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Girl Talk: Fat Girls Are A Man’s Best Friend

He Told Me To Lose Weight
When he told me to lose weight, I got rid of him. Read More »
Fat And White?
Is "fat and white" the new "sassy and black" in Hollywood? Read More »
Bikini Thoughts
The things that freak me out when I think about myself in a bikini. Read More »
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Years ago, I had a conversation with a group of my close male friends and the age old question came up: Can men and women really be just friends? My boy Otto said, “No way! Guys always want to sleep with their female friends.” My friend Steve interjected, “Of course! I have a platonic female friends and I love them to death.” But then my friend Yorell said, “Yes, men can have platonic female friends, but only with women that are unattractive. If she’s pretty, there is no way you can be just her friend. That doesn’t mean it’s not a genuine friendship, but if you get the opportunity to smash, you will. Unless … she’s ugly.” Keep reading »

The Soapbox: The Election Is Over But I’m Still Scared

"Pro-Life" No More
How one woman lost faith in the pro-life movement. Read More »
Politicians On Rape
A handy guide to what various old white conservatives have said. Read More »

Originally appeared on Role/Reboot. Republished here with permission.

It’s over.

For a while, I managed to hold it together. There was pie to eat and wine to drink and a couch to sink gratefully into. There were friends to laugh with and sigh with, dishes to clean up, and an 8am meeting on my calendar to shake my fist at. There were distractions galore.

Around midnight Tuesday night, when my friends trickled out of the apartment, yawning, and I was alone again, I stretched out on the couch for the long wait. I remember how I felt in 2008 watching Obama’s acceptance speech, and I wanted that feeling again. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Phil From “Modern Family” And Doofus Husband Syndrome

Life Lessons From TV Moms
Oh, Tami Taylor, you taught us so much! Read More »
Ann On "Modern Family"
Ann Romney's fave show is "Modern Family," despite the gays. Read More »

“Modern Family” is one of the few shows on TV right now that makes me genuinely laugh out loud every episode. I adore all of the characters, their weird quirks, and increasingly absurd story arcs. From the beginning, if I had to choose a favorite character it would probably be Phil. A talented real estate agent, dorky father of three, and loving husband of Claire, I always felt like Phil was a unique male character in the primetime sitcom landscape. On the surface, he seemed like a stereotypical goofy dad who is only slightly more mature than his pre-adolescent children, but as I kept watching, I realized he possessed depth, intelligence, and warmth. Was he immature on the surface? Yes, but there was more going on underneath, and because of that, he was lovable and real.

This season though, something has changed. I’ve noticed that while Phil is still hilarious, he’s lost some of the layers of complexity, and I’m afraid I might soon have to diagnose him with the dreaded Doofus Husband Syndrome… Keep reading »

The Soapbox: How I Lost Faith In The Pro-Life Movement

I Had An Abortion
A mother writes about choosing to have an abortion. Read More »
Free BC, Fewer Abortions
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Free birth control means fewer abortions, says study. Read More »
Abortion Rights
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All of The Frisky's posts about reproductive rights. Read More »

This piece was originally published at Patheos.com and is being reprinted with permission.

The spring of my sophomore year of college I was president of my university’s Students for Life chapter. The fall of my junior year of college I cut my ties with the pro-life movement. Five years later I have lost the last shred of faith I had in that movement. This is my story. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Please, Can “Hipster Sexism” Not Be A Thing?

Lena's Muslim Tweet
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Oooh, that was a poor life choice, Lena Dunham. Read More »
Is Chivalry Sexist?
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Is being a gentleman actually really sexist? Read More »
Frisky Sexism
All of The Frisky's posts about sexism. Read More »

I have very mixed feelings about a piece on NYMag.com’s blog about “hipster sexism.” The authors Alissa Quart and Lauren Sandler author Alissa Quart described “hipster sexism” as:

Hipster Sexism consists of the objectification of women but in a manner that uses mockery, quotation marks, and paradox … ads, photographs, television shows, films, and T-shirts, which represent young women being defined, but always ironically — with a wink and a nod — by their sexuality and/or bodies.

Old Sexists (or Classic Sexists), they explain, are Republicans in Congress — people my parents’ age — whose outdated beliefs about gender and sexuality could be attributed to just not getting with the times. Hipster sexists “should know better,” the authors write, but don’t, and try to pass it off as funny and/or ironic.

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The Soapbox: On Disney’s First Latina Princess

America On Racism
She was once asked to wear "whiteface" in a role. Read More »
Can't Date Outside My Race
Dennis doesn't date outside his race because his race won't date him. Read More »
Mindy's Race Jokes
The Mindy Project
"The Mindy Project" makes some squicky jokes about race. Read More »
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“Disney is releasing a Latina princess soon, mija,” I declared to my daughter as we drove away from her school and on our way to pick up her dad. “Good!” she said firmly. But of course, I rarely let that be the end of any conversation. “Why good?” I probed.

What followed was a discussion of how we both recognized that Latinas deserve a princess that looks like them — this is despite the fact that my husband and I worked hard to minimize “the princess effect” in our home. Princesses were far from banned. Rather we opted for a different approach: we emphasize strong princesses like Leia, Wonder Woman and Xena (not a real princess, but warrior princesses counted). I also would bring up real-life princesses who did good in the world whenever I could. Oh, the way I used to bring up Princess Diana and Queen Noor! Goodness. We also discussed the strong traits of the Disney princess kingdom: Ariel was adventurous, Belle loved to read and Rapunzel knew how to wield a cast-iron skillet. As you can see, we aren’t anti-Princess, but we are anti-”I’m a pretty-princess waiting for a prince to save me.” Keep reading »

The Soapbox: No, Nickelodeon, Mothers Do Not Need Our Own TV Channel

Jessica Valenti Q&A
The author of "Why Have Kids" explores parenting and happiness. Read More »
Helicopter Parents
"Helicopter parents" versus "free range moms." Read More »
Soapbox: Mommy Wars
Calling a ceasefire on the mommy wars, because it helps no one. Read More »

I’m a TV junkie. Once my kid finally falls asleep, you’ll find me splayed out on the couch, flipping through the over 800 channels we apparently subscribe to. And my tastes run rampant: I’m just as happy sitting through an hour of “Alphas” on the Syfy channel as I am watching Barry’s antics on “Storage Wars” or crossing my fingers for a “Charmed” marathon on TNT. I DVR “30 Rock” to watch each week as well as the latest episode of “Top Chef.” Truly, there is very little I won’t watch.

Oh, except Nickelodeon’s new channel for moms, NickMom. You probably won’t find me watching that anytime soon, despite being a mom. On October 1st, NickJr — a channel originally created to provide age-appropriate programming for preschool children — began airing a block of nighttime programming “just for moms.” When I heard the news, I started wondering what I, a self-professed TV fiend and mom, was lacking from my already jam-packed television watching schedule.  Keep reading »

The Soapbox: It’s Kids’ Options For Halloween Costumes That Are Truly Scary

Sexy Food Costumes
Food Halloween Costumes
Maybe you've gone the edible route this Halloween. Read More »
Baby Golden Girl
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It's a baby Sophia Petrillo! Read More »
Halloween!
Everything you need for a spooktastic Halloween. Read More »

I’ve always loved Halloween. The candy, the Jack-O-Lanterns, the parties, and of course, the costumes. I’m no stranger to awesome Halloween costumes. I’ve been everything from a box of crayons (four-years-old) to a genie (10-years-old) to Britney Spears pre-public meltdown (27-years-old, while eight months pregnant — it was a truly brilliant costume if I say so myself).

One thing I love about Halloween is the ability for both kids and adults to play pretend for an evening. One thing I don’t love about it, however, is that if you lack the time/desire/sewing skills to scour Pinterest and create a homemade costume, your choices for children are sadly limited. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Does Street Harassment Keep You From Exercising?

Street Harassment
How do you respond? Read More »
Makeup At The Gym
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Do you put makeup on before working out at the gym? Read More »
Perv Problems
How do you stop a pervert from rampant perv-ing? Read More »

When most people think about street harassment, they think about what women wear or about how women should respond to catcalls. But there are other, more subtle, effects of street harassment and how it affects women’s existence in public space. Recently, The Wall Street Journal noted that only 11 percent of the participants in India’s Delhi Half Marathon were female and one of the reasons they gave for why women in India don’t run is the “stares and calls from drivers, cyclists and pedestrians.” In other words, women don’t go outside to exercise when they live in fear of street harassment. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: About That Politician Who Said “Some Girls Rape Easy”…

Wishes Of Rape
Why wishing rape upon rapists is not OK. Read More »
Akin's Rape Science
Rep. Todd Akin says "legitimate rape victims" don't get pregnant. Read More »
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »

A funny thing can happen in politics: You make a comment and it might come back to bite you weeks, months, or even years later. That’s what just happened to Representative Roger Rivard of the Wisconsin legislature, who’s found himself in a very tight race with a Democratic opponent, which means the gloves are off when it comes to digging up dirt.

Some rather nasty comments he made about rape 10 months ago are suddenly in the national spotlight while they passed without a ripple originally, illustrating how in politics, you’re never truly safe from your past. Keep reading »

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