It’s actually not new news that the mythical g-spot doesn’t exist. We’ve known that for some time already: Sigmund Freud pretty much just made it up, and ever since then we’ve been touting it as the ultimate orgasm or the way that men should aspire to pleasure women during sex to the exclusion of actual clitoral stimulation, which is how most women achieve orgasm.
Now, when I say “the g-spot doesn’t exist” or “it’s a myth,” I’m not saying that women don’t have vaginal orgasms. I’m saying that there is no magic button inside the vagina that a penis hits and then BLAM-O! Lady has an orgasm. The clitoris extends deep, deep into the body. I have no doubt that there are plenty of women who have vaginal orgasms because the friction between their partner’s penis (or whatever) and their vaginal walls is simultaneously stimulating the extended parts of the clitoris. And I agree with EJ Dickson at the Daily Dot that it’s weird and uncool to try to lay blame on or shame or invalidate the experiences of women who have vaginal orgasms as if they have been haughty about their vaginal-orgasm-having-abilities with statements like “Stop taunting us with claims of your intense, superior vaginal orgasms. It doesn’t exist and it never happened.” I mean, holy shit, guys, what the hell is that? How is that helpful? How can you justify telling someone else that their personal, sexual experiences are incorrect, as if you were there? Keep reading »
Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…
Despite the big fuss made over virginity and sex, studies have show that 70-75% of women do NOT orgasm from vaginal intercourse. That leaves about a quarter of women who can and some people attribute that to the G-spot. Now, there are a lot of haters who will tell you the G-spot is like Narnia or a UFO — a myth, an orgasmic tall tale. Helen O’Connell in 1998 theorized that it’s just an extension of the clitoris — although, at least she believes there’s something there. Shockingly enough, so little research has been done on the vag, it is practically like Area 51. Back in 2001, the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology published, “the evidence is far too weak to support the reality of the G-spot.” In 2006, the Journal Of Sexual Medicine said in 101 vaginal biopsies they didn’t find a single particular erogenous zone. Surprisingly, but in fact, the “G-spot” isn’t even an accepted part of the female anatomy according to the medical community. Pfft! While these academics can argue over its existence, anyone who has ever had sex with me can tell you there is no denying it! And in 2008, aray of proof/hope from researchers in Italy shined a light on the G-spot’s location and power. Listen up: the G-spot is NOT the sexual version of Santa Claus. It really does exist!
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