For all the sex positive writing that I do, I’d never actually talked with someone who worked in the adult entertainment industry for a living. Like a lot of people, I just assumed they all were failed actresses and cokeheads.
That was unfair of me.
Over the summer, I met up with Ryan Keely, an adult film star, Penthouse Pet and Penthouse advice columnist, and an erotic dancer. Ryan, who is originally from Seattle, is as smart as she is beautiful; it’s clear from spending time with her that her heart lies in bringing the joy of sexuality and sensuality to others. Recently, Ryan has been teaching seminars for Porn Star Sex Life, co-founded with Josh Rosenberg, a pick-up artist who created UpYourAttraction.com. I was a little skeptical, too, of Porn Star Sex Life classes. Generally speaking, I think porn gives us stupid role models. The actors and actresses fake great sex and know how to make it look really awesome on screen. Why would we want to emulate that? But Ryan is an approachable educator: she’s had a lot of sex with a lot of partners, both men and women, both onscreen and off, and she is ashamed of nothing. “What it takes to be a porn star is you want to explore your sexuality,” she told me. “The people that are in this industry for the right reasons are people are want to take sex to the next level. We’re sexual athletes.”
I walked away from an afternoon of cake and milk with Ryan thinking, “Damn, I want this girl to be my best friend and I want to sleep with her.” After the jump, Ryan opens up about why missionary is the best sex position for women, her stance on sex positive feminism, why she hates KY Jelly, and her one-woman campaign to bust sexual taboos! Keep reading »
Before the sexual revolution happened in the ’60s and ’70s, life got bleak for pregnant teen girls really fast. You could be cast from your home and sent away to give birth in seclusion, or risk an illegal and dangerous back-alley abortion. In 2010, the pendulum has swung entirely in the opposite direction — but not necessarily in a good way. MTV allegedly pitched “Teen Mom” as a program after Jamie-Lynn Spears (Brit-Brit’s little sis) became pregnant at 16; last year, Bristol Palin made the cover of People magazine and soon she’ll be dancing with the stars, while Maci Bookout and Farah Abraham from “16 & Pregnant” grace the covers of OK! and Us Weekly with their babies as props. So it’s fair to ask if our social attitudes have swung entirely in the opposite direction, too: Does putting girls whose only claim to fame is getting knocked up while they still had a learner’s permit “glamorize” teen pregnancy? Keep reading »
Budget-conscious mommies-to-be are surely excited about Forever 21
‘s new line of maternity gear, love21maternity, which is available in Arizona, Alaska, California, Texas and Utah. Finally, cute pregnancy clothes that don’t look like a camping tent! But our friends at The Gloss noticed
something of note: Arizona, California and Texas all have high teen pregnancy
rates. A teen pregnancy counselor who spoke to CNN about the love21maternity line said that seeing maternity clothes in their stores will “desensitize” teen girls towards pregnancy. Sure, California and Texas have huge populations to begin with. But was the decision to sell maternity clothes in a store favored by teens, in places with lots of pregnant teens, a business-savvy decision? And isn’t that kind of — I dunno — icky
? Keep reading »
Lifetime Original Movies are always tabloid-y (my pops calls them “women in distress films that Mom watches”), but the upcoming flick “The Pregnancy Pact” really takes the cake. Remember a few years ago when the scandal broke that 17 teen girls at Gloucester High School in Massachusetts made a “pregnancy pact” to get knocked up and have their babies together? Remember how everyone freaked out? Then remember how the pregnant girls all agreed the media just made it up and there was no pregnancy pact?
No matter. Lifetime has made a sure-to-be-fantastic, made-for-TV movie all about it, which will air Jan. 23. Keep reading »
Here’s a unique scholarship money idea: earning cash for your empty womb! A program at University of North Carolina at Greenboro called College Bound Sisters, started by two doctorate-holding nurses, has paid teen girls one dollar per day for college if they don’t get pregnant. Keep reading »
Oh my God, look! Models—not celebrities—on the cover of a fashion magazine! And they’re black! November’s Teen Vogue published a fantastic cover story about models Chanel Iman and Jourdan Dunn, who spoke candidly about the racism in the modeling industry and the competition that results when black models feel there can only be “one black girl.” (Chanel is actually black and Korean—damn, she should have been in our biracial hotties slideshow!) The pair dished to Teen Vogue about the fashion industry’s flat-out racism:
Iman: “You’re being told, ‘So and so is only booking one black girl. It’s either you or Jourdan,’ So we’ll be sitting in the lobby looking at each other like, ‘Okay, I want this job, and she wants it too. Which one of us is going to get it?’”
Dunn: “I remember last season, I was about to go into a casting, and my agent phoned and said, ‘Turn back. They decided they don’t want any black models.’ I was like, ‘They’re actually telling you that’s the reason? Are you serious?!’”
It’d be really cool if this piece got Teen Vogue some attention. But there’s just one teeny-weeny little problem for some folks: 19-year-old Dunn is pregnant with a baby boy, due in December.
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At Port Chester High School in New York, officials have signed off on a new service that has lots of folks up in arms. They’ll now be offering free STD and pregnancy testing to any student who asks … without parental consent or notification. While many people are squirming in their seats thinking about the moral and religious implications of this decision, I gotta say woo hoo! Here’s why. Keep reading »
Last night on the season finale of “16 & Pregnant,” Dr. Drew interviewed all six of the teens who gave birth in the show’s first season (it has been picked up for a second). Five out of the six girls ended up keeping their babies to raise, but it was the girl who gave her daughter up for adoption that had the biggest impact on viewers and Dr. Drew. Catelynn (along with her boyfriend/step-brother Tyler) showed an unbelievable amount of strength and maturity in making her decision to put little Carly up for adoption, emphasizing both before giving birth, after labor, and then again on the reunion that concentrating on what was best for Carly – not her own selfish desires – gave her the strength she need to see her decision through. Keep reading »