In a piece for The Good Men Project, Hugo Schwyzer writes about the many men he’s talked with who lie to their girlfriends/wives about the amount of porn they watch. One man told him that he downplays how much X-rated material he consumes because “women go ballistic when you tell them the truth.” Really? Do women actually go ballistic? Are dudes really lying about how much porn they watch? We decided to ask a few of the guys on our IM — who are ALWAYS honest with us — about this very subject. Find out what they had to say after the jump! And please, male Frisky readers, tell us whether you have lied about how much porn you watch and why. And ladies, would you actually go “ballistic” about your dude’s porn usage? Keep reading »
Ladies, get ready, I’m about to have a TMI moment with y’all. A couple of months ago, I went on a date with a guy, and we seemed to really be hitting it off. He made a comment about coming back to my house when we finished up our drinks, and I was really into the idea, but I didn’t want him to get the wrong vibe about what might go down, so I flirtatiously told him that I was up for it, but I wasn’t going to sleep with him. And. He. Flipped. Out.
He turned to me and said, “Just think about how this sounds” and then repeated my words back to me. “I’m not going to have sex with you tonight.” And oh, boy, was he right. It sounded HARSH. Way harsh, Tai. (“Clueless” reference alert!) I was suddenly on the verge of tears. I felt like a major jerk! And so presumptuous! Had I totally blown it? But then, what was I supposed to do? I mean, I was just trying to avoid some really awkward making out moment. My intentions were good!
So, I figured I’d ask a few of the thoughtful gents on my IM list what they prefer women do in those sorts of scenarios. And boy, were the results mixed. The general consensus though, was I probably shouldn’t have handled it quite that way. Lesson learned. It’s a good thing I’ve only been doing things this way for oh, the last 15 years or so. (Blergh).
After the jump, guy advice on how to handle the awkward first (or second date) sex chat. Keep reading »
Ahh, romance. Always thought about in terms of what women want — flowers (peonies for me, thanks!), slow-dancing to Kenny G, dinner at fancy French restaurants with overly rich food, etc. But what about men? Surely they like a romantic gesture now and again … the thing is, what do they consider romantic? What kind of romantic gestures would they appreciate? To find out, I went to the best experts I could find — the guys on my IM. Keep clicking to read how a married guy, a goofy guy, and an unmarried but sort of silly John DeVore want to be romanced. Keep reading »
In today’s New York Post there’s an interesting “trend” piece about unmarried couples who are drawing up formal and informal “cohabitation agreements” before moving in together. (Bonus! Our own Mind Of Man, John DeVore, and his girlfriend are featured.) The agreements cover everything from who handles which chores, which person pays certain bills, and who gets what in the event of a breakup. Basically, more and more couples — according to the Post — are drawing up these pre-nuptial-esque agreements, especially those who move in together earlier than they would normally, thanks to the tanking economy. So, I wondered, what does the average dude think about this trend? Would he sign one? (For that matter, would you?) I went to the handsome gents on my IM to find out … Keep reading »
You know, sometimes a gal reaches the end of her research, sits there for a moment and says to herself, “I don’t think I have enough information to fairly come to a conclusion.” That’s the way I felt after last week’s “hand jobs versus blow jobs” discussion. So, like a trooper, I went back out into the field and asked three more guys on my IM what they thought. You’re welcome. Keep reading »
Last night I was skimming the new issue of Glamour and came across an article called “12 Things Guys Wish You Knew in Bed,” written by a dude named Adrian Colesberry. Surprisingly, I learned something! According to him, “in a blindfold test, most men would prefer a hand job to oral sex.” What? Nuh. Uh. I haven’t spent the last god knows how many years training my gag reflex for nothing … right? I needed many more opinions on the matter (and am happy to hear more, fellas), of course. Keep reading »