Via Feministing, a British blogger has helped adjust some old PSAs from a National Health Service campaign to encourage safer drinking. The original poster, which shows a woman lying on the ground laughing, says, “One in three reported rapes happens when the victim has been drinking.” With a Photoshop edit from the blogger behind Two Thirds Nerd, the PSA now reads, “Three in three reported rapes happens [sic] when someone decides to commit rape.”
As the blogger wrote regarding responses she’s received from her initial tweet, “[the original ad] reinforces and validates the belief that women are responsible for avoiding rape, and, therefore, responsible for anything that might happen, also. The onus is always placed on the woman to not get raped, rather than the man to not rape.” She’s right, of course. Still, I’m dismayed that when we talk about sexual violence, alcohol use and abuse becomes a verboten subject. I’m reminded of a response I wrote to a Dear Prudence column about young women and drinking: victims shouldn’t be held responsible for the crimes committed against them, but not addressing binge drinking culture (or underage drinking in America) is ignoring the conditions in which a lot of sexual violence occurs. I wish talking about drinking and binge drinking could more peacefully coexist with talking about sexual violence, because it feels very much like you’re on one “side” or the other. [Feministing via Two Thirds Nerd]
Last week, I wrote about Caleb Reynolds’, a houseguest on “Big Brother 16,” and his unrequited romantic obsession with fellow player Amber Borzotra. While the television show has gone out of their way not to draw attention to Caleb’s out of whack fixation on Amber, those fans who subscribe to the 24/7 livefeeds are privy to how this is impacting his game, her game and the entire house. While Amber certainly has many, many supporters who see that she’s done everything she can to reject his clearly advances, there are others who have called Amber a tease. In response, Amber’s brother-in-law — one of the family members manning Amber’s Twitter feed and website while she’s in the “Big Brother” house — posted an articulate and smart response on Amber’s blog that defends Amber, but more importantly calls out a culture of victim-blaming that extends well beyond this reality TV show. With his permission, I’m republishing his piece below. Whether you’re a “Big Brother” fan or not, it’s well worth a read. — Amelia
Before I begin, just to be clear, this post isn’t about Caleb, the “Big Brother” game, or even about any concerns we may or may not have for Amber’s well-being. This is solely about the way the narrative is being portrayed by some observers: people who are not subject to the pressures/paranoia of the house and have the ability to know just about everything that is said and done before forming an opinion.
Specifically, there has been a worrying rise in “BB16″ live feed followers blaming Amber for somehow playing a part in encouraging Caleb’s unrequited feelings for her. Keep reading »
Just a day after columnist George Will wrote about the “privileges” rape victims receive, The Washington Post has seemingly doubled down on the victim-blaming with an article in their (crowd-sourced but still edited) Post Everything section which says women would be safer from domestic violence if they got “hitched to their baby daddies.” Above, the original headline on the bullshit data-filled article written by two conservative (and male) university professors, which has since been altered to be sliiiiightly less loathsome (gone is the racially-charged phrase “baby daddies”). See, the “data” shows that by being around less men, women are less likely to encounter one who will hurt them (and their children), or something. And bonus! According to the two dipshits behind this awful piece, ”marriage also seems to cause men to behave better” so, you know, they’re less likely to beat their wives. I. CANNOT. WITH. THIS. [The Washington Post via Gawker]
Wall Street Journal columnist James Taranto is pretty much that douchey frat boy who you never invite to a party, but somehow ends up there anyway , and you wish he would just go somewhere far, far away so you never had to think about all the obnoxious things he’s said. Remember him? He called the military’s effort to eradicate sexual assault a “war on male sexuality.” He’s tweeted that he hoped the young women whose boyfriends died saving them during the Aurora, Colorado, shooting were “worthy of the sacrifice.” So it should come as no surprise to you that he is blaming rape victims for drinking. Keep reading »
Yesterday, we told you about the “Roast Busters,” a disgusting sort of “club” in New Zealand where the members are privileged teen boys who lure teenage girls with alcohol, get them drunk, gang rape them and then brag about the rapes on the internet. While there is plenty of the latter on the internet to build a case file against the, New Zealand police have argued they just can’t pursue charges against them until one of their victims comes forward.
Except, it turns out, a victim has gone to the police. Two, in fact. Two 13-year-old girls filed complaints against the Roast Busters with the police two years ago, in 2011. One of the girls, who said she was raped by three of the Roast Busters, told NZ’s 3 News that she was so ashamed and scared that it took her weeks to tell anyone, and when she finally went to police, this is what went down: Keep reading »
Men will rape us no matter, apparently! So if won’t don’t want to get sexually assaulted, us ladies have to “give up over drinking [sic].”
This is according to a facepalm-y new column in Southern Methodist University The Daily Campus newspaper by someone named Kirby Wiley. ”In order to prevent future victims, viewers need to know the other side of things,” Wiley writes. The other side of things, in case you’re not picking up what I’m putting down, is that drunk women are deserving of some of the blame here.
Oh hell to the no.
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