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AnnaLynne McCord Writes Moving Essay For Cosmo About Being Sexually Assaulted

AnnaLynne McCord Writes Moving Essay For Cosmo About Being Sexually Assaulted

When I was 18, I moved to Los Angeles to audition for roles. My boyfriend planned to come later. One night, a guy friend called. He said he needed a good night’s sleep for a meeting, as he’d been crashing on someone’s couch. I had known him for some time, so I said to come over and I set him up with a clean towel. We sat on the bed and talked for a while, then I fell asleep. When I woke up, he was inside me.

At first, I felt so disoriented and numb, I closed my eyes and pretended to be asleep. I wondered if I had done something to give him the wrong idea. I felt afraid of making him angry. Believe it or not, I didn’t want to offend him. I just wanted it to be over. My childhood had come back to haunt me again: Because of the physical abuse, I didn’t believe there were borders between other people’s bodies and my own. I didn’t believe I had a voice.

Actress AnnaLynne McCord — best known for her role on the “90210″ reboot — has written a very powerful essay for Cosmopolitan called “Why I’m Done Staying Quiet About My Sexual Assault” that I urge you to read, as it demonstrates how a woman’s feeling of ownership over her body can be chipped away piece by piece. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: “I Always Felt As If White Girls Thought Less Of Me Because I Was Half-Asian”: There Should Be More Discussion About Elliot Rodger’s Racism

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It feels like the entire Internet is having one big argument about Elliot Rodger, the 22-year-old who murdered six people near the UC Santa Barbara campus before killing himself last Friday.

Did he mostly have a problem with misogyny? Did he mostly have a problem with mental illness? Did he mostly have a problem with a spoiled and entitled upbringing? Is it possible it could be a combination of all of these things?

Like many people this weekend, I read (okay, briskly skimmed — he was not a good writer) his 140-page “manifesto,” “My Twisted World: The Story Of Elliot Rodger,” looking to better understand this tragedy. There’s plenty to unpack there, what with his misogynist, crazy ideas about women deserving to be placed in concentration camps and only used for sex. But what hasn’t gotten quite as much media attention is the area where Elliot Rodger’s misogynistic entitlement and his racist views intersected.  Keep reading »

A Reading List On Elliot Rodger, Misogyny & Toxic Masculinity

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There have been so many pieces analyzing UC Santa Barbara shooter Elliot Rodger and his extreme misogyny towards women. Here are a few must-read pieces:

Today’s Lady News will return to its normal news-roundup column tomorrow. 

Family Stones Pakistani Woman To Death In So-Called “Honor Killing” For Marrying Man She Loved [UPDATE]

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[UPDATE, 5/28:] The New York Times reports that Farazana Parveen was three months pregnant when she was killed. [New York Times]

A 25-year-old woman was murdered by nearly 20 family members in Pakistan today because she “dishonored” the family by marrying the man she loved.

Faranza Bibi was stoned to death in a so-called “honor killing” in broad daylight while waiting outside of a Lahore court with her husband. Faranza had intended to challenge a kidnapping charge filed by her family. She intended to tell the court she willingly married the man of her own choosing, Muhammad Iqbal, and did not want an arranged marriage to her cousin. Before the court opened, her father, brothers and former fiance descended upon her with bricks and sticks. Faranza was pronounced dead at a hospital from severe head injuries. Iqbal managed to escape the attack. Keep reading »

Not All Men Are Dangerous, But Yes, All Women Do Live With The Fear Of Elliot Rodger’s Fury

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“Life is not fair. One can either accept that fact, keeling over in defeat; or one can harness the strength to fight against it. My destiny was to fight against the unfairness of the world.” – Elliot Rodger

On Friday night a man stabbed and killed three men in his apartment, got into his car, drove through the postcard-pretty college town of Isla Vista, California, and killed three more people while injuring 13 others.

He was Not All Men, of course, just a deeply disturbed, homicidal 22-year old who has been identified as Elliot Rodger.

Before I write anything, I first need to pause and offer my sincerest condolences to the loved ones of those who were killed. Like the rest of the world, I am also heartsick for those who were injured and traumatized by this attack. Nothing anyone can do or say will ever bring them back and that is a tragedy no words will ever rectify. Keep reading »

#YesAllWomen: Women Tweet Stories Of Their Personhood Being Violated

YesAllWomen: Women Tweets Stories Of Their Personhood Being Violated

Friday night, six people were killed in Isla Vista, California, near the campus of UC Santa Barbara, by Elliot Rodger, a 22-year-old bent on “retribution” for his lack of success with girls. Rodger died as well from, police believe, a self-inflicted gunshot wound. Various YouTube videos, internet forum comments, and a 140-page manifesto (which I read in full) sent to a local news station reveal the misogyny behind Rodger’s violent mass murder. Rodger felt he deserved sex, love, adulation and devotion from women, for no reason other than his perceived belief that he was a “gentleman,” and that women should die for denying him that. The mental state that led him to actually commit that violence is a subject that should be addressed but not as a distraction from the misogyny that fueled it. Why? Because women everywhere — YES, ALL WOMEN — deal with this denial of their full personhood every day. This shared experience is what prompted the hashtag #YESALLWOMEN, featuring women’s stories of their personal autonomy being violated in ways “big” and “small,” and the ways we’re forced to protect ourselves from these violations. It is incredibly powerful and I urge you all to look through the hashtag here.

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