Posts tagged "the soapbox"

The Soapbox: Yes, Women Writers Without Kids “Understand Human Emotions”

The death of Irish novelist Maeve Binchy earlier this week has inspired a lot of articles, most of them warm tributes to her kind heart, quick wit, and writing ability.

British novelist Amanda Craig took a different tack.

In a piece published today by The Telegraph, she wonders whether Binchy might have been a…

By: Diane Shipley / August 3, 2012

The Soapbox: Rapists Know The Answer Is “No”

Despite endless work by anti-sexual violence activists trying to change the narrative, the myth persists that rapists —at least so-called “date rapists” — are men who got a little out of control with lust one night and accidentally went too far. It doesn’t help that this is the story that we usually hear on those…

By: Amanda Marcotte / July 27, 2012

The Soapbox: The Aurora Shooting & The Myth Of Men’s Obligation To Be Heroes

In the days, weeks and months following a national tragedy, myths settle into our national consciousness. Myths are not falsehoods, per se. Rather, myths are the stories that we repeat to explain a complex and unnerving topic and make sense of the confusion — to label something “good” and “evil,” to finger the “bad guy”…

By: Jessica Wakeman / July 25, 2012

The Soapbox: Hey, Patricia Legarreta, Seriously, Don’t Marry Jamie Rohrs

It is usually not my style to meddle in other people’s relationships, but I’ve got to join the chorus of those advising — in internet comment sections, duh — Patricia Lagarreta not to marry Jamie Rohrs. Legarreta, Rohrs, and their two kids were among those at the midnight showing of “The Dark Knight Rises” i…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / July 23, 2012

The Soapbox: Some Friendly Advice For That 22-Year-Old Girl Who Wishes She Was Poorer

Some thoughts for Taylor Cotter (the 22-year-old girl who wrote about wishing she could be poorer on the Huffington Post):

Right now things kinda suck. I know. You wrote an oblivious-sounding piece about how you kind of wished you were getting the chance to be poor and scrappy in your 20s, like artistic…

By: Kate Fridkis / July 16, 2012

The Soapbox: Why Working 24 Hours A Day Should Not Be A Badge Of Honor

I have been working in the tech start-up and digital advertising agency worlds for the past six years. These two worlds overlap in a few places—namely social media and the uncertainty of being able to pay their staff in six months. But there is another area where I have seen a commonality so real it…

By: Caitlin Abber / July 6, 2012

The Soapbox: Why I Hate Weddings, Like Really Hate Them, A Lot

I recently stumbled on the video of a bride singing Christina Aguilera’s “The Right Man” while she walked down the aisle, and I reacted so strongly that I startled myself. The video opened up a cavern of emotion that, while I knew it was there, went deeper than I realized. And that emotion was repugnance.

By: Alexandra Gekas / June 26, 2012

The Soapbox: Let’s Stop With This “Having It All” Crap

Hey guys? As a woman, and a feminist and a working person, I can honestly say I’ve never asked if I was going to “have it all.” But Anne Marie Slaughter’s Atlantic cover article about women’s continuing fight to win both the brass ring of family and work seems to have opened up this old…

By: Julie Gerstein / June 22, 2012

In (Reluctant) Defense Of “Why You’re Not Married … Yet”

I’m going to say something as a feminist ladyblogger that I suspect I’m not supposed to say: Why You’re Not Married … Yet: The Straight Talk You Need To Get The Relationship You Deserve, by Tracy McMillan, actually isn’t a terrible book.

Oh, it has some problematic aspects — and I’ll get to…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 21, 2012

The Soapbox: The Truth About Being A Stay-At-Home Mom

I just had the extreme displeasure of reading Elizabeth Wurtzel’s essay for The Atlantic, about how rich stay-at-home moms are “anti-feminist and helping make the ‘war on women’ possible.”  In the opener, Wurtzel says that she wants to “smack the next woman who says that raising her children full time—and by that means going to…

By: Gillian Telling / June 21, 2012

The Soapbox: On Feminism & Judging Other Women

It was easy to roll one’s eyes at Elizabeth Wurtzel’s recent piece on TheAtlantic.com, “1 Percent Wives Are Helping To Kill Feminism And Make The War On Women Possible.” Although I understand the point Wurtzel was trying to make (educated women who don’t advance in the workforce and financially support themselves/their families are bad for…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 19, 2012

The Soapbox: On Cat Marnell & Rubbernecking Drug Addicts

If you’ve been hanging out in the ladyblogosphere, you’ve heard of Cat Marnell. Or maybe you know her as “Cat Marnell, ugh.” Cat Marnell was — until last week — the health/beauty editor at xoJane. More pertinently, though, she was an open, unabashed, self-described “pillhead” who frequently wrote about her drug use and abuse online.

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 18, 2012

The Soapbox: I Am Not Here For Your Viewing Pleasure

The misting of her eyes almost completely distracted me from the words coming out of her mouth. As we stood side by side, overlooking a magnificent skyline view of twinkling skyscrapers, she told me her summer in Manhattan was not what she had been expecting. I knew something was very wrong when my strong-willed, outgoing…

By: Daley Quinn / June 13, 2012

The Soapbox: On School Dress Codes And Slutty Wednesday At Stuyvesant High School

By now you’ve probably heard of the prestigious New York City high school that protested what they perceive as a discriminatory dress code by instituting a “Slutty Wednesday”—a day in which students came to school in outfits that deliberately violated the code. According to news reports, the school’s dress code is pretty basic. It require…

By: Melissa Petro / June 12, 2012

The Soapbox: In Defense Of Brian Presley (Or Why Melissa Stetten Comes Off Like The Jerk For Live-Tweeting Their Conversation)

On a recent red eye from New York to Los Angeles, model Melissa Stetten sat next to actor Brian Presley and live-tweeted their conversation to approximately 30,000 followers. What ensued was little less than the public humiliation of a husband and father for, among other heinous crimes, allegedly flirting with her and having too much…

By: Alexandra Gekas / June 11, 2012

The Soapbox: Since When Is Wanting An Intellectually Equal Partner “Elitist”?

I am fan of GOOD’s dating dealbreaker series (eerily similar to ours, but whatever) because I think it does a good job of looking back on past failed relationships and identifying the reason(s)  things just didn’t work out. Sometimes these dealbreakers can seem insignificant on the surface, but actual indicate a larger problem; other time…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / June 7, 2012

The Soapbox: Leave Lolo Jones And Her Virginity Alone!

I have to respectfully disagree with Alexandra Gekas’ recent Soapbox excoriating Olympic hurdler Lolo Jones for considering her virginity “a gift I want to give my husband.” Taking Jones to task for how she’s decided to pursue her sexuality strikes me as yet another way to be holier-than-thou, through a feminist lens, almost the opposite of…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / June 1, 2012

The Soapbox: Why Lolo Jones’ Reason For Staying A Virgin Infuriates Me

In a recent interview on HBO’s “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel,” 29-year-old American hurdler Lolo Jones told Mary Carillo that Olympic qualifying is nowhere near as difficult as her struggle to remain a virgin until marriage. Jones said she publicized her vow of chastity because she wants other girls who have made the same decisio…

By: Alexandra Gekas / May 29, 2012

The Soapbox: Why We Can’t Resist An A-Hole

If I hadn’t witnessed it with my own eyes, I never would have believed it. My friends and I stumbled into a crowded bar for some after-dinner drinks one night and, within 30 minutes, my friend Aaron had the waitress’s phone number. Not that surprising since Aaron is a tall, good-looking guy who always seem…

By: Kate Richlin-Zack / May 24, 2012

The Soapbox: I Want A Ceasefire On The Mommy Wars

Here it is. The latest in the “mommy wars.”

Because everything is a war these days, it seems. Yesterday, we were talking about the “war on obesity.” I even heard that Obama declared “war on marriage.” So “war” means “having a different opinion.” Or possibly “wanting equal rights.” In a moment, it might…

By: Kate Fridkis / May 15, 2012
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