Posts tagged "trust"

Dater X: A Matter Of Trust

Who knew that the Internetz had so many opinions about whose dicks I do or do not put in my mouth??
Last week’s “Blowjobs Are for Boyfriends” pronouncement was unexpectedly controversial – at least, unexpectedly to me – and it got me thinking about why I “withhold” (if you can call it that) fellatio from…

Dater X 3.0 / August 25, 2015

When Psychiatrists Distrust Their Patients, Their Patients Can Only Respond In Kind

I’ve been seeing psychiatrists — doctors whose purpose is primarily to examine and diagnose an emotional disorder or condition, then prescribe a plan of treatment, whether therapeutic or pharmaceutical — on and off for over half my life. The ratio of good to mediocre to bad experiences I’ve had with psychiatrists is roughly equal –…

Rebecca Vipond Brink / January 22, 2015

When I Wouldn’t Confront My Trust Issues, They Confronted Me

When I started dating at age 13, I approached relationships completely unaware that I could and would fall—and with faith that, if I did, the net below would catch me. I put all of my trust in the boys I gave my heart to, and was blindsided again and again when, despite my total devotion,…

YourTango.com / November 8, 2013

Girl Talk: Why Snooping Makes You Crazy

Gosh it’s just so tempting. He forgets to log out of his email on your computer. He falls asleep in one room and his phone is in the next. He leaves town on business for a few days and you just have to rifle around in his closet. You’re just dying to starting digging through…

Kate Richlin-Zack / August 29, 2012

Girl Talk: Why Checking Your Partner’s Email And Phone Is Not Smart

Recently, Jools Oliver, wife of chef Jamie Oliver, and writer Samantha Brick both proudly declared that they check their husbands’ emails and phones regularly, and credit their successful marriages in part to such snooping. Oliver said that even though she monitors her husband’s email, phone and Twitter account, “He says I’m a jealous girl, but…

Rachel Kramer Bussel / August 3, 2012

Dealbreaker: My Long-Distance Relationship Didn’t Have Trust

Two years into our relationship, Rick* received a verbal offer that would send him 2,500 miles away.

I couldn’t fathom how we could possibly have a successful relationship living such a great distance apart — even though I was the woman who’d urged him to apply for the job. He had asked me…

Lyneka Little / April 20, 2012

Girl Talk: I Swore I’d Never Snoop … But Then I Did

Some time ago, Amelia and I were chatting over IM about snooping. If I remember correctly, it was in the context of a discussion about sharing passwords. Should you share your email password? Your Facebook password? Your debit card PIN number? Is it a big, serious relationship step to do those things or not super-seriou…

Jessica Wakeman / January 5, 2011

Dear Wendy: “I Guessed My Girlfriend’s Password And Have Been Reading All Her Email”

I am currently dating a woman that I am madly, madly in love with, and we’re talking about marriage. We’re great together, don’t really ever argue, and talk through our issues, so everything is good there. A few months back, I happened to guess her e-mail password, and I have been checking her e-mail o…

Wendy Atterberry / September 17, 2010

David Schwimmer Directs A Movie About A Rape

When I heard that David Schwimmer had directed a movie premiering at the Toronto Film Festival, I assumed it would be a humorous documentary about paleontologists or a romantic comedy about a guy named Russ who’s in love with a woman named Bachel. But I was surprised to see that Schwimmer’s movie is neither of…

Kate Torgovnick/Kate-Book.com / September 15, 2010

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Signed Up For A Cheating Site”

I have been with my boyfriend for four years and although I love him with my whole heart, I have a problem: he signs up for online dating sites. I recently found out he signed up for a guest membership to a popular cheating website. When I confronted him he said he wasn’t doing anything…

Wendy Atterberry / June 30, 2010

Dear Wendy: “How Can I Ask For A Threesome?”

I’m in a wonderful relationship with a great man that I plan on marrying one day. I’m 20 and he’s 26, but it’s not our age difference that’s the problem. You see, I have this fantasy of being with more than one guy at once. I’m not a whore, slut, hooch or any of that…

Wendy Atterberry / June 9, 2010

Women Become Less Trusting When They Take Testosterone Pills

I happen to be very trusting of strangers—I trust that they are trying to screw with me, every chance that they get. But apparently, this is a very male trait—testosterone-packed dudes are not only gifted with strength and aggression, but also cynicism. In a study conducted at Cape Town University, 24 women around the age…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / May 27, 2010

Dear Wendy: Is There Trust After Cheating?

I recently found out that my boyfriend had been sleeping with his married boss. I always had suspicions about their “friendship” and little details just started to come together, making the puzzle whole. Even though he denied it at first, he finally admitted to the infidelity. He said that that last time he slept with…

Wendy Atterberry / April 28, 2010

Girl Talk: I Wanted To Be Dominated

I texted him as soon as I woke up.

“What do you want me to wear today?”

I brushed my teeth and washed my face while I waited for him to text me back.

“White button-down shirt. Tuck it in. Your jeans. Flats. Put your hair in a ponytail.

Jessica Wakeman / March 2, 2010

Where Prostitutes Are More Trustworthy Than Politicians And Scientists

Insight China magazine conducted an online survey of 3,376 Chinese peeps about who they trusted. And their findings are pretty counter-intuitive—folks said that trusted prostitutes more than both government officials and scientists. In fact, prostitutes came in third place as a group, just above farmers and religious workers. The China Daily covered the study thi…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / August 5, 2009

Breakup Lesson #472: Trust Your Gut

When did I become the star of the Lifetime movie, “In Love With A Stranger”? (This movie does not exist yet, but it should.) Was this the way “General Hospital”‘s Elizabeth Webber felt when she found out her husband, Ric Lansing, had kidnapped Carly Corinthos and was keeping her locked up in a secret room…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / July 2, 2009

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Would You Ever Violate Her Privacy?

The other night, when I was having dinner with a guy friend who told me my engagement history might scare off some guys, we also discussed the issue of privacy in a relationship and how big of a deal it can be when that privacy is violated. He maintains that checking your partner’s email, cell…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / May 6, 2009

The Breakup Diaries: Damn The Distrust!

I’ve come to the conclusion that the absolute worst part of going through a breakup is that one of the common reactions is insane distrust — distrust of yourself, the person you were with, and of the relationship’s meaning. This is something I’ve been struggling with throughout my break/breakup/”separation” from my fiance, which has officially…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / November 3, 2008

The Monogamist: Blind Trust Isn’t A Bad Thing

It wasn’t until I’d had my man have sex with my roommate in my bed that I really understand how trust can be broken in a relationship. That was the first moment in my life that I’d ever had a total out-of-body experience. Along with it came the realization that I had no idea what…

Annemarie Conte / May 15, 2008