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Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Should You Dump A Woman If She Won’t Give Head?

This morning we asked if you should dump a guy if he won’t give you oral sex. So far, the majority of you — nearly 50 percent — have said, “Yes. If he’s a selfish lover, he’ll be selfish in other ways too. See ya!” A little over 36 percent of you are willing to tolerate it, so long as he doesn’t expect you to go down on him, while a mere 16.5 percent believe that lack of oral sex would be a ridiculous reason to dump someone. But because we like to play fair, we decided to ask the same question of the guys on our IM. Do they think you should dump a woman if she won’t give blow jobs? Their answers, after the jump. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Far Would You Go To Impress A Woman?

I didn’t realize this, but apparently a lot of dudes are willing to do a lot — including embarrassing the crap out of themselves — in order to impress a woman. Or at least sleep with her. Find out just how far, after the jump. How willing are you to embarrass yourself to impress a guy? Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Do We Avoid The Friend Zone?

Recently, a number of good friends of mine told me they’re getting into the friend zone with guys they’re interested in romantically. I had a little bit of advice for them, but then realized this was the perfect opportunity to reunite with some old friends. Thoughts from the guys on our IM, after the jump. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: What Was Your Worst Sexual Performance?

Last night, while I was writing my piece on the 7 types of sex that don’t have to count, I IM’d with a guy friend of mine, who said the one sexual experience he doesn’t always count is the one in which he, um, sucked. Which got me thinking of the bad sex I’ve had thanks to the occasional dude who couldn’t get it up and then I realized I’ve never actually asked the fellas on my IM about the worst they’ve ever been in bed. I sought to rectify that immediately. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: What Are Your Style Dealbreakers?

In the latest issue of GQ, Neel Shah writes that he went on a blind date with a woman who immediately turned him off by wearing “faded True Religion jeans.” He then goes on to describe how a girl’s style plays a big part in whether or not he could date him. While Shah’s example is a little on the, uh, picky side, I don’t think he’s all that unusual. Personally, style plays a big part in my attraction to men. If a guy is wearing awesome sneakers or, you know, plaid, he becomes a little sexier in my eyes. On the flip side, frankly, black running sneakers and white socks? Major, major turnoff. But do other guys think this way or is Shah alone? Find out, after the jump… Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Have You Ever Lied About Your Sexual Experience?

On an early date with my ex, we were discussing sexual experiences (what, me discuss sex?!) and he told me that he had had a threesome. Months later I found out that he had lied. I wasn’t mad about it, but because it was such an odd thing to make up, I’ve never forgotten it. (I’ve also never figured out why. Was he trying to show off? Plant the seed for a future threesome, which he tried, in vain, to have up until we broke up?) This week I read Glamour‘s “5 Lies Men Tell About Their Sexual History (Hint: The Three-Way is BS)” and discovered that, apparently, many men tell this little fib, along with other sex lies like “I lost my virginity when I was 16!” and “This has never happened before.” So what about the guys on our IM? What sex lies have they told? Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Do You Feel About Marriage?

Ahh, marriage. Certainly men think long and hard about whether they want to get married right? Or maybe the answer is a no brainer, requiring very little obsession and thought and magazine purchasing? Being that it’s Wedding Week on The Frisky, and because I’d hate to leave the fellas out of such a sexy topic, I went to the guys on our IM to find out how they feel about marriage, weddings, and everything in between… Prepare to be touched! Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: When Do You Decide You’re Going To Bone Someone?

This week I was pulling together questions from men about the things they wonder about women. One of the questions was, “How quickly do you decide if you’re going to have sex with a guy?” I thought the question was an one that could easily be turned around on men. The question is not, “How quickly do you decide you want to have sex with a woman?” but “How quickly do you decide you are going to have sex with a woman?” If what the guys on our IM have said in the past is to be believed, if you are relatively attractive, every straight guy you know probably would sleep with you. But at what moment does he decide he’s actually going to try, and, for the especially confident, how quickly does he decide he will? Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Can A Woman Be Bad In Bed?

Most people like to think of themselves as good in bed. Sometimes, they can be very, very wrong. It’s pretty easy to spot a guy who’s crap in the sack — he jackhammers, he doesn’t hit any of the right spots, he’s like an octopus — but what do guys find so awful they’d consider a woman a bad lay? I mean, don’t they always get off? And if so, isn’t that pretty good? I went to the boys to find out. Shockingly enough, they answered this one readily, and they all agreed on one key thing: If you aren’t into it, they aren’t either. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Do You Have A Virgin Fantasy?

Sometimes I think men get a raw deal. There are so many assumptions and rumors about what guys are attracted to and what they have sexual fantasies about — often perpetuated by magazines, websites, and books that speak to them (Men’s Health, I’m talking to you!). Ultimately, I think most of these are myths. For example, do men really have a virgin fantasy? Are they actually turned on by the idea of deflowering someone? I asked my guys on IM … Keep reading »

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