So much respect is going out right now from me to Daisy Coleman, the 14-year-old girl in Maryville, Missouri teen who has come forward about her mistreatment by the justice system after she was raped by a student athlete — who also happened to be the grandson of a local politician. Last night Daisy and her mother, Melinda Coleman, spoke to CNN’s Erin Burnett about her rape by football player Matthew Barnett, who had all charges dismissed against him. Most recently he has been attending the University of Central Missouri. Meanwhile, the Coleman family has been run out of town — the mom, Melinda Coleman, was fired from her job; their house was set on fire — for daring to demand justice for Daisy.
Amelia blogged about this horrible story yesterday. You can read the full story of Daisy Coleman’s assault at the Kansas City Star, which broke the story this weekend. Here’s the short-ish version. The Coleman family had moved several years earlier to Maryville, a small, tight-knit farming down. In January 2012, Daisy, 14, and her anonymous friend, 13, were having a sleepover and drinking in her bedroom. Around 1am, they snuck out of the house to go hang out with some senior and junior boys from the football and wrestling teams, who gave the girls a lot more alcohol. After this point, as Daisy tells CNN, she remembers nothing that happened the rest of the night. Keep reading »
In January 2012, Daisy Coleman, then 14 years old, attended a junior high/high school party in Maryville, MO, the town she and her family had recently moved to following her dad’s untimely death. At that party, Daisy became intoxicated to the point of being unable to stand; she was then allegedly raped by 17-year-old senior and star football player Matthew Barnett. The rape was filmed with an iPhone camera — the video was allegedly passed around at school — and then deposited the unconscious girl on her porch in the middle night in 22 degree weather. Daisy was discovered by her mother, Melinda Coleman, the next morning, her hair frozen, clad only in sweatpants and a T-shirt. (Though news outlets usually keep rape victims’ identities anonymous, Melinda Coleman has released Daisy’s name to the media on her own.) Keep reading »
The story is always the same: officials find it too hard to tell men to control themselves and not sexually harass women, so they place the responsibility and blame on women instead.
In this instance, Chinese police have asked women to refrain from wearing revealing clothing on buses or subways. According to China Daily ,“Women should not wear minimal clothing, such as miniskirts or hot pants when taking public transportation and should call police promptly if they are sexually harassed.” In case women just can’t resist wearing hot pants on the subway, police suggest that women use shopping bags, newspapers, or magazines to cover themselves up. Keep reading »
A University Of Arizona junior named Dean Saxton was photographed last Tuesday standing on campus holding a sign reading “You Deserve Rape” while yelling insults at students. Saxton, who fancies himself a preacher and delivers sermons on campus, told the Daily Wildcat newspaper, emphasis mine, “If you dress like a whore, act like a whore, you’re probably going to get raped. I think that girls that dress and act like [whores], they should realize they do have partial responsibility, because I believe they’re pretty much asking for it.”
He is simply bold enough to verbalize what a lot of people in our rape culture already think about how women deserve violence against them. But if I were working in administration for UA, I would be down on my knees praying that Saxton is not a ticking time bomb who doesn’t actually go and rape some “whore” on campus who was “asking for it.” Keep reading »
Last week, a woman named Hillary Bowman-Smart, of Melbourne, Australia, began the hashtag #SafetyTipsForWomen on Twitter in response to an article about victim-blaming on Australian website The Punch called “Advocating Risk Management Is Not Victim Blaming.” Since then the #hashtag has gone viral and continues to stir up some hilarious “tips” for women days after the original tweet. Her Tumblr blog explains:
How about we recognise that being drunk, being ‘sexy’, being out having fun, being loud, being trans, being queer, being sexually active – none of it causes rape, because rapists cause rape? How about we stop pretending that if women follow some stupid, byzantine set of ‘rules’ we’ll be safe?
The hashtag has spread beyond Down Under and to elsewhere around the world. After the jump are some of the best tweets… Keep reading »
“Don’t look like trash, don’t get drunk, don’t be sick down your front, don’t break your heels and stagger about in the wrong clothes at midnight. This is bad. It’s not me being a snob about it. It’s not me being an old woman talking to young women, its just standard practice for how our species should behave. Don’t behave badly. … I promise you it is better to look after yourself properly, which means behave properly, be polite, be on time, dress properly – I don’t mean dully – but don’t be sick in the gutter at midnight in a silly dress with no money to get a taxi home, because somebody will take advantage of you, either they’ll rape you, or they’ll knock you on the head or they’ll rob you. … I am now an old lioness, if I see my young ones getting out of order, I’ve got to be able to say to them this is not how lions behave. This is not right.”
– Here’s Joanna Lumley, who plays Patsy on “Absolutely Fabulous,” making comments to the UK’s Telegraph that have infuriated a lot of folks for victim-blaming. Newsflash, Joanna: women still get raped if they “behave properly” and “dress properly.” Believe me, I understand the concerns about young women and binge drinking — but these comments are pretty gross for all the “don’ts” they place on women alone. The problem is the robbers and the rapists, not women who dare to get drunk or wear a “silly dress.” [Telegraph UK]
Middle school is rough on all of us. It’s especially rough when the administration at your middle school blames you for the sexual harassment you’re getting because of the size of your boobs. And it’s downright hellish when said administration suggests to your mother that a breast reduction might help. Keep reading »
A priest in a northern village in Italy posted some helpful tips for ladies on how to avoid getting beaten by their husbands. “Healthy self-criticism” is necessary for women to make sure there’s nothing they could be doing differently to stop getting beat, such as cooking more dinners, doing the laundry, and dressing more modestly. Keep reading »