Posts tagged "the soapbox"

The Soapbox: Why I Hate Weddings, Like Really Hate Them, A Lot

I recently stumbled on the video of a bride singing Christina Aguilera’s “The Right Man” while she walked down the aisle, and I reacted so strongly that I startled myself. The video opened up a cavern of emotion that, while I knew it was there, went deeper than I realized. And that emotion was repugnance.

Alexandra Gekas / June 26, 2012

The Soapbox: Let’s Stop With This “Having It All” Crap

Hey guys? As a woman, and a feminist and a working person, I can honestly say I’ve never asked if I was going to “have it all.” But Anne Marie Slaughter’s Atlantic cover article about women’s continuing fight to win both the brass ring of family and work seems to have opened up this old…

Julie Gerstein / June 22, 2012

In (Reluctant) Defense Of “Why You’re Not Married … Yet”

I’m going to say something as a feminist ladyblogger that I suspect I’m not supposed to say: Why You’re Not Married … Yet: The Straight Talk You Need To Get The Relationship You Deserve, by Tracy McMillan, actually isn’t a terrible book.

Oh, it has some problematic aspects — and I’ll get to…

Jessica Wakeman / June 21, 2012

The Soapbox: The Truth About Being A Stay-At-Home Mom

I just had the extreme displeasure of reading Elizabeth Wurtzel’s essay for The Atlantic, about how rich stay-at-home moms are “anti-feminist and helping make the ‘war on women’ possible.”  In the opener, Wurtzel says that she wants to “smack the next woman who says that raising her children full time—and by that means going to…

Gillian Telling / June 21, 2012

The Soapbox: On Feminism & Judging Other Women

It was easy to roll one’s eyes at Elizabeth Wurtzel’s recent piece on TheAtlantic.com, “1 Percent Wives Are Helping To Kill Feminism And Make The War On Women Possible.” Although I understand the point Wurtzel was trying to make (educated women who don’t advance in the workforce and financially support themselves/their families are bad for…

Jessica Wakeman / June 19, 2012

The Soapbox: On Cat Marnell & Rubbernecking Drug Addicts

If you’ve been hanging out in the ladyblogosphere, you’ve heard of Cat Marnell. Or maybe you know her as “Cat Marnell, ugh.” Cat Marnell was — until last week — the health/beauty editor at xoJane. More pertinently, though, she was an open, unabashed, self-described “pillhead” who frequently wrote about her drug use and abuse online.

Jessica Wakeman / June 18, 2012

The Soapbox: I Am Not Here For Your Viewing Pleasure

The misting of her eyes almost completely distracted me from the words coming out of her mouth. As we stood side by side, overlooking a magnificent skyline view of twinkling skyscrapers, she told me her summer in Manhattan was not what she had been expecting. I knew something was very wrong when my strong-willed, outgoing…

Daley Quinn / June 13, 2012

The Soapbox: On School Dress Codes And Slutty Wednesday At Stuyvesant High School

By now you’ve probably heard of the prestigious New York City high school that protested what they perceive as a discriminatory dress code by instituting a “Slutty Wednesday”—a day in which students came to school in outfits that deliberately violated the code. According to news reports, the school’s dress code is pretty basic. It require…

Melissa Petro / June 12, 2012

The Soapbox: In Defense Of Brian Presley (Or Why Melissa Stetten Comes Off Like The Jerk For Live-Tweeting Their Conversation)

On a recent red eye from New York to Los Angeles, model Melissa Stetten sat next to actor Brian Presley and live-tweeted their conversation to approximately 30,000 followers. What ensued was little less than the public humiliation of a husband and father for, among other heinous crimes, allegedly flirting with her and having too much…

Alexandra Gekas / June 11, 2012

The Soapbox: Since When Is Wanting An Intellectually Equal Partner “Elitist”?

I am fan of GOOD’s dating dealbreaker series (eerily similar to ours, but whatever) because I think it does a good job of looking back on past failed relationships and identifying the reason(s)  things just didn’t work out. Sometimes these dealbreakers can seem insignificant on the surface, but actual indicate a larger problem; other time…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / June 7, 2012

The Soapbox: Leave Lolo Jones And Her Virginity Alone!

I have to respectfully disagree with Alexandra Gekas’ recent Soapbox excoriating Olympic hurdler Lolo Jones for considering her virginity “a gift I want to give my husband.” Taking Jones to task for how she’s decided to pursue her sexuality strikes me as yet another way to be holier-than-thou, through a feminist lens, almost the opposite of…

Rachel Kramer Bussel / June 1, 2012

The Soapbox: Why Lolo Jones’ Reason For Staying A Virgin Infuriates Me

In a recent interview on HBO’s “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel,” 29-year-old American hurdler Lolo Jones told Mary Carillo that Olympic qualifying is nowhere near as difficult as her struggle to remain a virgin until marriage. Jones said she publicized her vow of chastity because she wants other girls who have made the same decisio…

Alexandra Gekas / May 29, 2012

The Soapbox: Why We Can’t Resist An A-Hole

If I hadn’t witnessed it with my own eyes, I never would have believed it. My friends and I stumbled into a crowded bar for some after-dinner drinks one night and, within 30 minutes, my friend Aaron had the waitress’s phone number. Not that surprising since Aaron is a tall, good-looking guy who always seem…

Kate Richlin-Zack / May 24, 2012

The Soapbox: I Want A Ceasefire On The Mommy Wars

Here it is. The latest in the “mommy wars.”

Because everything is a war these days, it seems. Yesterday, we were talking about the “war on obesity.” I even heard that Obama declared “war on marriage.” So “war” means “having a different opinion.” Or possibly “wanting equal rights.” In a moment, it might…

Kate Fridkis / May 15, 2012

The Soapbox: Attachment Parenting Is The Lazy Mama’s Secret

When you become a parent, one of the first things that you will learn is that everyone has an opinion about the way you choose to parent. From friends, family, your doctor, to strangers in line at the grocery store, everyone will impart their own unsolicited brand of wisdom — usually by telling you what

Avital Norman Nathman / May 10, 2012

The Soapbox: Whither The Manic Pixie Dream Guy?

It happened to one of us, ladies. Let’s let her tell it: “A handsome man with tousled hair and an aversion to commitment showed up at my door, suitcase in hand, seeking shelter from the storm. (Okay, he’d called beforehand, but still.) We had a two-day romance — he played music, I wore a dress,…

The Soapbox: Can TV Spare Some Change? A Token Negro, Perhaps?

I have never watched HBO’s new show “Girls.”  Not because I don’t want to — I’m actually excited to see a new female-centered TV show that allows actresses to play rich and diverse characters.  But unfortunately, the current role I play in real life, that of a struggling comic/actress, does not afford me the opportunity…

Erica Watson / May 3, 2012

The Soapbox: On Jessica Simpson, Fat-Shaming & Reclaiming The Word “Fat”

Fat-shaming. Maybe it’s happened to you, or maybe you’ve perpetrated it against someone else. Fat-shaming is making people feel uncomfortable, wrong or bad for being overweight or obese. Some fat-shamers will tell you that they’re doing it as a means of encouraging the overweight person to lose weight, but most, oh, sane people will argue…

Julie Gerstein / May 2, 2012

The Soapbox: In America, We Treat Our Moms Like Second-Class Citizens

Are you a mother? Do you know someone who is? You probably do, and that’s why you should be very concerned about Alabama’s chemical endangerment clause, which aims to protect fetuses from mothers who abuse drugs. Alabama’s law — and others like it — signify a wave of legislation aimed at granting fetuses more rights

Julie Gerstein / May 1, 2012

The Soapbox: On Online Dating, The Genders & The Spreadsheet That Launched 1,000 Blog Posts

Last week, The Frisky told you about the New York banker who was charting the waves of Match.com and came up with a novel way to keep the women he was talking to on the site straight—he made a spreadsheet of the eight women he was corresponding with. He included their name, a photo, his initial…

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