Everyone is asking me what my recent bikini wax felt like, but honestly, it’s difficult to find the right words. Really, what words are there to describe the experience of having hot wax ripped off your vulva?
But a picture is worth a thousand words, so they say, and luckily for us, a reader sent me this YouTube video of her first bikini waxing. Don’t worry, you won’t see another lady’s vadge — just her OMFG-why-am-I-doing-this facial expressions and hear a pernicious riiiiiiip in the background. [YouTube] Keep reading »
I’ve waxed my eyebrows. I’ve waxed my upper lip. But when it came to waxing my ladyparts, I passed. I checked out. I just chose to be a noncombatant. I removed excess hair on my eyebrows and on my upper lip because it embarrassed me. But did it make sense to be embarrassed — nay, to form an opinion at all — about a part of my body seen by no one but me? No, I decided, it didn’t. In fact, a woman’s vagina is so personal and so private that I thought it would be pretty un-feminist to feel shame that it didn’t look quote, unquote “pretty.” (And yes, I’ve seen Eve Ensler’s play “The Vagina Monologues,” like, eight times.) Besides, who would want to let an aesthetician down there with her tongue depressor dipped in hot wax? Surely someone of heartier stock than I.
Then I had my first bikini wax at age 26 and surprised myself by liking it. Keep reading »
In this clip from “Kourtney and Khloe Take Miami,” Khloe is “freaking out” because her husband, Lamar Odom, has “never seen” her lady bits without a bikini wax. The horrors! Luckily Kourtney is down for waxing her sister’s bikini line so as not to offend Lamar’s delicate eyes. That’s sisterhood for you. I think? [Styleite] Keep reading »
Women have been battling excess hair problems for years, and the sun has always been one of the best, not to mention free, solutions because it bleaches hair blond, making it pretty much undetectable. But let’s just clear one thing up, ladies, it doesn’t matter what time of the year it is, when you have a mustache … you have a mustache. Just because it’s blond doesn’t mean that no one can see it. And, unfortunately, we haven’t seen a woman since Frida Kahlo who could pull off upper lip fuzz. Keep reading »
Earlier this month a Brit was feeling generous at a charity fundraiser, so he offered up his balls for a bikini wax at the pub. Alas, that was the day Joe Cooper, 24, learned a valuable lesson about mixing manscaping with alcohol. Keep reading »
Last month’s Cosmo featured DIY bikini wax instructions, including stencils for shaping your bush. This got us to thinking: If you groom your pubic hair into a crazy topiary, does it get a reaction? What do guys do when they see hair in the shape of a heart or a lightning bolt? Tell us your experience with shaped bushes and the reactions they’ve received! Keep reading »
The other day I was reading “Get Naked,” the sex column in Time Out New York, and was surprised by an answer given to a letter from a recently divorced woman wondering if, now that she’s dating again, she should be removing all her pubic hair. She writes:
I was married and faithful for 15 years, and last time I was single, nobody ever mentioned shaving that stuff off. So imagine my confusion when my first new sexual partner after a decade and a half showed thinly disguised displeasure at my very short, clean, well-groomed pubic hair. He insinuated that everyone shaves that off now, and my two single, close girlfriends have told me that they remove it all. I have tried this a few times, and it always resulted in lots of ingrown hairs, a red rash and an uncomfortable, itchy grow-back period. That waxing thing sounds too violent for my taste. I really don’t want to feel like I have to shave it all off, but I don’t want to appear like an out-of-touch, hairy freak, either. So, is it true? Does everyone nowadays go bare down there? And what if I don’t want to?
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I’ve tried waxing my lady regions before. It didn’t go well. There were burns and blood, and I threw a few things. That was a few months ago, and it prompted me to seek out Irina, a lovely Eastern European woman of epic bikini waxing skill. But apparently time does heal all wounds and traumas, because I decided to forgo the awkward squirming that comes with a relative stranger being so close to my lady parts and give the home waxing another go. Sorry, Irina, but I won’t be coming back to your too-well-lit chamber of horrors. If you’re up for the DIY waxing challenge, I recommend GiGi’s Brazilian bikini wax. Don’t let the odd mint green color put you off. This stuff’s microwaveable, doesn’t require strips, and works really, really well. That said, there are a few things you should be prepared for… Keep reading »
Wendy is stuck at jury duty this week and will hopefully—knock on wood!—be back
tomorrow or Thursday next week. Until then, here’s one of her best Dear Wendy columns.
I’ve recently started dating a super smart, weird, quirky, cute, funny and beautiful girl. I never like anyone, but I like her. There’s one minor (hairy) issue. She doesn’t keep things very trimmed down there. Now, before you get angry, let me preface this by saying that I really don’t need a Brazilian on my girl (or even anything really from the South American continent, for that matter)– just a nice landing strip. Is that too much to ask for? Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, so I do keep my things regularly trimmed. We’ve only been dating for a month or so, but we’ve spent a lot of time together (it’s a long distance thing, so we’ve basically spent the past few weekends totally together = relationship time warp), so I feel as if this isn’t jumping the gun or anything to think about long term personal grooming habits. am I being a superficial douche? Isn’t it fair to ask for some quid pro quo trimming? I think yes. If you agree, my ultimate question is: how do I broach the trimming subject with my long distance girl? What strategies do you have? — Hair Hater
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Thanks so much for the free stencils in the May issue! While I think it’s cool that you’re clearly listening to your readers’ cries for more DIY content and money saving tips, I’m happy to leave the fancy pubic styling to the professionals. Trust me, I’m usually a shaver and maintain my bikini line on a daily basis with some foam and a Schick. But on those occasions when I want something flirty down below — like the “Love Triangle,” “Sweetheart,” “This Way For Fun” arrow, and “Landing Strip” — I’d rather fork over $40 for Helga to do it right. Somehow the five step process required for giving myself “some down-there flair” seems dangerous, messy, and, well, cheap?
That said, these stencils will come in handy the next time I babysit a 5-year-old and we’re working on a craft project.
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