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The Soapbox: Oh Please, Pinterest Isn’t “Killing” Feminism

My name is Amelia. I am a feminist. I also have a Pinterest account. If a recent lengthy piece on Buzzfeed (wait, Buzzfeed does “lengthy”?) is to be believed, these two things are antithetical. According to Amy Odell, the editor over at Buzzfeed’s lifestyle vertical, Shift, Pinterest is “killing feminism.” So, as a feminist who uses… More »


The Soapbox: In Defense Of Dr. Drew (Or Why Finding Fault Is Not The Answer)

I have something to say to my lady blogger friends who write about domestic violence. Please tread more carefully with your words, and please don’t be so sure you know what you’re talking about. Unless you a) have been in an abusive relationship or b) are a professional who is trained to treat people in… More »


The Soapbox: In Response To Lady Gaga And Her Proposed “Body Revolution”

I have vilified Lady Gaga in the past (to much condemnation, given her rabid fanbase): the contrived, weird-for-attention shtick really wears on me, particularly considering it comes hand-in-hand with what basically amounts to catchy, radio-friendly pop music with a pseudo-controversial religious message here and there. I can live with her message of peace, love, and… More »


Girl Talk: Why I’m An Out And Proud Bisexual

Let me tell you a story about “bi invisibility.” A few years ago, at my first full-time job – which, I should clarify, was at an LGBT nonprofit organization – I was chatting with a gay male co-worker about a conversation he had with an acquaintance of ours. Apparently I had come up in their… More »


The Soapbox: Why Choosing Your Baby’s Sex Is Gambling On Gender Stereotypes

There are many in Western society that seem to band together anytime the subject of sex-selective abortion in foreign countries comes up. It’s a tricky topic, especially for those of us who favor unfettered abortion access. Outrage and incomprehension over aborting female fetuses in favor of males is usually the default response, with many claiming… More »


The Soapbox: Why You Shouldn’t Intern At Anthropologie

My relationship with Anthropologie is love-hate. I love the company’s handpicked, one-of-a-kind eclectic look. I hate the fact that my loving this stuff only underscores the fact that I am in no way unique and that I have been corporate-brainwashed just like the rest of you ladies who just can’t get enough pencil skirts, ruffled… More »


The Soapbox: On Rupert Everett & Having Gay Parents

The actor Rupert Everett, who is gay, believes children should have a “mother and a father.”

My father, who is also gay, shared the same beliefs. So did my gay mother. So did my gay father-in-law. So, in fact, did the Christopher Plummer character in “Beginners.”

But can it be true that… More »


The Soapbox: Why I Don’t Have Pubic Hair

When my life overwhelms me – which, as an introverted entrepreneur and mother, is often – I try to escape to the one place that I know no one will speak to me, The Korean Day Spa. I spend the entire day there, soaking, steaming, sweating, and watching the glorious variety of women move through… More »


The Soapbox: On Wishing Rape Upon Rapists

I was horrified to read this week that a 73-year-old woman was raped in broad daylight in Central Park.

Read that again, let it sink in: a 73-year-old woman was raped in broad daylight in Central Park.

According to news reports, the woman goes to Central Park every day and sits on… More »


The Soapbox: A Black Mom-in-Chief Is Revolutionary — What White Feminists Get Wrong About Michelle Obama

It does my heart good to see women of all races embrace Michelle Obama. It is too rare indeed for a brown-skinned woman, a descendant of slaves, a product of Chicago’s South Side to be lauded on an international stage. Considering the heavy burden of stereotype still faced by black women, I cheer a little… More »


The Soapbox: Breastfeeding Professor Brings Sick Baby To Class, Heads Explode

At this point, I’m absolutely over the phrase “having it all.” It’s been beaten to death, taken out of context, used as link bait, etc… And I’m over it. I’m mostly over it because it’s a convoluted concept. “Having it all” doesn’t have one universal definition and it is something we only lord over the… More »


The Soapbox: In Marriage Equality, Three Shouldn’t Be A Crowd

When a public notary in Sao Paulo, Brazil, authorized a civil union between one man and two women, neither she nor the triad expected to make headlines. Now, three months after their three-way relationship was formalized, it has become an international news story with flashy headlines like “‘Big Love’ In Brazil.” The members of the… More »


The Soapbox: Fall’s Most Controversial New Show Is “Elementary”

CBS’s new fall show “Elementary” has not even premiered yet, but already nerds everywhere are boycotting it. Why would people write off this modern retelling of the Sherlock Holmes story starring Lucy Liu and Jonny Lee Miller so soon?

There are a bunch of (not very good) reasons. … More »


The Soapbox: In Comedy Is “Fat & White” The New “Sassy & Black”?

I was recently contacted through my website by a pregnant black woman who inquired about hiring me to perform standup at her baby shower. She and her husband were diehard comedy fans, and thought it would be fun to have a comic perform for their guests.

“How did you find me?” I asked. More »


The Soapbox: For F#$%’s Sake, Fat People Need To Go To The Doctor Too

As some of you may have noticed, I’m really rather fat. I mention it only because it’s relevant — it has a significant impact on my life; people treat me differently because I am fat.

Or, in some cases, refuse to treat me. Which is what happened recently to Ida Davidson, who was turned… More »


The Soapbox: “Dr. Who” Has A Lady Problem

To say that I am a fan of the British sci-fi show “Doctor Who” would be and understatement.  Not only do I have “DW” viewing parties at my apartment, I own a sonic screwdriver, I’ve eaten fish fingers and custard (a “DW” inside joke), I waited for hours to get a glimpse of the show’s… More »


The Soapbox: The Problem With The Anti-Abortion Movement’s “Rape Exception”

This weekend, a Missouri Congressman and Senate candidate, Todd Akin, infuriated people everywhere when he claimed that victims of “legitimate rape” do not become pregnant. He was explaining his belief that abortion should be outlawed even in cases of rape. Apparently, Akin believes that the female body has ways to “shut that whole thing down,” More »


The Soapbox: Is Hollywood Still Colorstruck? The Search For Nina Simone Is Skin Deep

When the big news was announced last week that Zoe Saldana would be playing singer Nina Simone in a biopic, black cyberspace (yes, there is a “black Twitter” and a “black Facebook”) let out a collective “Oh, hell to the naw”!

For some it was because they did not believe that Zoe had… More »


The Soapbox: Black Men, Is Chad Ochocinco Your Hero?

Chadvelyn, LosOcho and OchoSado: those were the three hybrid names that I came up with for my favorite reality TV couple, Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson and Evelyn Lozada. But after only six weeks of marriage, the beautiful sounds of wedded bliss and the hoopla surrounding their much anticipated reality show have been silenced by the head-buttMore »


The Soapbox: In Defense Of “Here Comes Honey Boo Boo”

It took me all of 10 seconds to fall madly in love with “Here Comes Honey Boo Boo,” the “Toddlers and Tiaras” spin-off about Alana Thompson, the 6-year-old pageant hopeful known for her one-liners and love of Go-Go-Juice, and her self-described redneck family. While I was already enamored with Alana after seeing her on “Toddlers… More »


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