Like everyone else, I watched Jeff Wong and Erin Martin’s totally over-the-top save-the-date wedding video. Like many others, I noticed that the bride-to-be is taller than her groom-to-be. How much taller? Significantly. At least four inches, I think. Maybe six. As I’ve written about here before, I’m tall (6’1″) and dating a tall woman has its own unique challenges. But the fact of the matter is that, for the most part, I go out with guys my height or taller. The shortest guy I ever went out with? 5’10″. The tallest? 6’6″. Lately, I’ve been wondering, does that make me a heightist? Keep reading »
This is just a portion of the completely epic invitation to Jill and Matt’s wedding. The whole thing is about a foot and a half long and tells the entire saga of their relationship, from meeting at work to dating long-distance for seven years to eventually landing in the same city. It’s sort of storybook, and I love the simple presentation and the use of different fonts. But one question — did they have to use custom envelopes? View the full invite here. Keep reading »
A couple weeks ago I addressed the issue of a woman changing her name when she marries. I expressed that although I don’t plan to change my name when I get hitched this summer, I respect and appreciate every woman’s right to choose what’s best for her. I reject the notion some have expressed that when a woman takes her husband’s last name she’s giving up her identity.
But then I had an interesting conversation with my mother recently that added a whole new layer to this name and identity dichotomy. I’ve been working on wedding invitations and I’m in the middle of finalizing a guest list and collecting addresses, so I shot my mom an email to make sure I had the most current addresses of our family members, and I also asked how I should formally address certain people on the envelopes. I figured that my mother and grandmother, being total old-school traditionalists, would prefer to be addressed with their husbands as Mr. and Mrs. TheirHusband’sFirstAndLastName, but I wasn’t sure about everyone else. How, for example, should I address my aunt who’s divorced but retained her married name?
My mother’s reply sort of shocked me. Keep reading »