Posts tagged "the soapbox"

The Soapbox: On Blackface, White Privilege & Why Distancing Myself From White People Doesn’t Make Me Racist

I am a 23-year-old black woman who, for a long time, tried to have discussions with white people about racism in America. I went to a white, liberal college in New York City where I thought such exchanges were welcomed. I actually believed there could be such a thing as a productive conversation on the…

By: Tiffanie Drayton / January 16, 2014

The Soapbox: I Kept My “Maiden Name,” Deal With It

It started innocently enough at the mailbox. I reached in and pulled out the usual bills, Victoria's Secret catalogs, and fliers for the local pizza joint. Because it was the holiday season, there was also an envelope befitting a Christmas card. "Oh! [Redacted family member] sent us a card!" I said to my husband a…

By: Jessica Wakeman / January 13, 2014

The Soapbox: On “Pretty Hurts” & Beyonce’s Critique Of Airbrushed Beauty Culture

Three or so days in, I've listened to Beyonce's new, self-titled record straight through at least a dozen times. I say with all seriousness that I believe it is her masterpiece, one of those increasingly rare albums in which every track is essential to the overall story. While I have my favorites, there is not one track…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / December 16, 2013

The Soapbox: Unwanted Touching Is Unacceptable At Any Age (Yes, Even Age 6)

This piece is crossposted with permission from RebeccaHains.Wordpress.com. In this week’s news, a six-year-old boy in Colorado was suspended from school. The reason? He had repeatedly kissed one of his classmates, despite her telling him to stop. The girl’s mother, Jade Masters-Ownbey, noted that the boy’s behavior had been an ongoing problem. The boy had…

By: Rebecca Hains / December 13, 2013

The Soapbox: Why Does Anyone Still Think It’s Okay To Listen To R. Kelly?

R. Kelly is one of the most successful R&B artists of our time. He’s sold 54 million records globally, had a career that spans three decades and penned classic records that have provided the soundtrack for some of our best moments. But while folks were bumping and grinding to his hits, other things were going bump

By: Christiana Mbakwe / December 5, 2013

The Soapbox: Women Tell Dirty Jokes, Deal With It

Dear Variety Columnist Brian Lowry, You wrote a negative review of Sarah Silverman’s new comedy special, “We Are Miracles,” which aired on HBO Saturday night. And I get it. The special felt stale, pointlessly antagonistic, and lacked actual jokes. But worse than the program itself was the bizarrely-gendered language you used to smash it. The…

By: Emily Winter / November 25, 2013

The Soapbox: The Disconnect Between Black Feminism And Gay Activism

I am a black woman and my best friend is a gay man. He came out to me the summer between our senior year of high school and our freshman year of college. "I really need to tell you something," he began, while driving us home from our summer job at the local pool. I…

By: Tiffanie Drayton / November 22, 2013

The Soapbox: “Scandal” Lazily Relies On A Rape Scene To Make A Hated Character More Sympathetic

Spoilers ahead! I watch a lot of television. One of my mother's favorite stories involves her coming home from work and finding a three year-old me on her couch, pointing to a schedule grid in her TV Guide and asking to watch a primetime "Scooby Doo" special. As such I have a vast amount of…

By: Jamie Nesbitt Golden / November 15, 2013

The Soapbox: No, But Seriously, Sex Can Be Satisfying Without Orgasm

I have slept with a fair amount of people. But I've orgasmed with only one, the person I was in a long-term relationship with. All of my other sexual encounters have been varying degrees of fun, but have not resulted in the Big O. For me at least -- the men I've slept with always

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / November 13, 2013

The Soapbox: What Lululemon Can Learn From The Queer Yoga Community

Earlier this week, Lululemon's founder, Chip Wilson, made a boneheaded comment in response to the sheer batch of yoga pants that the company had to recall earlier this year. "Frankly, some women's bodies just don't actually work [for the yoga pants] … It's more really about the rubbing through the thighs, how much pressure is there…

By: Ami Angelowicz / November 8, 2013

The Soapbox: Slate Tells Young Women To “Stop Getting Drunk,” Majorly Misses The Mark On Alcohol & Rape

Slate.com's modus operandi is to troll the hell out of everyone. Today's piece by Dear Prudence author Emily Yoffe, "College Women: Stop Getting Drunk," is a classic example. In her piece, Yoffe recounts a statistic from a 2009 study that 80 percent of campus sexual assaults involve alcohol.  She then gives what she thinks i…

By: Jessica Wakeman / October 16, 2013

The Soapbox: Kanye West May Be Arrogant, But He’s Also Right About Black Wealth

Over the past fortnight I’ve watched as a familiar narrative re-emerged around rapper Kanye West. Basically, Kanye’s an arrogant ranting asshole who needs to shut up, and stick to music. The end. Admittedly, Kanye doesn’t help his cause. At times his behavior lends credence to what I think is a shallow theory. Yes, Kanye West…

By: Christiana Mbakwe / October 14, 2013

The Soapbox: On The “First Female Maasai Warrior” & The Power Of White Privilege

In a recent Yahoo! Shine article, a young, white, California entrepreneur, Mindy Budgor, was deemed a "warrior princess" after ditching her posh, luxury-filled life to become the first female warrior of the African Maasai tribe. Armed with Underarmor, pearl earrings and Chanel dragon red nail polish -- which made her feel "fierce"-- this nice Jewish…

By: Tiffanie Drayton / September 13, 2013

The Soapbox: Why Do We Feel Ashamed For Being Sexually Harassed?

It ended as quickly as it started. I felt his hand squeeze my butt, heard him shout "Nice!" and caught a glimpse of his back as he bolted off the subway car. I stood there, clutching the metal pole, utterly paralyzed. Did that really just happen? Did a random man just grab me and proceed

By: Lauren Rankin / September 10, 2013

The Soapbox: Chelsea Manning Has The Right To Healthcare In Prison, Transgender Or Not

Now that Chelsea Manning has expressed a desire to medically transition through hormone replacement therapy, there are a lot of questions circling about what Leavenworth looks like for a trans woman, and how exactly someone might transition from male to female in prison. While Manning’s case itself is complicated, the question of what kind of…

By: Avory Faucette / August 22, 2013

The Soapbox: In (Reluctant) Defense of Dr. Phil

I never thought I’d write an article under that title but here goes. Earlier this week, Dr. Phil asked over Twitter: "If a girl is drunk, is it alright to have sex with her?" The Twittersphere overwhelmingly answered "No," calling Dr. Phil a “moron,” “asshole” and “rape apologist,” among other things. I don't doubt the possibility…

By: Melissa Petro / August 22, 2013

The Soapbox: Is “Orange Is The New Black” Entertainment Or Education?

Everybody has feelings about Jenji Kohan’s "Orange is the New Black." I have all the feelings. Since the show’s debut, we’ve tossed opinions back-and-forth about the cast of characters and the powerfully written narratives that reveal the unseen lives of American’s imprisoned women. But of the many conversations that have surfaced, the most discernible for…

By: Shanelle Matthews / August 20, 2013

The Soapbox: Quit Stereotyping Teen Moms

I started dating Trent when I was 18 and he was 21. Three dates in, I was hooked. We spent all our free time together, going for drives out in the country, watching the latest movies or just sitting around talking. We were also having the copious amounts of sex you would expect from a…

By: Chandra Burks / August 15, 2013

The Soapbox: On #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen; Feminism Is Not Black And White

The Internet exploded in feminist calamity yesterday over the racist, sexist, patriarchal, abuse-laden behavior of Hugo Schwyzer, an allegedly a self-described* mentally ill (former) professor of women's studies at Pasadena City College. Schwyzer divulged information that is classically tucked away behind the buttressed walls of systemic white privilege. Anecdotally, it’s akin to the ENRON scandal, the…

By: Shanelle Matthews / August 13, 2013

The Soapbox: Natural Hair, Like Recycling, Is Not A Lifestyle Choice For Everyone

For the last several years, natural hair "trends" have been on the rise for African-American and other women in the U.S. Just last week, Oprah graced the cover of O Magazine donning an enormous Afro, much bigger than the one she wore in the late '70s when she first started on primetime. Oprah’s gesture pay…

By: Shanelle Matthews / August 12, 2013
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