nothing to do with how she felt about the man she was walking towards and everything to do with a fantasy she’d been playing out in her head since she was a little girl–groom TBD.
But self-aggrandizing brides aside, the bottom line of my repugnance was that I hate weddings. I think they have gotten so out of control that they have become intolerable, and I deeply resent being held hostage to their preposterous demands. For years I’ve faked my joy for brides and brides-to-be both out of respect and fear. I have put on a smile and cooed over dresses, shoes, cakes and flowers, partially because I usually do love the person the bride is when she is not a bride, but also because I am afraid that I will be shunned from the sisterhood if my disdain is discovered. Keep reading »
Ladies, maybe we’re all doing something wrong. I say that because after watching this video of this obviously batcrackers woman walking down the aisle while singing Christina Aguilera’s “The Right Man,” I wonder if we are simply not acting crazy enough. I mean, this woman got married, y’all. She found a man who loves her. And she found an entire room full of people who were willing to sit through her serenading her fiance during her wedding and manage to not laugh at her. That’s pretty amazing. So, hmm, maybe she’s out of her mind, but she’s clearly doing something right.
This summer, my younger brother is getting married. (I would like, before going any further with this subject, to state in no uncertain terms that I very much like the young lass he’s chosen for his bride.) When he got engaged, I immediately started working on my plan for what I’d do if I were still single when his big day came; as it happens, the Single Older Sister at the Younger Sibling’s Wedding is a rather frequent occurrence.
In my mid-twenties, I came out as a lesbian. But the hardest part wasn’t even coming out: it was realizing my wedding would be different and therefore I was different. It took me a few years to come to terms with the fact that my wedding wouldn’t have a groom or any of the other stuff that goes along with heterosexual weddings.
A few months ago, my girlfriend of three years proposed. A couple of weeks after we got engaged, Chriss told me she was thinking about converting to Judaism. So as we started planning our wedding, we began attending synagogue together and Chriss enrolled in an Introduction to Judaism class. When we became full-fledged members of our synagogue and reserved the chapel for our wedding it dawned on me: I have no idea what a lesbian Jewish wedding would look like. Keep reading »
According to JDate’s resident dating coach Melissa Malka, “For singles, attending wedding after wedding can be a constant reminder that you’re not quite there yet.”
While we feel like we should protest, obviously there’s a lot of truth to that. Here are some tips from JDate, the Jewish online dating website, and Malka, on how to survive wedding season without making a drunken fool of yourself — or getting depressed about your single status.
1. Start from the outside and work your way in. “I never (read: never) advise people to use their looks or appearance as the foundation for impacting their self-confidence and level of happiness, with one exception: weddings,” Malka advises. You never know who might be there (the bride’s cousin or the groom’s best friend from college perhaps?), and the wedding photos will be around forever — two very good reasons to look fabulous! Read more…
This weekend, I went to Vermont to see my best friend from childhood get married. It was really wonderful; there’s a special feeling that comes from witnessing someone you knew as a child celebrate such an adult occasion, you know? And it’s also rare that I’m around people outside of my own family who can say, “I knew Amelia when she was yea high” — their hand only four feet off the ground — “and had a bowl cut.” Ahh, memories.
I must admit, though, that I was a little nervous about going to this wedding in particular, as it was the first one I would be attending alone. While I obviously knew the bride and her family, everyone else was going to be a stranger to me. Would there be other singles? Would I have the balls to get out on the dance floor? Would I fall into a lake again? And, most cliche of all, would I be sad about being nowhere near close to making such a commitment myself?
Well, it turns out, being a single gal at a wedding — especially a wedding where you don’t really know anyone — is seriously underrated and I had a blast. It was, dare I say it, really kind of great for the self-esteem. Here are three reasons why… Keep reading »
There is a reason why I prefer to go to weddings solo — for fear that I will bring numbers one through five as my date. I enjoy bringing my self respect as my plus one and dancing until I no longer have any. [Buzzfeed]
“One of my dearest friends is getting married in a few months and she’s asked me to be a bridesmaid. Super! However, she had requested that the bridesmaids wear some kind of brown suit instead of the usual dress. Now, while I really appreciate her originality and desire for us girls to be able to use our outfits again later (and really actually use them), I have been having the hardest time finding something cute, appropriate, and cool enough to be worn in Texas in July. We can choose pants, skirts, maybe even some tailored shorts in any shade of brown.” – Brown Frown
First off, you must be a really good friend, because that is a really ungodly bad color scheme to go with for a wedding. You’re fighting against two difficulties here: 1) The color and 2) the heat. So it’s imperative that if you’re being told to wear a “suit” of some kind, you have lightweight layers. And secondly, it’s likely that you’re going to want to take the blazer off as soon as the ceremony portion of the wedding is over, so it’s imperative that you have something real cute on underneath. So I say, focus on that portion of the outfit above all else. And in the event that you can’t find anything that you’re 100 percent thrilled with, remember that you can always cover up a less than thrilling dress with some fun statement jewelry and bold shoes, and hey, it’s only one day out of your life.
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Congratulations, you’re engaged! But approximately 10 seconds after the ring has been placed on your finger, the interrogation from family, friends and coworkers begins: Have you found a dress? Religious or non-religious? How many bridesmaids? Where’s the bachelorette party? How about the honeymoon? How many people are you inviting?
And the biggest one of all: So, have you set a date?
The answer to that question is “No, not yet!” in the new romantic comedy “The Five-Year Engagement.” Tom and Violet, played by Jason Segel and Emily Blunt, find their engagement extended … and extended … and extended after they relocate to Michigan for Violet’s job. But why are long engagements so frowned upon anyway? There are plenty of perfectly good reasons for not rushing to the altar. Here are 10 off the top of our heads… Keep reading »