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The Soapbox: What Do Most Rampage Killers Have In Common? They’re Men

Society must take a more bold stand against male violence. More »


The Soapbox: When Black Children Aren’t Welcome In White Spaces

Many a Black child has that moment when they learn that certain White spaces are off limits to them. That not only are such spaces unwelcoming, but they can possibly be dangerous. The Black teenagers who attempted to attend a pool party on the White side of the town of McKinney, Texas, learned that lessonMore »


The Soapbox: On All The Male Tears Being Shed Over “Mad Max: Fury Road”

“Mad Max: Fury Road” will go down in history as the movie that flushed all of the roosters out of the hen nest. George Miller did a brilliant job with everything from cinematography, to score, to flipping the typical action blockbuster plot structure on its head. He created the most bewitching two-hour car chase anyone… More »


The Soapbox: Professional Sports Doesn’t Care About Women

On Tuesday, the New York Liberty—resident WNBA team at Madison Square Garden—announced that Isiah Thomas would be coming on board as president and part-owner of the team.If that name sounds familiar, it should: Thomas has a long history in basketball, albeit not a glorious once since he transitioned from playing on teams to coaching and… More »


The Soapbox: Floyd Mayweather’s Victory Championed Domestic Abuse (And The Media Is Partially To Blame)

As Floyd Mayweather climbed the ring-side ropes to proclaim his victory in front of the cheering MGM Grand crowd of America’s most influential people, the media snapped photos that will capture the first moment of what will go down in history as the most expensive fight in history. Live television panned to a shot of… More »


The Soapbox: Justice Is No Longer An Option, It Is A Necessity

Prosecutors have found probable cause to rule Freddie Gray’s death a homicide, with the six officers involved in his death being hit with charges ranging from misconduct to manslaughter to 2nd degree depraved heart murder. The announcement was made this morning by Baltimore state attorney, Marilyn J. Mosby, who said the officers intentionally put the young man… More »


The Soapbox: On Nick Loeb & His Whiny Demand For Ex Sofia Vergara’s Frozen Embryos

Sofia Vergara’s ex-fiancé is determined to get the last word on the whole frozen embryo fiasco. To recap: Back when actress Sofia Vergara and Nick Loeb were engaged, they had embryos created out of her eggs and his sperm. Two viable embryos were then frozen for possible future use. When they split, Vergara wanted nothing… More »


The Soapbox: On Laverne Cox’s Nude Photo Spread & Meghan Murphy’s Transphobia

Laverne Cox graced Allure’s annual “Nudes” issue with a picture that is so honest in its emotion and raw in its beauty I damn near cried looking at it. She admits her insecurities and ultimately decided to shrug them off and have the mac ‘n’ cheese she was craving the night before the shoot. That’s… More »


The Soapbox: My Bindi Is Not Your Bindi

I’ve realized that there’s a rather marked difference in being proud of your culture, and having ownership over it. Both are important and necessary, but for 20-some odd years, my culture was something that happened to me, but only in the last seven years has it actually become mine.More »


The Soapbox: We Can’t Address Poverty Until We Listen To People Who Are Living It

I’ve gotten a lot of feedback about last Friday’s article on Gwyneth Paltrow and the Food Bank Challenge. From that feedback I’ve learned a lot of useful things, like that the $29-per-week allocation is supposed to be for three people; you aren’t allowed to buy prepared food on SNAP in Illinois, Ohio, and I assume… More »


The Soapbox: How We Talk About Consent Absolutely Matters

How we talk about consent absolutely matters. How we talk about it in private conversations, in academia, in public discourse — all matters.

So for ELLE to publish an essay attacking “Yes Means Yes” policies — and during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, no less — is unconscionable even if it is penned by a… More »


The Soapbox: What TIME Gets All Wrong About “Pretty Woman,” Prostitution & Sex Trafficking

A journalist from Time.com contacted me yesterday for a quote that ultimately appeared in an article that irresponsibly conflates sex work and sex trafficking. In recognition of the 25th anniversary of the film, “Pretty Woman,” the writer told me she was gathering what former sex workers— not victims of sexual exploitation, mind you — think… More »


The Soapbox: There Is No Justification For An Adult Raping A Minor

When I read an article (via Facebook) about a 23-year-old man being charged with the rape of a 12-year-old girl, after being caught by the child’s mother engaging in sexual acts in the back of his car, I knew it would be a mistake to scroll down to the comments section. I anticipated… More »


The Soapbox: Sheryl Sandberg’s #LeanInTogether Campaign Erases My Family

Sheryl Sandberg’s new #LeanInTogether campaign makes me want to lean out and run as far away as I can from her brand of “feminism” as fast as my feet will carry me.

 

The COO of Facebook’s latest op-ed for The New York Times — “How Men Can Succeed in the Boardroom and the Bedroom,”More »


The Soapbox: Here’s Why Closing The Gender Wage Gap Is A White Feminist Issue

Patricia Arquette’s words, problematic though they may be, were merely an entry point to a much-need conversation about wage inequality. It is up to us to expand on and continue the conversation she attempted to begin. So let’s go ahead and do that. More »


The Soapbox: Katy Perry’s Halftime Show Was Everything It Should Have Been

The annual Super Bowl is an homage to all things American, like male athleticism, geographically-based loyalty, bar food and corporate sponsors. The event also bookends one of the musical events of the year, the halftime show to end all halftime shows. The show is always a spectacle, speaking to both the limitless budget of the… More »


The Soapbox: “American Sniper” Isn’t Really A Film About War

A Republican yahoo made a movie about a Navy SEAL during the Iraq Occupation, and apparently no one foresaw that it would be a total shitshow that would send this country into online hysterics. Clint Eastwood is a man who accused an invisible Obama, alighting upon an empty stool, of being “absolutely crazy” at the… More »


The Soapbox: On Sex Addiction, Sex Work & The Wall Street Intern Who Quit Her Job To Pursue Porn

Last week, a Wall Street intern quit her job to pursue porn. Paige Jennings, who goes by Veronica Vain, was working at an Lazard’s alternative-investments marketing group in New York when she “quit [Wall Street] before it fired me” (according to her Twitter page) after it was discovered she was tweeting nude selfies… More »


The Soapbox: On The Sacrifices Expected Of Immigrant Nannies

I have a deep-seated resentment of White parents who specifically hire Black immigrant women or people of color as nannies. Whenever I go to the park or take a stroll through New York City on any day of the work week and see large groups of Black or minority women pushing strollers with… More »


The Soapbox: Let’s Get Real When Discussing Complicated Sexual Experiences

There’s been a lot of talk lately in the media about sexual violence. Late last month, former CBC Broadcaster Jian Ghomeshi was fired amid allegations of sexual assault. A few weeks ago, Shia LaBeouf came forward with claims that he was raped during an art exhibition. And by now everyone’s heard of the sex abuse… More »


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