A Chinese woman’s virginity is worth $5,000, at least in this instance. A woman referred to only by her surname Chen was awarded that amount yesterday by a Chinese court after she sued a man she was dating (and later learned was married) for “violating her right to virginity.” She alleged that he pretended to be single, vowed to marry her, and bedded her, according to Shanghai media via AFP; one outlet goes so far as to specify that they consummated the relationship while on a trip to Singapore late last year. The South China Morning Post reports “Li” ended things soon after the trip. Looking to talk to him, Chen went to his home in February and discovered his wife. The suit followed. Read more on Newser…
I was 25 when I kissed someone for the first time.
I’d met him at a local book club, and we hit it off almost instantly. Our first date started at eight p.m. and ended shortly after one a.m. Though we’d planned a second official date for the following Tuesday, we ended up hanging out every evening for the next few days. I was smitten, he was smitten, and it wasn’t long before we were A Thing.
Two months later, I moved to Chicago and we broke up. But before all that happened, before this relationship went down in the flaming ball of pain that plagues so many long distance relationships, we had several wonderful evenings together. We watched movies, went out to eat, walked through parks, and, yes, fooled around on his small loveseat in his apartment.
In the technical sense, I never actually “lost” my virginity (at least not with him). But I no longer felt like a virgin because I was now sexually experienced. And this was a problem for the culture I came from, because I had committed the greatest of all sins: I had engaged in premarital fooling around with someone. Keep reading »
Well, that’s one way to get attention. Adokiye Kyrian, a Nigerian pop singer, ruffled some feathers this week when she (jokingly?) offered up her virginity if the Islamic extremist group Boko Haram would release the 200+ school girls they kidnapped back in April. She told Vanguard’s Showtime:
“This is 11 p.m. in the night and do you know what I am thinking about? Those little girls, where they are and what could be happening to them. It is just unfair. They are too young. I wish I could offer myself in exchange. They are between 12 and 15 year old girls for Christ sake. I am older and more experienced. Even if 10 to 12 men have to take me every night, I don’t care. Just release these girls and let them go back to their parents.” Keep reading »
Believe it or not, saying goodbye your virgin hair is a lot like losing your actual virginity. Whether you’re getting highlights, lowlights, or a full-head dye job, altering your natural hair color for the first time, especially as a full-grown adult, can be pretty terrifying … but also exciting!
I recently decided to undergo a hair transformation myself, and while it wasn’t super drastic, it was enough of a change that I still felt all the feelings. Dirty blonde up until this time last week, I decided I wanted to lighten my locks with a full head of highlights and go blonder for the first time ever. So I did. And now I’m MUCH blonder. Believe it or not, I found that parting ways with my former hair was a lot like having sex for the first time all over again. Let me explain… Keep reading »
Maybe you became sexually active a long time ago. Or sex doesn’t really interest you. Or you’ve done a couple sexual activities but are taking it slowly. No matter who you are or where you live, you will have thought about whether or not you are a “virgin” — and what exactly being a “virgin” means.
The 2013 documentary by Therese Shechter (above) called “How To Lose Your Virginity” spans purity balls, school hallways and the porn set of “Barely Legal” to explore our cultural fascination with virginity and the myths that surround it. American society has made it clear that even if we can’t exactly agree on what “virginity” means, we still hold it in reverence, particularly for women. We are, after all, the country that promotes abstinence-only education in far too many classrooms and allows eight-year-old girls to promise their fathers they will remain virgins until marriage. And did you know you could purchase a fake hymen for $30 on the Internet?
Lucky for you, “How To Lose Your Virginity” debuts on Saturday, February 8th at 8 p.m. EST on Fusion (check cable providers here) with other screenings after that. On a recent snowy day, I chatted with Therese over Skype about virginity (obviously), abstinence-only sex education, white panties, and “the magical penis”. Keep reading »