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Rick Brainard, Colorado Councilman-Elect, Slapped Girlfriend To “Shut Her Mouth”

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You know those mouthy girlfriends! Sometimes they just need a good slap so she’ll “shut her mouth.” And throw in some hair-pulling and shoving, too.

Rick Brainard, City Councilman-elect of Grand Junction, Colorado, knows all about it. In fact, he admitted to slapping, pushing and hair-pulling to a police officer last Saturday when he was arrested for domestic violence against his girlfriend. Brainard initially denied the abuse, but then confessed that he slapped her because she needed to “shut her mouth.” He was charged with third-degree assault and harassment and spent three days, two nights, in jail. Brainard released a statement on Tuesday stating he still plans to serve on the City Council.

Methinks Rick Brainard is not so fit for public office after all. And, it turns out, so do the constituents calling for him not to be sworn into office in May — as are eight anti-domestic violence groups in CO. [The Daily Sentinel, KREX] (Thanks to reader Jim for the link!)

A Picture A Day, In The Year Of A Domestic Violence Victim

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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
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Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
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Domestic Violence Escalates

There was an air of mystery surrounding the alarming video “One Photo A Day In The Worst Year Of My Life” that went viral after it was posted on Reddit. People wondered, Is it real or fake? Devastating personal story, or gripping public service announcement? One thing that we were sure of: it was powerful, upsetting, and had people talking.  The time-lapse-style video chronicled a Serbian girl as she went through the downhill spiral of abuse, as illustrated in one photo per day.   Keep reading »

Please Tell Me This Bra-Clad “Zombie Ex-Girlfriend Shooting Target” Is An April Fool’s Day Joke

Meet Natalie Foster
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The NRA thinks Natalie Foster will make women want to buy guns. Read More »
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Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
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How a gun-loving West Texas girl learned to fear assault weapons. Read More »

I really, really, really want this to be an April Fool’s Day joke.

ZMB Industries, which manufactures shooting targets which all resemble zombies, has a “zombie ex-girlfriend” target of a bra-clad woman for presumably-male shooters to “kill.”

Put another way: practice murdering your ex-girlfriend, men! It’s okay! Because she’s a “zombie!”

The Bleeding Ex-Girlfriend Target sells for $89.99 and each one is “hand painted to accurately resemble an infected human that just finished gnawing on his trusted courier’s leg, to give you that realistic look so you genuinely feel the hate.” A site that sells the ex-girlfriend target, Motorcycles & Outdoors, also sells Arab “terrorist” and North Korean soldier targets.  My brain can’t even process it all. I’m so disgusted at the cavalier disregard for violence against women that I don’t know what to say. [Motorcycle & Outdoors via Salon]

Meet Natalie Foster, The Woman The NRA Thinks Will Make You Buy A Gun

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Vice President Joe Biden says we need to reduce domestic violence via guns. Read More »
Fearing Guns
How a gun-loving West Texas girl learned to fear assault weapons. Read More »
The Soapbox: Gun Control
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Meet The NRA's New Commentator

This week, the National Rifle Association debuted Natalie Foster as the new video commentator for its website, the NRA News Network, to drum up support for the Second Amendment.

Blonde and telegenic, Foster already blogs for her own site, Girls Guide To Guns, “dedicated to women who dig fashion and fire power,” in which she writes about gun ownership as well as girly tips, like New Year’s cocktails and how to look “extra cute” at a gun range. Her site also includes a list of female-friendly shooting ranges. The NRA News Network (which, by the way, is not exactly espousing “news” if these people are editorializing commentators, which they are) also debuted two other new commentators who are both men. Colion Noir, who is black, is an “urban gun enthusiast” and Dom Raso is a veteran. Altogether, the three are meant to appeal to demographics the NRA desperately wants to reach.

But it’s Natalie Foster who is most disconcerting. I don’t doubt the sincerity of her love for shooting at all. In fact, her website is actually kind of cool. But Foster’s involvement with the NRA is calculated to only pose gun ownership as good for women, appropriating the language of the feminist movement to do so.  In her intro video, she drops the E-word, explaining how she was “empowered” by learning to shoot a gun. She also poses gun ownership for women as a choice akin to abortion: “Our culture is all about women being able to choose for themselves and if you’re going to be able to choose what you do with your body, why aren’t we able to defend our bodies?” Foster isn’t free from gun-related machismo, either: She swoons over her favorite gun and says shooting it makes her “feel like a badass.” Keep reading »

Ford India Ads Show Kardashians & Other Women Bound, Gagged & Locked In Car Trunks

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India's rape culture is out of control. Read More »
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Indian newspaper ad implores men to respect women. Read More »
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Looking at pictures of women with cartoonishly large breasts, bound and gagged in the backseat of the trunk of a car, you might think you’re looking at bondage porn.

But no, you would be looking at someone’s idea of “advertising” for the Ford Motor Company. The tagline? “Leave Your Worries Behind.” Keep reading »

Addressing Domestic Violence Means Addressing Gun Violence, Says Joe Biden

  • Vice President Joe Biden announced 12 grants to programs around the country to protect potential victims of domestic violence at the hands of their abusers. Noting that between 2009 and 2012, 40 percent of mass shootings began with a man shooting an intimate partner, Biden emphasized, “The issue of domestic violence and reducing gun violence are connected.” [Think Progress, USA TodayWhite House]
  • Survivors of military sexual violence testified before the Senate this week. [Los Angeles Times]
  • Anna Wintour got a promotion within Conde Nast and already people are “concerned” about what this powerful woman is going to do. [Madame Noire] Keep reading »
Domestic Violence Advice
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I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence while bystanders did nothing. Read More »
I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

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BDSM is not "consensual domestic violence." Read More »
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Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
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Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in dominant/submissive (D/s) sex, particularly in spanking. I thought this man would be dominant in bed, as per his online dating profile and a conversation we’d had about it on our date. But instead of just dominant, he was controlling. Before we started playing, I told him the “safe word” I wanted to use. A safe word is a word or phrase used by kinky people during sexual play that they want the play to stop immediately; I never play with a partner without one. To my surprise, this guy told me that safe word I chose was “terrible” and to use something else. That raised a red flag right off the bat.

Another red flag came at one point during play when he called me a “bitch.” I’m not against being called names in bed. In fact, with a partner whom I know and trust, being called a “bad girl” or a “slut” can be really hot! But we never had a conversation about using words like that, and if we had, I would have told him that the word “bitch” was not OK with me.   Keep reading »

Today Is “No More” Day: Take A Stand Against Violence Against Women

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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
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The violence against women act passed in the Senate. Read More »
After Sexual Assault
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Tips for reclaiming your sex life after being sexually assaulted. Read More »
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The UN's Commission on the Status of Women is happening now! Read More »
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NO MORE. It is a simple, direct message representing a broad and pervasive issue. No more sexual assault. No more violence against women. Today, March 13 marks NO MORE day, a day to join the movement to stop domestic violence and sexual assault, and launch the organization’s new symbol — a thick “O” of light blue. Keep reading »

Shot By The Taliban For Being A Feminist: Cartoonist Illustrates Malala’s Story

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Angelina Jolie says to use Malala's shooting as a teachable moment. Read More »
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After four months in the hospital, Malala is well enough to leave. Read More »
  • This is awesome: Australian cartoonist Gavin Aung Than has created a cartoon depicting the story of Malala Yousafzai, the Pakistani teenager who was shot in the head by the Taliban because she’s a vocal activist on behalf of girls’ education. It’s short and sweet, but terrifying and touching. You can read the full cartoon on his web site, Zen Pencils.  [Clutch Magazine]
  • Celeste Greig, head of the California Republican Assembly, suggested that pregnancies resulting from rape are rare “because it’s an act of violence, because the body is traumatized.” It’s like Todd Akin 2.0! [Feministing]
  • New York City’s City Council Speaker Christine Quinn official announced her candidacy for mayor. If elected Quinn would be NYC’s first openly gay mayor, as well as its first female mayor. [Gothamist]
  • South Dakota’s governor signed that awful anti-abortion bill into law which extends waiting periods to not include weekends or holidays. [Feminist.org] Keep reading »

Sir Patrick Stewart Calls On “One Million Men” To End Violence Against Women

Domestic Violence Advice
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... from a prosecutor who has seen it all. Read More »
I Witnessed DV
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Jessica watched a man commit domestic violence on her street. Read More »
Why Domestic Violence Victims Stay
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Should we ask victims of domestic violence why they stay? Read More »

“Every nine seconds in the United States a woman is assaulted or beaten. Every nine seconds. Violence against women is the single greatest human rights violation of our generation. This is a call to action—not an action that will make things better in six months’ time or a year’s time, but action that might save someone’s life and someone’s future this afternoon, tonight, tomorrow morning.”

– I’m still on vacation in Paris, but I always can find time to post about my favorite Starfleet captain — Captain Jean Luc Picard, I mean. Sir Patrick Stewart, who of course portrayed Picard on “Star Trek: The Next Generation,” was the host for the launch of “Ring The Bell,” a global campaign calling on one million men to make one million “concrete, actionable promises” to end violence against women. Stewart also spoke from his own experience with domestic violence, which he witnessed between his mother and father as a child.  Keep reading »

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