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NYU Student Filmed Himself Setting A Woman On Fire And Serenading Her

Jaime Castano, a 20-year-old former NYU student is being charged with reckless endangerment and assault for having “allegedly” set fire to the bedding of a sleeping female classmate and then singing to her. “Allegedly” is in quotation marks, because he actually filmed the incident and shared it on Snapchat with a number of friends.

The victim admits to having been intoxicated and had fallen asleep on a bed in Castano’s dorm room. She doesn’t recall the incident, but woke up to find burn holes all over the mattress and comforter, and burns on her torso. The film, however, shows her getting up and attempting to put the fire out as Castano sang to her like a weirdo. Keep reading »

Asshole Sets Woman’s House On Fire For Rejecting His Advances On Facebook

James Graham, a 37-year-old man from Kentucky, has been indicted on several charges after, police say, he set fire to a woman’s house because she rejected his advances on Facebook.

Apparently, Graham had been leaving comments on 23-year-old Joanie Yount’s Facebook photos, and when she told him she was not interested in him and asked him to please stop, he was so enraged that he went and set her house on fire. I repeat, he set her house on fire. Because she rejected him on Facebook. Luckily, she wasn’t home at the time and is unharmed, but still, he set her house on fire. Because she rejected him on Facebook. What the actual hell? Keep reading »

The Soapbox: TIME Shouldn’t Question #WhyIStayed

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While the direct blame for abuse rests solely on the abusers, we live in a culture that supports and perpetuates the cycle of violence. It is on all of us to listen, support and validate the voices of those who come forward. Victims shouldn’t feel censored or have their stories dismissed just because there isn’t a direct line solution to their complicated realities. We cannot get to #WhyILeft without confronting the reasons #WhyIStayed.

At first glance, Charlotte Alter’s piece on Time.com, “Instead of Asking Women Why They Stay, We Should Ask Men Why They Hit,” sounds sensible. In 140 characters, it even seemed empowering — almost spectacularly right on the money.

Why are we asking Janay Rice and other victims of intimate partner violence to explain themselves?? Abuse survivors shouldn’t need to justify their circumstances and choices in a hashtag. Shouldn’t we be as shocked and appalled at that conversation as Alter seems to be?

Actually, no. It turns out, she has missed the point entirely. Keep reading »

What To Do When Someone You Love Stays In An Abusive Relationship

What To Do When Someone You Love Stays In An Abusive Relationship
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Some insight into why abuse victims stay in violent relationships. Read More »

I’ll try to write about this with as little abject fury as possible. Yesterday morning, my Facebook feed was full of sympathetic posts about Janay Rice, some good burgeoning conversations about domestic violence and how it’s been swept under the rug and normalized by our culture — but by the afternoon more than half the conversations I saw centered around statements like “What, was she stupid?” or “Anyone with half a brain knows how a MAN should act” or “If she’s going to stay, she’s bringing it on herself.”

Did the Hulk do diaphragmatic breathing or something? What were his methods? I need to know. Keep reading »

Why I Married My Abuser

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What To Do When Someone You Love Stays In An Abusive Relationship
What to do when a loved one stays in an abusive relationship. Read More »

My ex-husband was the most romantic person I’ve ever met. He also hit me on the day we got married, while I was wearing my wedding dress.

That’s why when I saw the footage of ex-Baltimore Ravens player Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée Janay Palmer, I wasn’t surprised that she was now his wife. It isn’t — as many of the commenters on the original TMZ video have said — “all about the money,” or “she doesn’t care about taking a punch,” and it’s especially not that “she is telling all women it’s okay for your man to beat you.”

Domestic violence is so much more complicated than a lack of money, or not having self-respect, or feeling like it’s OK for your man to beat up on you. I’m not an expert on what makes women stay in abusive relationships or even marry their abuser. But I did both of these things and I can speak to my particular story. Keep reading »

RIP Society: Oklahoma City Police Officer Arrested For Sexually Assaulting 7 Women

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Why we cannot have repro rights justice without fighting police abuse. Read More »
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The Soapbox: I Will March For Eric Garner -- But Black Male Sexism Must Also Be Addressed
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To protect and serve, huh? Oklahoma City police arrested fellow cop Daniel Ken Holtzclaw, 27, yesterday for rape and sexual battery against seven Black women.

Oklahoma City Police Chief Bill Citty said that an investigation by the sex crimes unit found Holtzclaw assaulted the women while on-duty between February and June of this year, according to KOCO news. A three-year veteran of the force, Holtzclaw stopped women while they were walking in their neighborhoods or during traffic stops; he then searched and threatened them. He forced some of the women to perform oral sex on him, while others were forced to fondle themselves or expose themselves. One victim was raped.

“We kind of anticipate there may be more victims out there because this goes back to February,” said Oklahoma City District Attorney David Prater, as quoted by Michigan Live. Authorities are urging any other potential victims of Holtzclaw to come forward. Keep reading »

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