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Indian Minister On Rape: “Sometimes It’s Right, Sometimes It’s Wrong”

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  • A minister in India’s ruling party said about rape: “sometimes it’s right, sometimes it’s wrong.” [Guardian UK]
  • Understanding rape in India means first understanding the caste system. [New York Times]
  • Planned Parenthood of the Heartland has closed two clinics in southwest Iowa. [Des Moines Register]
  • On being a victim of street harassment at eight month’s pregnant. [xoJane] Keep reading »

“Louie,” Attempted Rape And Awful Questions

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This piece was crossposted with permission from Happy Nice Time People.

Louis C.K. did terrible grabbing, pushing, forced kissing and more to a lady on his teevee program “Louie” and everyone was freaked out. He tried to drag her into a bedroom and it was disturbing and I can’t watch the whole clip all at once because it makes me feel weird inside in an uncomfortable fashion, and not just because fanfuckingtastic Pamela Adlon was the voice of my beloved Bobby on “King of the Hill.” Jezebel has a good thing about it that you can read and ponder.

I do not like seeing this Comedy Hero pretend-attempt to rape a lady, which is probably good, because if I were into that sort of thing, I should probably be in even more therapy. Anyway, I think “Louie” starts important conversations on important things, and it’s the closest thing we presently have to the socially conscious sitcoms of the ’70s and early ’80s (and also “Roseanne,” thank you very much) and that is why we’re talking about it right now. Keep reading »

#AllMenCan Crowdsources How Men Can Be Good Allies

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#YesAllWomen: Women Tweets Stories Of Their Personhood Being Violated
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Not all men are dangerous, but yes, all women do live in fear of it. Read More »
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Thoughts on misogyny in the wake of the UCSB massacre. Read More »
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“Hashtag activism” gets a bad rap. My thoughts? Hey, it can’t hurt. And I like the idea behind the hashtag #AllMenCan, especially since I think it’s a natural reaction for any human to feel defensive (hence the all-too-common refrain “Not all men!”). It looks to have generated yesterday from the Twitter user @PenguinGalaxy. #AllMenCan crowdsources ideas on how men can be good allies in a world where violence against women runs rampant. It pains me that we live in a society where we have to say things like “all men can talk to their sons and daughters about what consent means” and “all men can nurture the boys in our lives, reassure them and *show* them that men and boys can and do cry and show emotion.” But that’s the world we live in, sadly. Anyway, PolicyMic has a particularly good roundup of guys who participated in the hashtag holding signs, such as this gentleman above. Frisky readers who are men, perhaps you might think about participating yourselves? [PolicyMic]

AnnaLynne McCord Writes Moving Essay For Cosmo About Being Sexually Assaulted

AnnaLynne McCord Writes Moving Essay For Cosmo About Being Sexually Assaulted

When I was 18, I moved to Los Angeles to audition for roles. My boyfriend planned to come later. One night, a guy friend called. He said he needed a good night’s sleep for a meeting, as he’d been crashing on someone’s couch. I had known him for some time, so I said to come over and I set him up with a clean towel. We sat on the bed and talked for a while, then I fell asleep. When I woke up, he was inside me.

At first, I felt so disoriented and numb, I closed my eyes and pretended to be asleep. I wondered if I had done something to give him the wrong idea. I felt afraid of making him angry. Believe it or not, I didn’t want to offend him. I just wanted it to be over. My childhood had come back to haunt me again: Because of the physical abuse, I didn’t believe there were borders between other people’s bodies and my own. I didn’t believe I had a voice.

Actress AnnaLynne McCord — best known for her role on the “90210″ reboot — has written a very powerful essay for Cosmopolitan called “Why I’m Done Staying Quiet About My Sexual Assault” that I urge you to read, as it demonstrates how a woman’s feeling of ownership over her body can be chipped away piece by piece. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: “I Always Felt As If White Girls Thought Less Of Me Because I Was Half-Asian”: There Should Be More Discussion About Elliot Rodger’s Racism

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It feels like the entire Internet is having one big argument about Elliot Rodger, the 22-year-old who murdered six people near the UC Santa Barbara campus before killing himself last Friday.

Did he mostly have a problem with misogyny? Did he mostly have a problem with mental illness? Did he mostly have a problem with a spoiled and entitled upbringing? Is it possible it could be a combination of all of these things?

Like many people this weekend, I read (okay, briskly skimmed — he was not a good writer) his 140-page “manifesto,” “My Twisted World: The Story Of Elliot Rodger,” looking to better understand this tragedy. There’s plenty to unpack there, what with his misogynist, crazy ideas about women deserving to be placed in concentration camps and only used for sex. But what hasn’t gotten quite as much media attention is the area where Elliot Rodger’s misogynistic entitlement and his racist views intersected.  Keep reading »

A Reading List On Elliot Rodger, Misogyny & Toxic Masculinity

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There have been so many pieces analyzing UC Santa Barbara shooter Elliot Rodger and his extreme misogyny towards women. Here are a few must-read pieces:

Today’s Lady News will return to its normal news-roundup column tomorrow. 

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