Posts tagged "victim-blaming"

Second Maryville Rape Victim, Paige Parkhurst, Comes Forward

Paige Parkhurst, the second victim in the Maryville, Missouri rape case, has come forward to speak with Al-Jazeera about the night she and Daisy Coleman were sexually assaulted.

Paige was 13 at the time and sleeping over at the house of her then-14-year-old friend Daisy. The girls were drinking alcohol together and snuck…

Jessica Wakeman / October 16, 2013

Daisy Coleman, Maryville Rape Survivor, And Mother Melinda Coleman Speak To CNN

So much respect is going out right now from me to Daisy Coleman, the 14-year-old girl in Maryville, Missouri teen who has come forward about her mistreatment by the justice system after she was raped by a student athlete — who also happened to be the grandson of a local politician. Last night Daisy and…

Jessica Wakeman / October 15, 2013

14-Year-Old Girl Is Raped And Left To Freeze On Her Front Porch, Town Of Maryville, Missouri Rallies Behind Her Attacker

In January 2012, Daisy Coleman, then 14 years old, attended a junior high/high school party in Maryville, MO, the town she and her family had recently moved to following her dad’s untimely death. At that party, Daisy became intoxicated to the point of being unable to stand; she was then allegedly raped by 17-year-old senior…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / October 14, 2013

Beijing Police Suggest Women Avoid Miniskirts To Prevent Sexual Harassment

The story is always the same: officials find it too hard to tell men to control themselves and not sexually harass women, so they place the responsibility and blame on women instead.

In this instance, Chinese police have asked women to refrain from wearing revealing clothing on buses or subways. According to China Daily ,“Wome…

Mary Odell / June 6, 2013

University Of Arizona Is Totally Cool With Student Holding “You Deserve Rape” Sign On Campus

A University Of Arizona junior named Dean Saxton was photographed last Tuesday standing on campus holding a sign reading “You Deserve Rape” while yelling insults at students. Saxton, who fancies himself a preacher and delivers sermons on campus, told the Daily Wildcat newspaper, emphasis mine, “If you dress like a whore, act like a whore, you’re

Jessica Wakeman / April 29, 2013

The Best Of The #SafetyTipsForLadies Hashtag

Last week, a woman named Hillary Bowman-Smart, of Melbourne, Australia, began the hashtag #SafetyTipsForWomen on Twitter in response to an article about victim-blaming on Australian website The Punch called “Advocating Risk Management Is Not Victim Blaming.” Since then the #hashtag has gone viral and continues to stir up some hilarious “tips” for women days after the original tweet.  Her…

Sarah Gray / March 30, 2013

Dude Politician Advises Against Walking Home In “Tight, Short Skirt And High Shoes”

British politician Richard Graham, the Gloucester MP, is in trubs after he shared some safety tips for women with his local newspaper that toed the line between common sense and victim blaming:  “If you are a young woman on her own trying to walk back home through Gloucester Park, early in the morning i…

Jessica Wakeman / January 28, 2013

Joanna Lumley From “Ab Fab” Warns Women: “Don’t Look Like Trash, Don’t Get Drunk”

“Don’t look like trash, don’t get drunk, don’t be sick down your front, don’t break your heels and stagger about in the wrong clothes at midnight. This is bad. It’s not me being a snob about it. It’s not me being an old woman talking to young women, its just standard practice for how our…

Jessica Wakeman / January 25, 2013

School Allegedly Suggested A Breast Reduction Would Stop 6th Grader’s Sexual Harassment

Middle school is rough on all of us. It’s especially rough when the administration at your middle school blames you for the sexual harassment you’re getting because of the size of your boobs. And it’s downright hellish when said administration suggests to your mother that a breast reduction might help.

Jessica Wakeman / January 21, 2013

Priest Says Women Encourage Domestic Violence For Not Cooking And Cleaning Well Enough

A priest in a northern village in Italy posted some helpful tips for ladies on how to avoid getting beaten by their husbands. “Healthy self-criticism” is necessary for women to make sure there’s nothing they could be doing differently to stop getting beat, such as cooking more dinners, doing the laundry, and dressing more modestly.

Jessica Wakeman / December 27, 2012

Indian Police Chief Suggests Women Protect Themselves From Rape With Chili Powder

Here are two different ways to stop rape. One, teach men and women that rape is never, ever, ever acceptable. Two, tell women to carry around chili powder to throw at potential attackers. I guess chili powder in the eyeball will make a rapey boner go away right quick, according to a police chief…

Jessica Wakeman / December 20, 2012

School District Calls Tween Rape Victim “Careless,” “Responsible” In Her Own Sexual Abuse

A California school district is defending itself in the sleaziest way possible from a lawsuit by a former student who was allegedly sexually abused by two of its teachers. Yup, Moraga School District says it’s her own damn fault.

Jessica Wakeman / November 5, 2012

Indian Judge To Abused Wife: “Why Are You Still Talking About His Beatings?”

A judge in India completely dismissed a woman in his courtroom in the most offensive, Pat Robertson-ian way possible: he told her “Your husband is doing good business. He will take care of you. Why are you still talking about his beatings?” The 28-year-old was challenging her husband in a domestic abuse case, but…

Jessica Wakeman / September 11, 2012

“Don’t Get Raped”: New Tumblr Collects Handy Dandy Victim-Blaming Tips

Don’t go near football players. Don’t trust police officers. Don’t be in or around your own home. Don’t go to Harvard. Don’t drink or go to school dances. And never, never change your mind about having sex if you’ve already said you want to bone.  All these and many other victim-blaming tips every woman needs are helpfully collected by the…

Jessica Wakeman / September 11, 2012

The Soapbox: Rapists Know The Answer Is “No”

Despite endless work by anti-sexual violence activists trying to change the narrative, the myth persists that rapists —at least so-called “date rapists” — are men who got a little out of control with lust one night and accidentally went too far. It doesn’t help that this is the story that we usually hear on those…

Amanda Marcotte / July 27, 2012

The Soapbox: On Chris Brown & Why We Must Take Domestic Violence More Seriously

A recent segment on NPR about the rehabilitation of Chris Brown’s career is cause for alarm.  No, not because we should care about Chris Brown’s career as a pop singer — but because his young (mostly female) fans, as fervent as ever, continue to support him not only as an artist but as a person.

Zerlina Maxwell / January 4, 2012

The Soapbox: On Rape, Alcohol, Victim-Blaming & Feminist In-Fighting

If you write for a living — especially opinion writing, and especially as a feminist — you set yourself up for criticism. You really have no control over how others respond to your work, other than choosing not to write it. By attaching your name to your views, you put yourself in the position to…

Jessica Wakeman / December 21, 2011

Girl Talk: I Was Date Raped When I Was Drunk

I was a virgin until a month before my 21st birthday. I was on my second date with a guy named Craig, a 20-something blond surfer type who got my number after I made him a chai tea to go at the coffee shop in his neighborhood where I worked. I was lying on hi…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / December 20, 2011

Date Rape PSA By PA’s Liquor Control Board Accused Of Victim-Blaming

Pennsylvania’s Liquor Control Board is under fire for a new PSA campaign called Control Tonight, which critics say puts the onus on women for “not getting raped” while drunk and is blaming the victim. The ad in question depicts a woman’s bare legs on what looks like a tiled bathroom floor with her panties pulled…

Jessica Wakeman / December 8, 2011

NYC Cops Warn Against Shorts & Skirts To Avoid Serial Rapist

A gift from me to you, A Handy-Dandy Guide On Things Not To Do If You’re A Cop — Or Anyone — Talking To Women About Sexual Assault When A Serial Rapist Is Afoot:

Suggest that wearing a skirt, shorts, or dress is just asking for it.
That’s it.


Jessica Wakeman / September 30, 2011