I’ve always marched to the beat of my own drum. Whether it’s what I write about, the clothes I wear, or the choices I’ve made in my career, I’m not one to do things a certain way just because that’s how everyone else does it.
But even I surprised myself when my fiance and I decided to get married and picked a date just five weeks away.
Let me explain: Kale is Australian. I’m American. I have lived in New York City for the better part of 12 years. He took a yearlong sabbatical from his office job in Australia one year ago to come to NYC and pursue standup comedy. Boy met girl. Boy and girl fell in love. Month passed. Boy and girl realized, “Fuck, I don’t want to live my life without you!”
So we’re getting married. And we’re getting married soon. My therapist joked to me that five weeks is more like an “extended elopement.” A little more than a month is not a lot of time to plan a wedding, even a City Hall ceremony like ours. I’ve never been the girl who daydreamed about her wedding colors and her poofy white dress — but even I’ll admit this timeline is kind of crazy.
I’ve never planned a wedding before, or even thrown a really big party before, so it’s really trial by fire. Without further ado, here’s everything I know about how to plan a wedding — in only slightly more time than the gestation period of a rabbit — without going insane. Well … only going a little insane. I hope it applies to brides with more normal wedding planning time frames as well. Keep reading »
The New York Times, ever concerned about the plight of the three people it takes to make a Style Section trend story, has identified a disturbing new tendency among women to … plan their weddings. But wait for it: they’re not just planning their weddings, they’re doing it on the Internet and they’re doing it while single.
The horrors, they are horrifying. Time to muster the judgment and disdain appropriate to the situation: these pathetic cases are wasting their sad-ass time, and their real human relationships are suffering for it, because using the Internet means shunning all human contact, only going outside once a week to get a gallon of milk and a bag of cat food. Keep reading »
Last Friday night, Patrick and I took a break from drinking beers and talking smack about Mitt Romney to befriend two couples who happened by our neighborhood bar. They needed a place to sit; we offered to share our table. And as many newly engaged couples are, all four of them were a little bit … glowy. It was incredibly fun to hear about their wedding plans — we even may have talked one pair into holding a karaoke reception. But it also got me thinking about what I wish I’d known when “We’re getting married!” suddenly became a thing that was happening to me. Keep reading »
Of all of the many things I worried about before our wedding — dreaming of accidentally getting huge, hideous chest tattoos or enduring painful silence at our karaoke reception — one thing that never occurred to me to worry about was, “What if our wedding venue falls through 20 days before our wedding date and we have to find an entirely new location at which to get married, two hundred miles away from where we live?” I should have known better. Keep reading »
I started having emotional breakdowns about a month into wedding planning. Sweaty palms, heart racing, knees weak, teary eyes, total immobilization. I would find myself staring at a web page filled with tiki torches or green bridesmaid dresses or centerpiece ideas, and I would just stop dead in my wedding tracks.
It became the worst when Patrick would ask me for ideas or advice. Two questions in a row about the wedding and I’d be a shaky, sweaty mess. All of a sudden, my mind was deluged with worst-case scenarios and paralyzing fear of judgment from others. How do you plan a party everyone has already been to before, but also make it the paragon of amazing loveness that super-embodies the perfect lovey-face of your wonderful and unique relationship?
Moreover, will our venue let us put party lights up and what if we don’t have party lights and we trigger Armageddon right then and there?!
Wedding planning is the worst. Keep reading »
This Thursday, JCPenney is hosting an online wedding registry party, in which engaged couples and friends and family of engaged couples can speak to a registry expert and see demonstrations of KitchenAid, Cusinart, and Mikasa products. The party lasts from 7:30 p.m. to 8:30pm CT (8:30 – 9:30pm ET). JCPenney will also award 10 prizes every 10 minutes during the hour-long party. Also, all guests of the online shindig will receive a $10 discount coupon to be used on any $25 or more home purchase. Space is limited, so you need to sign up now. [JCPenney Online Wedding Registry Party] Keep reading »
Wedding uber-website Style Me Pretty has teamed up with the folks over at Google to bring brides-to-be wedding-specific (and brand-new) Google Docs Templates to keep their big day organized. They’re seriously useful—guest list templates, scheduling docs, seating charts, a vow-writing template and a music list–all documents that you can share in the usual Google Doc way. Now, you and your mom or soon-to-be-mother-in-law or fiancé can all make changes and updates from different locations (great if you don’t live near your family and are sick of sending that excel spreadsheet back and forth!). They’ve really thought of everything. I’m eyeballing the day-of scheduler right this very second! [Google Wedding Template Collection] Keep reading »
The number of grooms wanting to help with wedding planning seems to be growing. While women have books, magazines, and websites devoted to being a bride, the guys get next to nothing. However, a few new websites are tackling the subject for gogetter grooms. GroomGroove.com tackles buying wedding night lingerie (“Depending on your budget, you should look to spend between $60-$100 on a nice bra.”). The Grumpy Groom shares personal stories about the wedding process. Personally, I think it’s great that grooms are getting involved in the planning of weddings. If I get married, I don’t think I’ll want to make decisions about everything alone. It would be nice if my husband-to-be got involved. Maybe talking more openly about weddings and marriage will make more guys want to do tie the knot. Certainly, some women will feel like they’re special day is getting encroached upon. Would you want your future husband to be more involved in the wedding planning process? Or would that increase wedding anxiety? [NY Times] Keep reading »