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8 Things I’ve Learned After Getting Lots Of Emails About Sexual Assault

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Last week, The Frisky published an essay by an anonymous writer about her rape. She wrote about the absurdity of columnist George Will’s allegation that being a victim of sexual assault confers certain privileges. Activists have responded to Will’s inane, offensive piece with the hashtag #SurvivorPrivilege, snarkily writing about all the ways that they’ve “benefitted” from their sexual assault. Our writer’s piece focused on losing her virginity at 16 through rape and the effect it has had on her life.

The writer chose to be anonymous. So, as I often do, I put a note at the end of the piece offering to forward emails along to the author if anyone wanted to be in touch. I didn’t necessarily expect any response. But in the ensuing week, I’ve been blown away by the amount of email that I’ve been forwarding (and will continue to forward as they come in). These emails have been showing me things, both good and bad, about sexual assault in America.

NOTE: I want to make clear that am not referring to any specific letter writing, or sharing details of anyone’s story without permission. These are observations that I’ve made in aggregate from all the emails. My hope is to convey how similar stories of sexual assault and how powerful they are in a way that slogans and statistics can’t contain.  Keep reading »

PurrVerse: I Don’t Need Male Protection, Thanks

PurrVerse: I Don't Need Male Protection, Thanks

Women are given mixed messages on a regular basis. We’re told that we’re shattering glass ceilings and are independent ladies, while at the same time we’re told we’re a mess barely keeping ourselves together. Just today I got a Facebook advert demanding my attention so I can discover the newest fad diet that doesn’t really work. I’m told I should love my body and loathe it on a regular basis. I’ve come to expect that kind of thing.

Recently The Washington Post cited a study by the Bureau of Justice purportedly telling women that we should stop taking so many lovers and instead marry our “baby daddy.” That choice of words speaks rather clearly about the fundamental racism and classism indicated within the article and the logic being displayed. We are not talking about wealthy white women here, are we? Keep reading »

The Washington Post Says Women Should Stop Slutting Around And Get Married If They Want To End Violence Against Women

Just a day after columnist George Will wrote about the “privileges” rape victims receive, The Washington Post has seemingly doubled down on the victim-blaming with an article in their (crowd-sourced but still edited) Post Everything section which says women would be safer from domestic violence if they got “hitched to their baby daddies.” Above, the original headline on the bullshit data-filled article written by two conservative (and male) university professors, which has since been altered to be sliiiiightly less loathsome (gone is the racially-charged phrase “baby daddies”). See, the “data” shows that by being around less men, women are less likely to encounter one who will hurt them (and their children), or something. And bonus! According to the two dipshits behind this awful piece, ”marriage also seems to cause men to behave better” so, you know, they’re less likely to beat their wives. I. CANNOT. WITH. THIS. [The Washington Post via Gawker]

18-Year-Old Girl In Pakistan Survives Attempted “Honor Killing”

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  • An 18-year-old girl in Pakistan survived an attempted “honor killing” for marrying the man she loved. Her father, brother, aunt and uncle shot her twice, stuffed her body in a sack, and dumped her body in a canal. Luckily, the victim was helped to safety by two passersby. However, recently a pregnant 25-year-old woman in Pakistan was murdered in an “honor killing” because she married a man of her own choosing. [New York Daily News]
  • R. Kelly’s 14-year-old teen son, Jay, has reportedly been outed as transgender. Not so surprisingly, some of the media coverage is pretty terrible. [ColorLines]
  • New Hampshire’s governor is expected to sign a bill that would mandate 25-foot “buffer zones” outside of reproductive health clinics to keep anti-abortion protesters from harassing staff and patients. [Boston.com] Keep reading »

Indian Minister On Rape: “Sometimes It’s Right, Sometimes It’s Wrong”

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  • A minister in India’s ruling party said about rape: “sometimes it’s right, sometimes it’s wrong.” [Guardian UK]
  • Understanding rape in India means first understanding the caste system. [New York Times]
  • Planned Parenthood of the Heartland has closed two clinics in southwest Iowa. [Des Moines Register]
  • On being a victim of street harassment at eight month’s pregnant. [xoJane] Keep reading »

“Louie,” Attempted Rape And Awful Questions

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This piece was crossposted with permission from Happy Nice Time People.

Louis C.K. did terrible grabbing, pushing, forced kissing and more to a lady on his teevee program “Louie” and everyone was freaked out. He tried to drag her into a bedroom and it was disturbing and I can’t watch the whole clip all at once because it makes me feel weird inside in an uncomfortable fashion, and not just because fanfuckingtastic Pamela Adlon was the voice of my beloved Bobby on “King of the Hill.” Jezebel has a good thing about it that you can read and ponder.

I do not like seeing this Comedy Hero pretend-attempt to rape a lady, which is probably good, because if I were into that sort of thing, I should probably be in even more therapy. Anyway, I think “Louie” starts important conversations on important things, and it’s the closest thing we presently have to the socially conscious sitcoms of the ’70s and early ’80s (and also “Roseanne,” thank you very much) and that is why we’re talking about it right now. Keep reading »

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