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ESPN’s Stephen A. Smith Apologizes For Remarks About Domestic Violence

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"Foolish Is An Understatement"

So, Stephen A. Smith had a bust weekend. The ESPN panelist kicked off Friday with some what-the-fuck-did-he-just-say? remarks about victims who “provoke” domestic violence and all Internet hell broke loose. On the show “First Take,” Smith and other panelists were discussing Ray Rice, an NFL player who physically assaulted his now-wife and has been suspended for two games. (By the way, the NFL is quite rightly being criticized for this slap on the wrist punishment — another player is currently being suspended for a full year for smoking pot.)  In seeming sympathy with abusers, Smith shared his opinion at two different points in the conversation that some DV can be provoked.

“Let’s make sure we don’t do anything to provoke wrong actions,” he said, adding later, “We … got to make sure [victims] can do your part to do whatever you can do to make, to try to make sure it doesn’t happen.” Keep reading »

ESPN’s Stephen A. Smith Suggests To Abused Women: “Let’s Make Sure We Don’t Do Anything To Provoke Wrong Actions”

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  • Hoo boy. So, on the ESPN program “First Take,” panelist Stephen A. Smith was discussing the suspension of NFL player Ray Rice for two games in the upcoming season. Rice faces jail-time for aggravated assault on his wife, Janay Rice. In discussing Rice’s suspension, Smith oh so helpfully turned it around on women, imploring “let’s make sure we don’t do anything to provoke wrong actions.” Smith also suggested, “We … got to make sure  [women] can do your part to do whatever you can to do make, to try to make sure it doesn’t happen.” Yeah, he actually went there with suggesting that potential victims could have just prevented what happened to them by not pissing their violent offender off! Anyway, today, in a huffy series of tweets in which he whined about getting called out by “Sports Nation”‘s Michelle Beadle, Smith complained that what he said was “misconstrued.” Then he repeats almost as many times as he did in his original speech that domestic violence is wrong wrong wrong. It’s bad enough to blame victims of violence. But then he has to try and twist his words as if he didn’t really mean what he actually said? I mean, if you’re going to be a shithead, at least stand by it. [Deadspin (1), Deadspin (2), SB Nation] Keep reading »

Women Killed For Being “Witches” In Rural India

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  • From 2000 to 2012, experts say as many as 2,500 people — many of them women — in rural India have been accused of “witchcraft,” tortured and killed. Usually these “witches” are killed during mob violence, pretty much for no other reason than superstition being used to justify violence against women. [Washington Post]
  • Why arming victims of domestic violence with guns doesn’t keep them safer, despite what gun lobbyists might want you to think. [Mother Jones]
  • On how background checks save women’s lives. [Clutch Magazine]
  • President Obama signed an executive order today that bans federal contractors from discriminating against employees on the basis of gender identity and sexual orientation. [Ms. Magazine] Keep reading »

15-Year-Old Girl Plays Dead After Abusive Ex-Uncle Murders Her Whole Family

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Here’s a story that has me heavy in the heart:

Last night in Spring, Texas, a man looking for his ex-wife — whom he had beaten in the past — tied up and murdered the ex-wife’s sister, brother-in-law, and four of their children “execution-style” after they would not reveal his ex-wife’s location.

Ron Lee Haskell forced himself into his sister-in-law’s house near Houston while looking for his ex-wife Melanie Haskell (who was not there). He reportedly tied up everyone in the family and asked them to reveal his ex-wife’s location. When they couldn’t or wouldn’t answer, he shot six of them to death and wounded another, a 15-year-old girl named Cassidy Stay.

Cassidy told police she played dead until her ex-uncle left, at which point she called 911 and reported that Haskell was on his way to murder her grandparents. That phone call by Cassidy — who is currently in critical condition — appears to have saved her grandparents’ lives. Keep reading »

U Of Washington Student Vowed To Be “The Next Elliot Rodger”

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A University of Washington student was arrested on Saturday afternoon after writing comments online that he intended to be “the next Elliot Rodger” and he would “make sure I kill only women.” Keep reading »

8 Things I’ve Learned After Getting Lots Of Emails About Sexual Assault

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Last week, The Frisky published an essay by an anonymous writer about her rape. She wrote about the absurdity of columnist George Will’s allegation that being a victim of sexual assault confers certain privileges. Activists have responded to Will’s inane, offensive piece with the hashtag #SurvivorPrivilege, snarkily writing about all the ways that they’ve “benefitted” from their sexual assault. Our writer’s piece focused on losing her virginity at 16 through rape and the effect it has had on her life.

The writer chose to be anonymous. So, as I often do, I put a note at the end of the piece offering to forward emails along to the author if anyone wanted to be in touch. I didn’t necessarily expect any response. But in the ensuing week, I’ve been blown away by the amount of email that I’ve been forwarding (and will continue to forward as they come in). These emails have been showing me things, both good and bad, about sexual assault in America.

NOTE: I want to make clear that am not referring to any specific letter writing, or sharing details of anyone’s story without permission. These are observations that I’ve made in aggregate from all the emails. My hope is to convey how similar stories of sexual assault and how powerful they are in a way that slogans and statistics can’t contain.  Keep reading »

PurrVerse: I Don’t Need Male Protection, Thanks

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Women are given mixed messages on a regular basis. We’re told that we’re shattering glass ceilings and are independent ladies, while at the same time we’re told we’re a mess barely keeping ourselves together. Just today I got a Facebook advert demanding my attention so I can discover the newest fad diet that doesn’t really work. I’m told I should love my body and loathe it on a regular basis. I’ve come to expect that kind of thing.

Recently The Washington Post cited a study by the Bureau of Justice purportedly telling women that we should stop taking so many lovers and instead marry our “baby daddy.” That choice of words speaks rather clearly about the fundamental racism and classism indicated within the article and the logic being displayed. We are not talking about wealthy white women here, are we? Keep reading »

The Washington Post Says Women Should Stop Slutting Around And Get Married If They Want To End Violence Against Women

Just a day after columnist George Will wrote about the “privileges” rape victims receive, The Washington Post has seemingly doubled down on the victim-blaming with an article in their (crowd-sourced but still edited) Post Everything section which says women would be safer from domestic violence if they got “hitched to their baby daddies.” Above, the original headline on the bullshit data-filled article written by two conservative (and male) university professors, which has since been altered to be sliiiiightly less loathsome (gone is the racially-charged phrase “baby daddies”). See, the “data” shows that by being around less men, women are less likely to encounter one who will hurt them (and their children), or something. And bonus! According to the two dipshits behind this awful piece, ”marriage also seems to cause men to behave better” so, you know, they’re less likely to beat their wives. I. CANNOT. WITH. THIS. [The Washington Post via Gawker]

18-Year-Old Girl In Pakistan Survives Attempted “Honor Killing”

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  • An 18-year-old girl in Pakistan survived an attempted “honor killing” for marrying the man she loved. Her father, brother, aunt and uncle shot her twice, stuffed her body in a sack, and dumped her body in a canal. Luckily, the victim was helped to safety by two passersby. However, recently a pregnant 25-year-old woman in Pakistan was murdered in an “honor killing” because she married a man of her own choosing. [New York Daily News]
  • R. Kelly’s 14-year-old teen son, Jay, has reportedly been outed as transgender. Not so surprisingly, some of the media coverage is pretty terrible. [ColorLines]
  • New Hampshire’s governor is expected to sign a bill that would mandate 25-foot “buffer zones” outside of reproductive health clinics to keep anti-abortion protesters from harassing staff and patients. [Boston.com] Keep reading »

Indian Minister On Rape: “Sometimes It’s Right, Sometimes It’s Wrong”

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  • A minister in India’s ruling party said about rape: “sometimes it’s right, sometimes it’s wrong.” [Guardian UK]
  • Understanding rape in India means first understanding the caste system. [New York Times]
  • Planned Parenthood of the Heartland has closed two clinics in southwest Iowa. [Des Moines Register]
  • On being a victim of street harassment at eight month’s pregnant. [xoJane] Keep reading »
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