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University Of Arizona Is Totally Cool With Student Holding “You Deserve Rape” Sign On Campus

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A University Of Arizona junior named Dean Saxton was photographed last Tuesday standing on campus holding a sign reading “You Deserve Rape” while yelling insults at students. Saxton, who fancies himself a preacher and delivers sermons on campus, told the Daily Wildcat newspaper, emphasis mine, “If you dress like a whore, act like a whore, you’re probably going to get raped. I think that girls that dress and act like [whores], they should realize they do have partial responsibility, because I believe they’re pretty much asking for it.”

He is simply bold enough to verbalize what a lot of people in our rape culture already think about how women deserve violence against them.  But if I were working in administration for UA, I would be down on my knees praying that Saxton is not a ticking time bomb who doesn’t actually go and rape some “whore” on campus who was “asking for it.” Keep reading »

Domestic Violence Victims Screwed Over By PA Town’s “Three Strikes” Disorderly Behavior Ordinance

A Picture A Day
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... in the year of a domestic violence victim. Read More »
Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
Hurting Victims
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The NYPD has a misguided strategy to force DV victims to cooperate. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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Most folks would be happy if their neighbors got evicted after three different “disorderly behavior” instances in less than three months. No one wants to deal with that much partying, dog barking, or loud music, right? But a “three strikes” disorderly behavior ordinance in Norristown, Pennsylvania, is now being challenged by the American Civil Liberties Union of PA because instead of just evicting noisy nuisance neighbors, it is being used to evict innocent domestic violence victims for calling the police for help.

The ACLU filed this week on behalf of Lakisha Briggs, a domestic violence victim who called the police last year when her ex-boyfriend assaulted her; they arrived and arrested him. But police also told Briggs that if they kept returning to the residence over disorderly behavior calls, she would get evicted. Not surprisingly, Briggs was afraid to call the police regarding future incidents — including the time her ex-boyfriend attacked her with a brick — over fear that she and her three-year-old child would become homeless. And yet after a June 2012 attack from her ex-boyfriend that had Briggs airlifted to the hospital, police of Norristown threatened to evict them from their home because neighbors had called to complain.  Keep reading »

Louis C.K. Jokes (But Not Really) That Men Are The Biggest Threat To Women

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Daniel Tosh joked about a woman in audience getting raped. Read More »
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Jamie Kilstein tells one. Read More »
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Dating Takes Courage!

Louis C.K. fans like myself groaned after the whole Daniel Tosh rape joke incident so we’re relieved it was a misunderstanding and that C.K. is at least slightly more feminist-minded.  In an article at Slate, David Haglund writes about Louis C.K.’s new HBO special, which includes what some people are calling C.K.’s “feminist rape joke“:

Halfway through the new special, C.K. starts talking about how dating is an act of bravery for all involved. “The male courage, traditionally speaking, is that he decided to ask” a woman out. (Note the careful caveat, “traditionally speaking.”) And if the woman says yes, “that’s her courage.” That kind of courage, he says, is beyond his imagining. “How do women still go out with guys, when you consider that there is no greater threat to women than men? We’re the number one threat to women! Globally and historically, we’re the number one cause of injury and mayhem to women.” A moment later he adds, speaking for all men, “You know what our number one threat is? Heart disease.”

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Rick Brainard, Colorado Councilman-Elect, Slapped Girlfriend To “Shut Her Mouth”

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You know those mouthy girlfriends! Sometimes they just need a good slap so she’ll “shut her mouth.” And throw in some hair-pulling and shoving, too.

Rick Brainard, City Councilman-elect of Grand Junction, Colorado, knows all about it. In fact, he admitted to slapping, pushing and hair-pulling to a police officer last Saturday when he was arrested for domestic violence against his girlfriend. Brainard initially denied the abuse, but then confessed that he slapped her because she needed to “shut her mouth.” He was charged with third-degree assault and harassment and spent three days, two nights, in jail. Brainard released a statement on Tuesday stating he still plans to serve on the City Council.

Methinks Rick Brainard is not so fit for public office after all. And, it turns out, so do the constituents calling for him not to be sworn into office in May — as are eight anti-domestic violence groups in CO. [The Daily Sentinel, KREX] (Thanks to reader Jim for the link!)

A Picture A Day, In The Year Of A Domestic Violence Victim

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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
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Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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Domestic Violence Escalates

There was an air of mystery surrounding the alarming video “One Photo A Day In The Worst Year Of My Life” that went viral after it was posted on Reddit. People wondered, Is it real or fake? Devastating personal story, or gripping public service announcement? One thing that we were sure of: it was powerful, upsetting, and had people talking.  The time-lapse-style video chronicled a Serbian girl as she went through the downhill spiral of abuse, as illustrated in one photo per day.   Keep reading »

Please Tell Me This Bra-Clad “Zombie Ex-Girlfriend Shooting Target” Is An April Fool’s Day Joke

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The NRA thinks Natalie Foster will make women want to buy guns. Read More »
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Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
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How a gun-loving West Texas girl learned to fear assault weapons. Read More »

I really, really, really want this to be an April Fool’s Day joke.

ZMB Industries, which manufactures shooting targets which all resemble zombies, has a “zombie ex-girlfriend” target of a bra-clad woman for presumably-male shooters to “kill.”

Put another way: practice murdering your ex-girlfriend, men! It’s okay! Because she’s a “zombie!”

The Bleeding Ex-Girlfriend Target sells for $89.99 and each one is “hand painted to accurately resemble an infected human that just finished gnawing on his trusted courier’s leg, to give you that realistic look so you genuinely feel the hate.” A site that sells the ex-girlfriend target, Motorcycles & Outdoors, also sells Arab “terrorist” and North Korean soldier targets.  My brain can’t even process it all. I’m so disgusted at the cavalier disregard for violence against women that I don’t know what to say. [Motorcycle & Outdoors via Salon]

Meet Natalie Foster, The Woman The NRA Thinks Will Make You Buy A Gun

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Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
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How a gun-loving West Texas girl learned to fear assault weapons. Read More »
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Meet The NRA's New Commentator

This week, the National Rifle Association debuted Natalie Foster as the new video commentator for its website, the NRA News Network, to drum up support for the Second Amendment.

Blonde and telegenic, Foster already blogs for her own site, Girls Guide To Guns, “dedicated to women who dig fashion and fire power,” in which she writes about gun ownership as well as girly tips, like New Year’s cocktails and how to look “extra cute” at a gun range. Her site also includes a list of female-friendly shooting ranges. The NRA News Network (which, by the way, is not exactly espousing “news” if these people are editorializing commentators, which they are) also debuted two other new commentators who are both men. Colion Noir, who is black, is an “urban gun enthusiast” and Dom Raso is a veteran. Altogether, the three are meant to appeal to demographics the NRA desperately wants to reach.

But it’s Natalie Foster who is most disconcerting. I don’t doubt the sincerity of her love for shooting at all. In fact, her website is actually kind of cool. But Foster’s involvement with the NRA is calculated to only pose gun ownership as good for women, appropriating the language of the feminist movement to do so.  In her intro video, she drops the E-word, explaining how she was “empowered” by learning to shoot a gun. She also poses gun ownership for women as a choice akin to abortion: “Our culture is all about women being able to choose for themselves and if you’re going to be able to choose what you do with your body, why aren’t we able to defend our bodies?” Foster isn’t free from gun-related machismo, either: She swoons over her favorite gun and says shooting it makes her “feel like a badass.” Keep reading »

Ford India Ads Show Kardashians & Other Women Bound, Gagged & Locked In Car Trunks

India's Rape Culture
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India's rape culture is out of control. Read More »
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Looking at pictures of women with cartoonishly large breasts, bound and gagged in the backseat of the trunk of a car, you might think you’re looking at bondage porn.

But no, you would be looking at someone’s idea of “advertising” for the Ford Motor Company. The tagline? “Leave Your Worries Behind.” Keep reading »

Addressing Domestic Violence Means Addressing Gun Violence, Says Joe Biden

  • Vice President Joe Biden announced 12 grants to programs around the country to protect potential victims of domestic violence at the hands of their abusers. Noting that between 2009 and 2012, 40 percent of mass shootings began with a man shooting an intimate partner, Biden emphasized, “The issue of domestic violence and reducing gun violence are connected.” [Think Progress, USA TodayWhite House]
  • Survivors of military sexual violence testified before the Senate this week. [Los Angeles Times]
  • Anna Wintour got a promotion within Conde Nast and already people are “concerned” about what this powerful woman is going to do. [Madame Noire] Keep reading »
Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

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BDSM is not "consensual domestic violence." Read More »
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Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
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Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in dominant/submissive (D/s) sex, particularly in spanking. I thought this man would be dominant in bed, as per his online dating profile and a conversation we’d had about it on our date. But instead of just dominant, he was controlling. Before we started playing, I told him the “safe word” I wanted to use. A safe word is a word or phrase used by kinky people during sexual play that they want the play to stop immediately; I never play with a partner without one. To my surprise, this guy told me that safe word I chose was “terrible” and to use something else. That raised a red flag right off the bat.

Another red flag came at one point during play when he called me a “bitch.” I’m not against being called names in bed. In fact, with a partner whom I know and trust, being called a “bad girl” or a “slut” can be really hot! But we never had a conversation about using words like that, and if we had, I would have told him that the word “bitch” was not OK with me.   Keep reading »

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